To ask what is the most ridiculous reason someone has fallen out with you?

[Rainbowb]

Need a bit of solidarity right now!

I'm curious how many of there are probably not as they "seem".

I have a collage incident where I was suddenly dropped from a friendship group.

I had no idea what was going on and belatedly found out I had been Wendy-ed (which is a completely Mumsnet term).

I did find out at a later date that I had apparently called another one of the group a slag....except I hadn't. I was at first completely in the dark and would have put it down to some odd fact or other. I only did find out in the end as a mutual friend of my boyfriend found out and told him....it was bizarre...

cross post with @MrsS92 there....

I didn’t realise there was a term for this ! Looks like we’ve both been “Wendy-Ed”.

For me, it's the other way around. I had a "friend" who had never showed up for me, not even once. I went to his baby shower, his baby's christening and other important events in his life (alone and not knowing anyone). When it came to my wedding day, the night before, he texted me "so I have to be at your wedding by myself, not knowing anyone?" best believe I was quick to hit the block button.

A girl I used to work with and regularly had nights out with/considered a friend. We were at a hen do together and she copped off with a male stripper. When our taxis arrived she was nowhere to be found, we called her multiple times but no answer, the venue was searched for her, we were getting quite worried, finally her phone was answered by her brother who screamed at me that we shouldn't have left without her and left her stranded in the middle of London. Wouldn't listen to a word I was saying about the fact we hadn't left and had been in fact looking for her and calling her for about 2hrs at this point. At work on Monday she gave me the silent treatment for days.
We made up but no explanation was ever given ror what she had been getting up to.
The same girl also stopped speaking to me because I said I couldn't go to the pub with her on Christmas eve as I had family plans. She was hard work.

A long-standing close friend dropped me just before her wedding... she was having an affair and told me it would continue throughout her marriage - then asked me what I thought...😳
Apparently, pointing out the huge cost for the big showy wedding, all the planning etc, not to mention the heartbreak for the poor unsuspecting groom was “not supportive of her!”

The marriage lasted barely 2 years, the groom was heartbroken and she was on to her second hubby while her parents struggled to pay for the first wedding!!
Incredible

She found out I was an atheist, she was hardcore Christian (one of those “cool” modern singing church types).

@Tibtab

She found out I was an atheist, she was hardcore Christian (one of those “cool” modern singing church types).

I had the opposite. Gave a new friend I’d met through work networking and really hit it off with a lift to a concert, had some rosary beads in my car glove box which she spotted, then gave me a strange look. Met up for a meal a few weeks later, just happened to be at a restaurant opposite my church. One of her friends who’d joined us made a sneery comment about “all Christians”. I didn’t want to get into an argument (I’d never mentioned my faith before) but just smiled and said “I’m a Christian, that’s actually my church over there funnily enough” and just laughed it off. He actually flinched and said “I’m sorry, I shouldn’t have said that, YOU seem lovely.” My friend said “PLEASE tell me you aren’t the sort that goes every week?!” I said that I did. The table went silent. I gave her a lift home all very normal. She left a load of stuff in my car by accident (house keys which she didn’t need to get is as her girlfriend let her in, some food and booze she’d bought). When I realised later and tried to drop them off she kept making excuses for why I couldn’t see her in person to drop them off. In the end she said to drop them off to her PA’s office. I never got a thank you or acknowledgement and was ignored and excluded from all meet ups from then on.

Apparently all her friendship circle HATED Christians and presumed we were all homophobes (my friend was bisexual and it made no difference at all to me) and felt passionately that organised religion should be banned and made a crime. None of them had actually ever set foot in a place of worship or knew anything at all about religion in general and assumed every church = Westboro Baptist Church. I later found out that they couldn’t be friends with anyone who was as “delusional, narrowminded and judgemental” as I’d have to be to be a Christian.

Literally from some rosary beads in a car and me saying “Actually I’m Christian, funnily enough that’s my church”, that’s what they got. Narrow minded, judgemental and delusional. Nice. Still hurts years later.

A group dropped me because our DCs were no longer friends; probably instigated by Queen bitch- I'd put up with her nastiness towards others for years and so wish I hadn't. Misplaced loyalty
Everyone told me I was well rid (most people knew this group)
😄😄

2 out 4 of my brothers stopped talking to me because they didn’t like what our mum left them in her will £30,000 to one and £40,000 to the other and because I was executrix of her will it was obviously all my doing!!

About 10 years ago a school mum shouted at me in the street because the day before my DM told DS off for running around the school playground and knocking into the parents waiting.

My DM never spoke to her child just my DS, but her son was upset as he was also running around banging into people and overheard the conversation between DM and DS.

She was a strange lady, she also had a go at me when I asked her DS (not aggressively as he was 5) if he could stop dragging my 2 year old daughter across the playground on her knees. She said I had to walk over to get where she was talking to friends in the playground, interrupt her conversation, explain my problem and she would speak to her child, I was never to tell her child to stop doing anything.

I changed my Facebook profile picture to one which got a lot of likes. This was a "friend" i had for nearly 40 years!

Haven't spoken to my older sister for nearly 10 years. Her husband had been 'off" with me, I asked her why, she says she didn't know. 30 mins later BIL phone me and had a massive rant, screaming about I favoured one niece over the other, I sponged off my parents (I still lived at home, worked full time and paid my way) I was a lazy cow, and that he'd hated me since the day he'd met me (I was 14 when he started dating my sister, he was a man of 28) I told him to f**k off, and leave me alone. Apparently the swearing put me in the wrong and my sister hasn't spoken to me since, saying I need to apologise for swearing at a man who says he's hated me since I was a young teenager.

Because I got my covid jab before them. ( They refuse to acknowledge that I have chronic health conditions.)

The christian /non christian issue reminds me, an american christian was very cool with me when she royally slagged off yoga and I laughed at first and then defended yoga. We are friends on line not in real life. I just cant imagine how anybody can seriously diss yoga!

Dumped from a great height by long term best friend (many years)

I couldn’t be a mum and therefore did not understand love or life.

Being realistic, unless you are told explicitly why, surely it is guess work? Anyway two that stand out for me:

• neighbour who I was very friendly with for several years, changed when our DD was doing better and getting place on sports team

• close friend that I shared hobby with for many years avoided contact when she heard I was "dating" her fiancé 10 years before (actually I wasn't but I shagged him once at a party)

... and I was so seriously tempted to tell her: "Three strokes and he was finished, he said was sorry that never happened before, and I declined to meet him again afterwards"

@mdh2020

My older sister fell out with me years ago. We have no contact. As far as I can understand the situation she objects to my very existence.

Sorry to laugh but objecting to your very existence 😆

I told wider family I have a pretty serious chronic health condition that was diagnosed last year. Apparently I am unreasonable because I didn't check with Dsis. She doesn't want people to know because her BF might find out and not want to have children with her.

It's not a hereditary condition Apparently I am unhelpful and should have waited until she'd had her family before telling anyone.

I went to a furniture shop without "inviting" someone else . She never spoke to me again 😅

Because I wouldn't take sides in a divorce.

2 friends I knew separately met through me but I apparently was supposed to pick sides...

A friend took offence about me not telling her I’d taken my employer to court for discrimination. I signed an NDA so I was legally prohibited to tell her. She still feels that I should have and wrote me a chapter long email about how I’d abused her kind nature. It was 100 of examples over the 25 years or so we were friends, all listed in this long email. I’d forgotten to acknowledge her birthday ON THE DAY (true, but I was in Labour so a tad busy). I’d also apparently answered my mobile phone and spoken in my mother tounge while we were waiting for a taxi 8 years ago. This is also true but it’s my mum and she doesn’t speak English. It went on and on and on. Bonkers. Bye bye loon friend

My sister fell out with me once because her then boyfriend told me i had nice hair !!!

I went to a music festival with 3 friends, they spent the first day there they actively ignored me and wouldn't listen to any of my suggestions even if one of them had suggested it first. So instead of being miserable all weekend, I made friends with 2 lads camped next to us and spent the weekend with them. One of my "friends" then refused to talk to me after that because he was annoyed at me for going off without them.