To think my DP was totally unreasonable

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We are away camping & I have just spent an hour in a supermarket on my own doing a 5 days shop & planning 3 meals a day for the family while DP sat in the car.

We get back to the campsite & DP puts the shopping away & has a massive go at me for being ‘stupid’ and buying too much food to fit in our electric cool box. Honestly I was more focused on the fucking stress of planning meals & buying food in a supermarket where I can’t find anything.

DP was so cross with me & now I feel fed up because I’m the one that has the burden of meal planning & shopping & all he has to do is put a few groceries away 🙄

Aibu? I just lost it as he spoke to me like I am a stupid child

And now he’s sulking 🤷🏻‍♀️

He's a cunt. Tell him to do fuck himself.

Did it all fit in the cool box

I would be inclined to drive home and leave him there...

Make your own meals, ignore him.

All that cooking and shopping and meal planning sounds stressful, is there not a nice restaurant near by? I'm sure he'll eat it when it's served to him.

Why didn't he do it then? How come he didn't help by preparing/planning? I realise if you had kids you probably all didn't want to go into the shop but no reason he couldn't have made a list.

Cook his favourite meal, eat it all, take the rest of the food and go home. Leave the dishes to him.

Why do you have to do it all? Is there something wrong with him? And if he has 'opinions' why was he sat in the car while you did the shop? How about you sit back from a distance and criticise everything he does now from now on, and see if that helps him.*

*yes Im divorced and I love it

Just tell him to do it himself in future.

To be honest I dont think there is anything worse than camping, so if mine said that to me I would be picking up my stuff and going home

OMFG. Ask him to put together a week's meal plan that takes into account the dimensions and topography of every single chilled ingredient, shop for said list and then make said meals.

Alternatively, he can pay for a takeaway/dinner out, or tetris the stuff in if he's so damned clever.

He's being a dick.

Yabu to have not planned and shopped pre trip.
Both of you I mean not just you...
We have just been camping. Full written out menu and car full of shopping..
Reminds me of a trip many years ago. Meeting another family to share our week. I arrived first with my dc +full shopping..
Friend climbed out of her seat carrying a cooked chicken in a plate.
No other food items...
None.
Not a sausage.
Apparently they were planning on frequenting the campsite shop..

Where are you camping? Will there be no shops nearby for 5 days? Why get so much when you can buy a sandwich/pasty lunch and surely eat out. Is he a miser who doesn't allow that either? This makes for a depressing camping experience. Sorry for being critical of your holiday style choice but Jesus that's far too much like daily life.

Well this sounds like a fun holiday. . .

You arrived with all your shopping already! That's like the second homers who the locals hate because they stock up before in their local Waitrose and don't spend a penny in the second home local economy.

Tell him to shove it all up his fucking ass and then leave the food and him behind and head to a nice restaurant and turn your phone off

Feralkidsatthecampsite

But most people on holiday want to get away from relentless meal planning etc.

Assuming the OP and her family aren’t camping somewhere really remote it’s not unreasonable to think there will be supermarket within driving distance. No need to over-engineer everything...

Anyway none of this justifies the DH shouting at her.

If my husband bought too much food for a cool box (5 days is a long time out of a fridge in an un-insulated tent in the summer!) then honestly I’d probably talk to him like a child too. I’d be irritated. Not for one packet of butter too many... but if it really was far too much, I probably would be a bit 🙄 (I can imagine a thread on here actually: “my husband is so useless, just came back with...”). How much of it couldn’t be put away?

I also wouldn’t see one hour in a supermarket as stressful 🤷🏻‍♀️ and wouldn’t see planning 5 days food as hard work. “3 meals a day” is over egging it. How much planning do bacon sandwiches for breakfast, or a box of cereal, really take? (if this is cumulative - see my last sentence!) And how stressful is it, to “find” food in a supermarket? So I’d probably end up irritated if my husband was telling me that the shopping was so hard. I think refereeing the kids in the car would be worse! That does depend on your kids though - one of mine wouldn’t look up from Minecraft long enough to realise we’d stopped driving 🤣

So it would all depend on why he was in the car and why he wasn’t meal planning. If he was watching the kids in the car, and did all the tent erection - maybe there’s a trade off.

If he’s always a lazy unappreciative shit, take this as your moment to tell him to shape up or ship out.

Personally I'd leave the silly idiot to it, and disappear off somewhere nice.

@Whatifitallgoesright I read that as buying locally on arrival.

Take everything out of the boxes/containers and put into food bags. Then tell him to fuck off.

Did you manage to actually get enough food for the week though?! I can't manage to plan 2 days worth of meals if I'm doing it in the supermarket, it's like I lose all my brain cells

@LillianBland good advice!
And the obvious - pack in reverse order and plan the items you really don’t want leaving out, to eat first.

Tell him to go willow weave a basket for you that can be tied submerged into a nearby stream, to keep milk and wine cool.

If you bought a wet fish, don’t cool box it, slap him with it.

Depends. Is there going to be a load of food wasted? Are you out in the sticks so it’s not feasible to have picked up some bits later? I’d be a bit cheesed if my husband paid for a lot of food that would now be wasted.

yup one of the many joys of camping. how i hated that shit.