To ask guests to take a test

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Supposed to be getting married next spring, who knows if we can go ahead as planned.

Assuming we can, would you be happy to take a covid test before attending?

If it's feasible we would like to ask all guests (and pay for them) to take test pre attending.

If it's negative obviously you can't come.

Would you think that was too much of an ask / bride and groom - zilla?

Always grateful for a good excuse to turn down a wedding invitation!

@WorraLiberty

No point as they could be riddled with Covid after receiving the test result and even they might not know.

Not the point at all but "riddled with COVID" made me laugh a lot.

@BadTattoosAndSmellLikeBooze

Well no, as I would decline the invitation

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Again, OP HAS SAID SHES NO LONGER GOING AHEAD WITH TESTING ! 🤣

So? People are still discussing the question. Does op changing her mind mid thread close the thread down?

I know you have scrapped the idea but it wouldn't put me off attending a wedding and I would happily take the test

[quote vanitythynameisnotwoman]**@DameFanny* no - it's why I think we need better statistical reporting - of those who have* coronavirus at the time of swabbing, 30% will get a negative result.

Tbh I would OP and self isolate if I wasn't working but then my theatre colleagues have been doing so often for work so it seems pretty normal to me.[/quote]
in this case neither the statistics of the relatively high false negative or the argument that you might catch it after you’ve taken the test negate the point of taken the test.
We can’t catch every case, so we shouldn’t bother to try and catch any of them is an odd argument.

How many of the people who won’t go to the wedding if you ask for a test, are happy to go knowing that if someone did become symptomatic in the 48hrs after the wedding they’ll likely have to self-isolate for 14 days, and, depending on their management, may not get paid if they aren’t working?

So? People are still discussing the question. Does op changing her mind mid thread close the thread down?

Some people are still talking about it as if its still going ahead and getting quite worked up about it. All very dramatic when they’re not actually invited to this wedding anyway.

@RafaIsTheKingOfClay I'm absolutely not saying we shouldn't test - I think we should test as much as we can.

I'm just saying i wouldn't rely on a single test when deciding who to introduce a shielded person to.

Wowsa! I've missed a lot of responses! Just to repeat WE ARE NOT DOING THE IDEA NOW and also none of you are invited so please relax and thank you for feedback.

None of us would have accepted the invitation, but thanks for clarifying.

@BadTattoosAndSmellLikeBooze

The test is free because it’s for people with symptoms or who’ve been in contact with someone who has the virus

Not for weddings guests. It’s ridiculous to even consider clogging up the system with wedding guests just for the sake of it at the cost to the taxpayer

OP said she would pay so presuming it would be private and therefore not costing the taxpayer anything.

AND OP HAS NOW SAID SHES NOT GOING AHEAD WITH TESTING AFTER READING PEOPLES OPINIONS !

I wasn’t replying to the OP. I was replying to the person who commented about the test being free...

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Also why do people hate weddings so much? Honestly if any of our guests feel this way I'd much they decline then come and be miserable!

@lyralalala said repeatedly we'd pay for it.

Absolutely pointless exercise. You can be negative one day & positive the next. When would you do them? How long before? How could you get all the results?

I agree with you there Dame. And as someone who’s CV it wouldn’t be the only thing I’d make a decision on - (Test or no test I wouldn’t be spending a long period of time inside with lots of people, especially if they’d been drinking.)

But I wouldn’t be surprised if this sort of testing becomes part the way forward in future. It’s not as bizarre as some of the initial replies made it sound, and fair play to the OP for considering how to make it as safe as possible for her guests and reducing the risk of a superspreading event as much as possible.

I think it's a good idea and actually would make me more likely to come.

Test or no test I wouldn’t be spending a long period of time inside with lots of people, especially if they’d been drinking

Yes, this^^, especially not if I was in one of the most vulnerable groups, and I bloody love weddings! I even love the ceremony. It's my favourite part .

Sorry, probably wouldn’t come anyway (circumstances) but wouldn’t be the least offended. Quite the opposite, I would think it very considerate.

[quote tocancel]@lyralalala said repeatedly we'd pay for it.[/quote]
And as I said - I wasn’t replying to you. I was replying to the poster who said they should be free

It's not strange, I see where you are coming from but it won't work

You became a bit of an arse when you used the word "dramatic" to describe possible reactions.

You found it OK. Some people may find it distressing for whatever reason.

But by all means, reject and ridicule somebody else's reaction because you haven't experienced it.

Wind up ... must be.

9/10 it's a good one I like it

@Polyxena how is it controlling to not want people to have a virus that could kill one of the bride or grooms parents?

If I were a guest I'd feel happy to know that I could relax knowing no one had but as pp have pointed out, tests couldn't guarantee that.

@stoploss honestly yes - if I knew I had covid, there is no way I could proceed and mix with people knowing I had it, could give it to them and cause someone else harm / even death. Stupidly selfish.

If other people wouldn't and would continue to mix with people knowing they had covid but they thought their event was too important to miss, we are in big trouble.