To ask what is the most ridiculous reason someone has fallen out with you?

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Need a bit of solidarity right now!

Because I didn't ask her about how she was following the death of her father 9 months previously. It was my wedding day and I was a bit busy. I had supported her all through his illness and passing as well

I was a tomboy type working in a male trade, and for 8 years (we were aged 21 at the start) I was best friends with a man I worked with. In all that time he never had a girlfriend, but told anecdotes about past relationships. We used to go on trips together, we even shared a sleeper compartment on trains and hotel rooms with twin beds, and he never once came on to me - not even as a joke. He always treated me exactly as though I were a male friend.

Then I split up with my LT boyfriend. A week later the friend declared that he had always been in love with me since the day we met, and had waited all that time. Clearly he expected me to fall into his arms - and his bed. I was astonished.

I was very kind and gentle when I told him that I was flattered but that I just didn't see him in that way, but as a brother. He said nothing, turned on his heel, walked away and never spoke to me again.

I seem to have fallen out with a school mum friend but genuinely have no idea why. I’ve been dropped from a couple of things and she hasn’t spoken to me for months. She’s been a bit funny with another friend of ours too. To be quite honest I find it bloody hurtful, childish and rude. If she’d had it out with me I could have at least explained whatever it is. Just been totally ghosted. Obviously have other friends but it still hurts.

My elderly grandfather hasn't spoken to me in over a year because I pointed out to him that his carer is financially abusing and neglecting him. Apparently I'm an interfering cow.

Because I wouldn’t give up my new born baby for adoption. We were both 20 . Throughout my pregnancy I had intended the baby would be adopted but after she was born I changed my mind . “Friend “ who had been supportive before that dropped me like a lead balloon. I honestly think she wanted me to choose between my baby and her. She lost !
That was more than 30 years ago. It still hurts . God knows why she clearly wasn’t worth bothering with but if sgdd eg us out their and reading this I hope it tugs on a nerve.

That strange phrase was supposed to say “if she is out there”

My exH's friend never spoke to me again after I managed to get her African Grey parrot to talk.

Apparently she'd been trying to teach it to speak for years, and it had never said a word before. She was furious!

@mermaidsariel

Nearly all of these are about women behaving like utter bitches to other women. So much for female solidarity!

Yawn.

A really good friend dumped me because she said I hadn’t been in touch for weeks. I pointed out she also hadn’t been in touch and last contact was made by me, following which I (unrelatedly) fell into a very deep depression which she knew about from mutual friends. She said her lack of contact had been ‘a friendship test’.

Made me so sad.

@CallMeCleo

I have SO many!

1. A close female friend of about 3 years's standing ended our friendship because one day on the phone I forgot to ask about her child's health. She'd told me a few days earlier that he had a cold.

1. Best friend who lived 100 miles away. For 15 years she was a weekend guest in my house at least once a year and mostly twice. I never once stayed at hers as she had nowhere to put anyone up.

Her two children moved out, leaving two empty bedrooms, and then by sheer coincidence I was told I had to go into hospital close to her house. I was relieved to be so close to hers as she could bring me things like food from outside the hospital, and visit me, and put me up for the two weeks convalescence I would need before I could make the journey home.

Soon as I told her she dumped me.

In 2, you sound super presumptuous though...?

@CallMeCleo did you actually say this to your friend?

2. Best friend who lived 100 miles away. For 15 years she was a weekend guest in my house at least once a year and mostly twice. I never once stayed at hers as she had nowhere to put anyone up.

Her two children moved out, leaving two empty bedrooms, and then by sheer coincidence I was told I had to go into hospital close to her house. I was relieved to be so close to hers as she could bring me things like food from outside the hospital, and visit me, and put me up for the two weeks convalescence I would need before I could make the journey home.

I understand she stayed at your house, but to expect someone to bring you food etc and look after someone for two weeks after an op is a slightly different thing.

I congratulated someone on her new granddaughter and said, "Gosh, aren't you lucky being a relatively young grandmother, you'll have such fun!"

Context - she knew my granny was 75 when I was born and I barely knew her and wished I'd had grandparents.

Apparently I was calling her a slag for having children so young.

Sigh.....

I stopped being friends with someone when they went shopping for a new dishwasher instead of coming down to stay on a long planned weekend at mine. I figured that if I was less important than whitegoods, I could do better.

Another friend stopped being friends with me (and one other) when we pointed out that her boyfriend was ripping her off. He'd moved in with her, wasn't paying rent, she paid for everything (including things like huge ostentatious bunches of flowers he'd buy her everytime we went round). 3 months after she stopped wanting to be friends, we heard that she got rid of him. She was married to someone else within 6 months. I've not spoken to her since the day I said I was worried that he was using her.

Another friend stopped talking to me when I had a fling with her sister.

I dunno, all these friendships were clearly near a natural end anyway. Any incident could have ended them. I haven't missed these 3 women at all.

For intervening in a Dangerous situation involving an elderly person, and implementing a safeguarding action using a previously agreed POA status, as requested by the persons Multi Disciplinary team.

I have no regrets, it had to be done, one of the hazards of working with Elderly Mentally ill relatives.

At uni my friend fancied a boy who had a girlfriend. One night I walked back from our student union with the boy (across a park known for attacks, so not safe to walk alone) which somehow turned into a rumour that I'd kissed him. I never did, and even if I had, he had a girlfriend who wasn't her anyway. I lost an entire group of friends through this as they believed the rumour, and I'm still annoyed about it 12 years later! In hindsight it was almost certainly the boy who started the rumour

[quote longtompot]@CallMeCleo did you actually say this to your friend?

2. Best friend who lived 100 miles away. For 15 years she was a weekend guest in my house at least once a year and mostly twice. I never once stayed at hers as she had nowhere to put anyone up.

Her two children moved out, leaving two empty bedrooms, and then by sheer coincidence I was told I had to go into hospital close to her house. I was relieved to be so close to hers as she could bring me things like food from outside the hospital, and visit me, and put me up for the two weeks convalescence I would need before I could make the journey home.

I understand she stayed at your house, but to expect someone to bring you food etc and look after someone for two weeks after an op is a slightly different thing.[/quote]
You put this much better than me @longtompot!

@DeusEx I always dread seeing my name pop up as I think yikes, what faux pas have I done! Thank you. I did have to reread that post several times, just in case I read it wrong.

For standing up for myself & not repeatedly apologising/people pleasing after yet another perceived slight. I just backed off & left the ball in her court, was a big deal for me as every other time (there were many) I’d be apologising, trying to make things up etc even when I wasn’t in the wrong. My dm, Dh & other friends warned me many times she was a narcissist but I gave her chance after chance as she was my oldest friend. I was gutted but my life has been much lighter not having to tread on eggshells the last 2.5 years

@RaptorInaPorkPieHat

Because she heard that we thought her dolls, which she had paid to have transformed into replicas of her favourite TV characters, didn't look anything like them at all.

I have so many questions about this

You really don't want to know! Too childish for words...

Loved reading this thread.
In annoyance that one friend wouldn't come somewhere with me I told her she couldn't fart without another friend, both fell out with me at the time. Still not resolved. It's not even an insult but an observation as it's true.

I said that only women and girls menstruate.

My most ridiculous is my long term friend that stopped being in touch about 8 years ago. We were friends from school, go mother to each other's children, she was my MOH. We used to meet up regularly.

Then nothing, no answer to my calls or texts. She has moved abroad since, no answer to my FB friends request ( though I am FB friends with her DC's, my god children) ...absolutely nothing and ridiculously I have NO idea why.

She was a well-looked after guest in my house about 30 times, totalling about 90 days/nights.

She also always referred to us as "best friends".

So, no, I don't think it's "presumptous" for me to think that she would want to bring me a few necessities whilst I was in hospital miles away from home and with no-one else to visit me, and then let me convalesce at her house for a mere 14 nights.

If I had been welcomed and looked after as a house-guest for 90 nights I would be eagerly awaiting the chance to repay my hostess and best mate in any way I could.

I think it's pretty shitty to think it's OK to always ALWAYS be the "taker" in a friendship and that you need never return any favours. I'm glad I am not YOUR friend.

90 days over 15 years is very different to a full two weeks at once. And it sounds like you assumed rather than asked.

[quote StuntEgg]@RaptorInaPorkPieHat

Because she heard that we thought her dolls, which she had paid to have transformed into replicas of her favourite TV characters, didn't look anything like them at all.

I have so many questions about this

You really don't want to know! Too childish for words...[/quote]
This just sounds such an incredibly weird thing to have done - why did she have...dolls made of...is this person an adult?!