To ask what is the most ridiculous reason someone has fallen out with you?

[Rainbowb]

Need a bit of solidarity right now!

I read the Daily Mail 😆

Married colleague who i also classed as a friend fell out with me and made my life hell at work because I started dating the lad she fancied.

@Spied

Married colleague who i also classed as a friend fell out with me and made my life hell at work because I started dating the lad she fancied.

This is outrageous.

@CallMeCleo

She was a well-looked after guest in my house about 30 times, totalling about 90 days/nights.

She also always referred to us as "best friends".

So, no, I don't think it's "presumptous" for me to think that she would want to bring me a few necessities whilst I was in hospital miles away from home and with no-one else to visit me, and then let me convalesce at her house for a mere 14 nights.

If I had been welcomed and looked after as a house-guest for 90 nights I would be eagerly awaiting the chance to repay my hostess and best mate in any way I could.

I think it's pretty shitty to think it's OK to always ALWAYS be the "taker" in a friendship and that you need never return any favours. I'm glad I am not YOUR friend.

I agree with you. Some people will 'give' but only to those they hope to gain from, validation, approval, favour. They take from those beneath them. Beneath them? you might well ask! Yes, they decided that there's a hierarchy and you're beneath them. But everything's all hunkdory on the surface.

I have had some shocks along the way. Have had female relatives treating me like a ghost and literally love bombing other mutual relatives in front of me. A lot of people identify with being a nice person but they're only doing nice things for those they perceive to be above them in the pecking order!!

I have got wise now and I am better at knowing who buys in to the hierarchy (ie, who has an external locus of validation) and who does not.

People who are secure in themselves don't behave like this. They want to give back if they know you gave to them.

I will however defriend and even block people on Facebook whom I am friendly with if they become politically obsessive and try to force their extreme views on me.

One if the reasons for that is they kniw where I work and I don't like the thought of them monitoring my FB and storing up any information about me (although what I post on FB is pretty bland anyway). And some people do try to goad you into saying things.

So for instance, I had one new friend who often discussed Scottish independence on FB and tried to draw me in. I would reieatedly politely say I wasn't interested but then she and some man I didnt even know started addressing me directly, saying I would support said cause if I "understood better" this point and that point and directing to read Wings over Scotland, which is a blog published online by an Snp supporter. This was presented by them as some great work of importance which took precedence over anything else.

Both of these individuals had degrees and good jobs and really should have known better. Anyway, at that time I was teaching Constitutional Law and Theory at a local university. I just had enough of them and of deleting all this stuff daily, and blocked them.

Same thing when a friend (been round to her house once for a bbq kind of friend) started posting quite nasty comments and memes about wanting cyclists to die and laughing about them being injured on the roads etc when she knew I was a cyclist.

My best friend I'd known my whole life and who wa like a sister to me stopped speaking to me for 2 years in school after I dared sit next to a new girl I had became friends with for one lesson. She completely ghosted me and turned our friendship group against me who bullied me relentlessly for 2 years. I was dumbfounded as to why she ditched me, turns out I was too immature for her and she got bored of me!

We became friends again when we left school but it was shortlived - people like her just attract drama and never grow up so I walked away

When we were in our twenties, a friend used to arrange weekends away for a group of us (mainly childfree couples) to go surfing. She'd usually block book some adjoining cottages on a complex or a larger accommodation. We always paid our way promptly and I hope were considerate to others. We were always invited to join in anyway.
On one occasion, my the DP and I had bought a camper van and were desperate to try it out. Asked if we could bring the van but chip in for food and help with/join with evening meal if staying in. She said no, citing that we would be using electricity/water etc we weren't paying for. I was so shocked as she'd always seemed reasonable. I don't think we went and we were dropped for our audacious suggestion 😬.
Have seen her and her family since (although not close friends) and all fine. Most bizarre!

@GinJeanie a contribution for using the shower , faculties and electric would have been reasonable. Did you offer that?

And presumably, you'd have had your camper van parked on paid-for property drive? Yes, wouldn't have expected to pay the same as 'staying in accommodation' guests, but some contribution would have been payable.

2beesornot2beesthatisthehoney - I'd agree with you but we were planning to stay on a campsite and use the facilities there.
We'd all be out together during the day so we're proposing paying towards and helping to cook a few joint meals. I guess we'd use the toilet a few times though...

Realise not all information provided... We were planning to pay for a campsite and using the facilities there. Water under the bridge anyway!! 😆😂

I couldn't speak on the phone as I was working.

She didn't speak to me for over two years for that.

Well in that case YANBU @GinJeanie. I get though that once the arrangements start to not be the same for everyone, such stays-away can start getting complicated. Maybe she didn't want the extra hassle?

I do recall a holiday away that involved a core family renting a holiday cotttage and then a frew friends staying over for a couple of days/nights. It got quite complicated working out what we owed them towards the rental and one friend I'm pretty sure didn't realise she was supposed to pay to stay either. There was no fall-out over that holiday though.

When my dd was a really ill newborn and I wasn't supposed to take her outside, a close friend offered to collect ds from nursery - she lived 10 minutes from it. I called to double-check she was going to do it, and she didn't answer any calls or texts so DH ended up leaving work early to collect ds. She completely cut off all contact - very sad for DH who had been close friends with her for 20 years.

A friend's husband told her I'd said to him 'fancy a shag' which I really really didn't. That ended up in the friend and the rest of her family (I was also close with her sisters) never speaking to me again. The husband was completely delusional and even wrote to my dh saying he was 'a good man' and should believe him. Thankfully he didn't. To this day I've no idea why he made up such a weird lie - it was pretty instructive in demonstrating how someone can really screw with your life if they want to.

Someone in DHs family fell out with everyone because of their lack of concern when he was poorly and probably could have died or some other nonsense. DH hadn’t rang several times to check his progress.

He had a hangover.

@justmaybenot

A friend's husband told her I'd said to him 'fancy a shag' which I really really didn't. That ended up in the friend and the rest of her family (I was also close with her sisters) never speaking to me again. The husband was completely delusional and even wrote to my dh saying he was 'a good man' and should believe him. Thankfully he didn't. To this day I've no idea why he made up such a weird lie - it was pretty instructive in demonstrating how someone can really screw with your life if they want to.

That’s awful , threatened by your friendship possibly? But honestly what a shit !!

@DeusEx

Because she heard that we thought her dolls, which she had paid to have transformed into replicas of her favourite TV characters, didn't look anything like them at all.

This just sounds such an incredibly weird thing to have done - why did she have...dolls made of...is this person an adult?!

Yes, an adult. Someone else had done it for a laugh, she copied the idea but took it too seriously. Paid a fortune for particular dolls, had their faces repainted and wigs specially made to look like the characters (only they didn't). Made them clothes that matched their outfits in the TV show, etc. The "reveal" after the transformation stunned most of us into silence, and in a private forum some of us said they looked at bit creepy and didn't resemble the characters at all. Then someone decided to screenshot the conversation and share it with her...

I was diagnosed with an incurable lifelong neurological condition, and she was pissed off that her being recently diagnosed with coeliac disease no longer made her the centre of attention.

My DH has 2. My male cousin got a very obvious toupee, the colour nearly matched. No one mentioned it, except DH. He didn't talk to him for over 3 years.
40 odd years ago he was in a flat share and his room mate had an occasional habit of waking him up in the morning by dropping his trousers and farting in his face (they were young). One morning DH took a camera to bed, and when the bare arse appeared he took a quick shot. 6 months later, he moved out of the flat share into a flat with me. His mate came round, he showed him the photo, friend got the huff and haven't seen or heard from him since.

My grandparents let known their disappointment in my parents - because I was a girl

Had a friend dump me because I fell down the stairs and broke my arm.I phoned my sister to ask if she could take me to hopsital.I should have phoned my friend first even though she doesnt drive.

Had a friend visit.She told me my very violent ex was renting the house two doors down from hers.I said sorry I cant visit you while he is living there.She said well you better not think I am coming to you everytime we are suppose to meet up.She left and never heard from her again.

I put on social media....who would like to try this new place out one night.....had a few likes and a couple of friends and also family said yes lets go. So we aranged it and also added.....would anyone else like to come.
On the night a family member tagged us all saying we were having a great time.
One sister who had LIKED my original post spat the dummy out because she hadnt been invited.

So called "best friend ", because I got better A level results.

Friend of 10+ years had a one night stand with a mutual friend, then went back to normal friendship with him, 5 months later I agreed to go on a date with him, she lost her mind, locking herself in the pub toilets, crying to anyone who would listen that I was stealing her boyfriend. With the exception of 2 occasions where she's screamed at me and one where she was forced to be civil thanks to mutual friends, she has not said a word to me in 11 years. The date on the other hand.... We've been married 8 years now.

Friend and her partner deleted and blocked our entire friendship group on all social media etc and stopped drinking at our local pub overnight. Because she was defending a domestic abuser, another couple in our group where the woman had been beaten by him in front of multiple witnesses, and we obviously were supporting her. The same night they ran to his defence despite not being present or knowing the full situation, when told to keep out of it they deleted everyone from their lives.

After many years they've recently moved in round the corner from me and have twice now crossed the road to avoid me.