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To ask what is the most ridiculous reason someone has fallen out with you?

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Rainbowb · 04/08/2020 07:13

Need a bit of solidarity right now!

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honeylulu · 04/08/2020 08:21

My sister stopped seeing or speaking to me because I had a daughter and she didn't. She (golden child with the golden grandchildren) also told my parents not to mention my daughter or put pictures of her up in their house as it would "upset" her. AND THEY OBEYED.

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Tappering · 04/08/2020 08:24

Hmm, this has bored Daily Mail journo written all over it.

Why don't you share your experience OP?

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piefacedClique · 04/08/2020 08:26

At the beginning of lockdown my friend fell down the COVID conspiracy theory rabbit hole.... while I was Woking From home And teaching my own kids (hers 9-3 private school zoom lessons) , she would instantly send rubbish articles, that had been sent to her by drs (quacks!) and videos and panic that a video she needed Us all to watch had been removed from YouTube..... I read a really interesting article which I thought my give her some reassurance that it wasn’t 5G or Bill Gates or aliens causing COVID and shared it on our group WhatsApp and the rest of us privately discussed how we were worried about the rubbish she was reading and that she’d fallen down a rabbit hole. She never acknowledged it but now only responds to messages from the other girls and completely ignores mine! Recently her husband needed an op so I sent best wishes.... nothing! She even texts my husband now not me to ask information about clubs both our children attend rather than text me! 🤦🏼‍♀️

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MattBerrysHair · 04/08/2020 08:28

I had a baby, which didn't fit with her carefree lifestyle of last minute trips to the pub. She only wanted to talk about her life and my life was uninteresting and invalid as a parent. Her and her dp, also my friend, made many withering comments about people with 'new parent syndrome' prior to my becoming pregnant so I should have seen it coming.

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Hoppinggreen · 04/08/2020 08:28

I didn’t tell her brothers boyfriend to stop flirting with another man.
We were out and bumped into said brothers girlfriend (who I didn’t know) and my “friend” saw her talking to another man. She told me and I asked what we should do, she said leave so I said ok and we did. Apparently her brother (who I had met about twice) was not very happy with me as I should have done something and the “friend” didn’t speak to me again
Bunch of nutters

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toodlepipsqueaks · 04/08/2020 08:29

My friend was visiting from overseas. I was knackered as we met up straight from work at the end of a particularly busy week. She was telling me a few stories about life over there which sounded lovely and as I felt myself flagging I remember making an extra effort to sound enthusiastic so she didn't clock how tired I was.

After she returned home she was a bit off with me. Some time afterwards (months!) she said I had been a bit too keen about her new life and it came off as jealousy! So I guess a bit too much enthusiasm 🙈 I didn't even know how to begin to respond to that...

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livelyredjellybean · 04/08/2020 08:30

I can only assume my (at the time) best mate at work fell out with me because I didn’t quit my job when she did! Our boss was an absolute tool, yes, but I had a mortgage to pay and she didn’t! She wouldn’t even talk to me afterwards about why she was so upset with me and we sadly haven’t spoken since.

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HagridsBackTeeth · 04/08/2020 08:38

Because I was in hospital having tests as an inpatients and didn't go to her (23rd) birthday party. I messaged her as I was going in to tell her I might not attend, her reply was "Fucking great timing, Hagrid, thanks". Messaged later to say I was staying overnight and couldn't make the party next day, she never spoke to me again.

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dentydown · 04/08/2020 08:40

My mum had terminal lung cancer. A friend who I had fallen out with messaged me about going out to clear the air. I didn’t really want to see him, so I told him I couldn’t because my mum had terminal cancer and I had to support her and my dad and spend time with them. He messaged back calling me an insensitive cow, and “he was distressed to learn that about my mum” and “you should of thought of my feelings” and “I was going to give you one last chance but your insensitivity has blown it”. Thing is, he didn’t know my mum, we were trying to manage as best we could, but he tried to make it all about him. According to some friends he kept talking about how distressed he was to learn that my mum (who he didn’t know or ever met) was dying and I should of broken it more gently to him.

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LioneIRichTea · 04/08/2020 08:51

A friend couldn’t afford our long weekend to Amsterdam several years ago so I lent her the money on the understanding she’d repay me next payday. Pay day came (we worked together) nothing, so I asked her if she wouldn’t mind giving me the money back. She sent a colleague to my desk with a tenner in an envelope and a note to say she’d pay me the rest next pay day. I asked her for the rest of it and she never spoke to me again!

I’ve also never lent money to anyone since.

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Theladyofshalot · 04/08/2020 08:58

Another one for the 'got a boyfriend'

We had been friends and near neighbours for over ten years. Kids played together, shared holidays together and lived in each others houses. Never had a harsh word or argument.

I think she got very used to me being the hardworking, poor, lonely single mum that she could feel a tiny bit superior over and couldn't cope when that very set idea of me changed.

When I got a casual guy she acted like I had broken the ironclad rules of our relationship dynamic. She got this intense super weird low burn angry thing going on.

When that didn't do the trick she got quite mean and started subtly picking at me with a passive aggressive conversations about mutton dressed as lamb, how men like desperate single mums because they are easy and so on. (I should mention the guy and I were both were super casual and laid back so no one was taking advantage of anyone)

She popped round early one Sunday morning to suggest a trip to the seaside and for some reason thought he was asleep upstairs (he was not). She just flipped, screaming at me unintelligibly and never spoke to me again.

It was plain weird.

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keepingbees · 04/08/2020 08:59

Years ago at college in my teens I went on a night out in town with a friend. She was supposed to be staying over at my house after.
Long story short, walking through town to the taxi afterwards she copped off with a guy we met walking through the town and then snuck off with him whilst my back was turned and vanished. I was left to make my way home alone with no idea where she'd gone or who she was with. She'd left her phone at my house so I had no way of contacting her, her car and belongings were all at my house. I sat all the next day worried sick if she was ok, my parents were worried too and it ruined Mother's Day for my mum.
She eventually rocked up the following night with him, didn't give a shit that I had been worried and couldn't see the problem. I wasn't very happy obviously but gave her a hug and said I was glad she was ok. She left and never spoke to me again Confused

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Theladyofshalot · 04/08/2020 09:06

I should mention she never met him, his arrival never once impacted on our play dates or meetups. He never met her or my kids as we were super casual and only came by on child free weekends.

So his arrival didn't change our friendship in any way except in her head.

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SaltyAndFresh · 04/08/2020 09:07

I criticised far right protestors on the day they 'defended' the Churchill statue by throwing punches at the police, making Nazi salutes on SM.

A school mum (in fact the daughter of a member of school staff) argued they were just defending white people's rights, and when my friends - mostly politely - told her she was wrong, she unfriended me. Her sister took to the post to congratulate her on speaking out, advised me 'in a world where you can be anything, be kind' Hmm and also deleted me. She has now moved in across the road, perfect. She completely blanked me yesterday. A TA friend of the sisters also congratulated her on her racism. It is seemingly my fault that we've fallen out because she disagreed with my criticism of white supremacists.

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CatEatCatWorld · 04/08/2020 09:15

Broke up with my long term partner Confused Apparently I should have stayed in a loveless/emotionless/sexless relationship. Final nail in the coffin was because I found another guy, who I'm so so happy with, but apparently she knows better and I'm not really happy at all and should've stayed single for an undisclosed amount of time...friends for over 20 years and she just vanished. Sad

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Biancadelrioisback · 04/08/2020 09:15

A friend asked to "borrow" DHs sperm so she and her wife could have a baby and we fell out when DH refused. Funny that...

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SiliconHeaven · 04/08/2020 09:20

Not as ridiculous as some of the reasons on here but recently I posted about Black Lives Matter on Facebook and one of my hobby friends took offence, told me white lives matter as much as black ones, and blocked me Shock

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RichPetunia · 04/08/2020 09:25

Showing my age. One of my friends was an ABBA fan. She fell out with me when Blondie got to number one 😁.

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lyralalala · 04/08/2020 09:27

I objected to being signed up for an expensive holiday. Friend and I aged 18 decided to go on holiday. Agreement was we’d save up and book a cheap last minute deal the week before. Probably to Spain or Greece as they were cheap. Friend later informed me she and her mum had gone to the travel agents and booked us an £600 each holiday to Italy; co-incidentally to the same place her entire family were going the same week. She never spoke to me again when I told her I didn’t have £250 to “pay her back” for the deposit. Nor would I be going to Italy.

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Ginfordinner · 04/08/2020 09:31

@RichPetunia

Showing my age. One of my friends was an ABBA fan. She fell out with me when Blondie got to number one 😁.

Showing my age here Grin
My friend and I nearly came to blows over who was better - David Cassidy or Donny Osmond.
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AudacityOfHope · 04/08/2020 09:33

Two weeks before my wedding, a friend told me that she wasn't sure who she was bringing: her husband (whose name was on the actual invitation) or the guy she was apparently having an affair with.

I said no, she could bring her husband or nobody, she never turned up on the day, we never spoke again.

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ComplexPTSDmaybe · 04/08/2020 09:33

I have a current one. She seems to have fallen out with me and is pissed off that I haven't congratulated her on her engagement in RL or on FB. I can't do it because 6 months ago he throttled her, cheated on her and told her that she may as well kill herself as she is so miserable and laughs at her eating disorder. But he 'has changed' and she has done lots of work on herself. She wasn't impressed when I said it wasn't her who needed counselling, it was him and that I am not happy for her or her DC, as I think she can do better. Feel very stuck with it.

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LookToTreblesGoingTreblesGone · 04/08/2020 09:35

Because I'd paid off my mortgage but she hadn't paid off hers Confused

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Iamuhtredsonofuhtred · 04/08/2020 09:37

My sister in law who I thought I was close to fell out With me because I was trying to leave her drug addicted unfaithful brother. Her reaction and that of his family was so wildly unjust after everything he’s put me through and the shock of having someone I thought of as a sister scream and shout at me for wanting to leave actually convinced me to stay for another two years. Now we don’t speak and yes I did leave him in the end

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Mammyofasuperbaby · 04/08/2020 09:41

My sil, because I wouldn't give her all of my babies things that he was still using to her baby. I did however give her everything my baby had grown out of. She then went and told all my in-laws that I hate them and that I hate the baby (completely not true, I see them as family)
Took months to unravel that mess but both me and dp don't see her anymore and our stress levels are better for it.

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