To ask guests to take a test

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Supposed to be getting married next spring, who knows if we can go ahead as planned.

Assuming we can, would you be happy to take a covid test before attending?

If it's feasible we would like to ask all guests (and pay for them) to take test pre attending.

If it's negative obviously you can't come.

Would you think that was too much of an ask / bride and groom - zilla?

@AllPlayedOut

I'd decline. Weddings are intolerable enough without having someone ram a swab down your nose and throat in order to attend. I'd be grateful of the excuse not to go though.

^^This! As another poster said, it would be good to have the excuse to decline. 😊

Are you so hard of thinking you honestly believe that if others find it highly unpleasant and ridiculous to have a swab put way down their throat making them gag and a swab so far up their noses their eyes water to appease a hypochondriac that they just have a problem with everything?

Lol. If I wanted to go to the wedding, I would have the test if that’s what my family member or friend wanted. If I couldn’t cope with the test I wouldn’t go. It seems sensible to me and would possibly help protect me and others.

It just seems so many people suddenly can’t cope with a things like a test or wearing a mask.

We are talking about next spring so with any luck we will have a vaccine. However in the current climate I think people will just not come, the implications of a positive test can be far reaching.

If it made you feel better Op I'd have the test. I care about my family and would appreciate being on the guest list for your wedding now that so few people can attend. The test isn't wonderful, but it's not as traumatic as people make out (voice of experience).

The only situation in which I would agree to that is if the people getting married were family or very close friends and one of them was extremely high risk. Otherwise, I just wouldn't come.

What do you mean suddenly? I don't know many people who'd voluntarily have a swab inserted deep into their nasal passages and throat.

And OP has now said she won’t be asking people to have a test.

If it's negative obviously you can't come

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I think each one of your guests including the sick one needs to make their own risk assessment and decide what to do. Imagine if you convinced them it was safe because everyone had taken a test but someone then caught it after the test and passed it on or there had been a false negative. You would forever feel guilty if you had been the one to tell them it was safe

I think you'd be better off trying to protect the particularly vulnerable guest(s) by keeping them away from everyone else and limiting the time they spend at the wedding. Even if you could get everyone tested, the results aren't always accurate.

I'd see the request as an easy way to get out of going to the wedding, tbh. And maybe also see it as an intentional deterrent, like you might be trying to cut down on the number of people attending without having to outright un-invite anyone.

The test isn't wonderful, but it's not as traumatic as people make out (voice of experience).

It might not have been that bad for you, but it clearly is for others and their experiences are just as valid.

I don't know many people who'd voluntarily have a swab inserted deep into their nasal passages and throat.

Well some of them have had similar tests and medical procedures. They have also chose each winter to wear a scarf over their face in cold weather to keep warm. Now they can’t have anything over their face, it’s come over them very suddenly it seems. 🤔

I would take a test of you really wanted me too but I would think it was odd, bridzilla like, and probably wouldn't be that keen on attending. I'd like to think my friend/relative had enough confidence in me not to attend if I had symptoms of covid. What if its someone like your mum or dad who tests positive. That would be a difficult one to uninvited them, although a very sensible decision.

@nitsandwormsdodger

The test is free Shocked at so much negativity I'd happily have a test How would you police it , show the test to get in ?

The test is free because it’s for people with symptoms or who’ve been in contact with someone who has the virus

Not for weddings guests. It’s ridiculous to even consider clogging up the system with wedding guests just for the sake of it at the cost to the taxpayer

The thing is, as it stands, test results are quite quick but can take up to 72 hours..therefore you'd need to test people early enough before the wedding but people may still need to work up until the wedding. People can't just take 3 days off work to isolate.
I get your idea but it just won't work. Either postpone the wedding or go ahead and see where we are at by then.

Well I've never had such a test. I don't know anyone who routinely has and I've never put my scarf over my face even in Winter. I'd find that utterly suffocating and unbearable.

The test is free because it’s for people with symptoms or who’ve been in contact with someone who has the virus

Not for weddings guests. It’s ridiculous to even consider clogging up the system with wedding guests just for the sake of it at the cost to the taxpayer

OP said she would pay so presuming it would be private and therefore not costing the taxpayer anything.

AND OP HAS NOW SAID SHES NOT GOING AHEAD WITH TESTING AFTER READING PEOPLES OPINIONS !

Well I've never had such a test. I don't know anyone who routinely has and I've never put my scarf over my face even in Winter. I'd find that utterly suffocating and unbearable.

Well then you’re obviously not one of the people I’m talking about. 🤷🏻‍♀️

@BadTattoosAndSmellLikeBooze

I don't know many people who'd voluntarily have a swab inserted deep into their nasal passages and throat.

Well some of them have had similar tests and medical procedures. They have also chose each winter to wear a scarf over their face in cold weather to keep warm. Now they can’t have anything over their face, it’s come over them very suddenly it seems. 🤔

I have medical procedures when they’re required for medical reasons. Not to be allowed attendance into a wedding. And I don’t wear scarves over my face in the winter. Due to a traumatic experience in my past I have severe claustrophobia, and can’t even wear a scarf due to it. Not that that has anything to do with the fact that i wouldn’t have a medical test done to ensure I am permitted into a wedding that someone invited me to. I’d just decline.

@tocancel
For what is worth, I've had one - the whole thing is less than 3 seconds and really nothing to bothered by

Not so. Incredibly painful, brought tears to my eyes and made me gag. If I hadn't needed it before an operation I would have opted out.

I'd rsvp with no thanks.

@Intelinside57

If it made you feel better Op I'd have the test. I care about my family and would appreciate being on the guest list for your wedding now that so few people can attend. The test isn't wonderful, but it's not as traumatic as people make out (voice of experience).

Here's a . So morally superior to those who can't tolerate such a test unless absolutely necessary, they must just not 'care' about their family.

I had the tests like this for swine flu. I didn't find it 'traumatic' but very unpleasant.

Then my daughter became ill with cancer. I watched her gag on NG tubes over and over then gasp to breathe and be put on a vent. After that I got PTSD and have to have mega sedation to even have urgent tests I needed for my health (endoscopy). There's zero way I'd have a test like this for a wedding.

Imagine! Not everyone is like you, or me (thankfully). Voice of experience

I have medical procedures when they’re required for medical reasons. Not to be allowed attendance into a wedding.

No one would force you to have the test.

And I don’t wear scarves over my face in the winter. Due to a traumatic experience in my past I have severe claustrophobia, and can’t even wear a scarf due to it.

Then you are also not one of the people I’m talking about. I said I was talking about the people who have SUDDENLY developed a problem with having something over their face. I know quite a few.

No one would force you to have the test

Well no, as I would decline the invitation 🤷🏻‍♀️

Well no, as I would decline the invitation

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Again, OP HAS SAID SHES NO LONGER GOING AHEAD WITH TESTING ! 🤣