To ask what is the most ridiculous reason someone has fallen out with you?

[Rainbowb]

Need a bit of solidarity right now!

Not sure what I was supposed to do instead, be a spinster forever?

Yeah, nothing worse than never being married

A uni friend, lived with her for years, holidays etc started being strange with me (not unusual with other people for her to be a bit snide and bitchy) so that treatment started with me. I went to her baby shower and felt very breezy and cold. Same with her hen do. Went to the evening do only at her wedding because I couldn't get babysitter and DH working, again chilly. So I backed off. She called me at work out if the blue as she was 'passing' so went for a coffee and she was all sweetness .... because she wanted a shoe-in to some of my work colleagues so I helped her ... she said oh we must meet up - I sent her a couple of invitations to days out with the kids and she didn't even respond - she basically used me.
My DH saw her recently and happily said hello how are you? She vaguely said hello and blanked him enough for our mutual friend who was with him to remark how rude she was - he's just deleted her from his life now lol
God knows what her beef was - to be honest I always knew she was fickle so perhaps it's just my turn - I'm better off without that childish nonsense to be honest 😉

My point is AliciaCross is that my parents don't get to dictate my life to me and withdraw my inheritance because I've defied them like victorian parents. I'm long divorced now and very happily single after 20 years of marriage with no intention of dating again. But this is MY choice not theirs to make.

I also dated a woman for a while that went down like a lead balloon too because my mother does not "believe" in lesbians.

My NCT group ditched me because (so far as I can tell) I was the only one who had an unassisted birth, recovered fast, and just got on with it. What seems to have made it worse is that I wasn’t fixated on how I gave birth and had a birth plan that was essentially’get it out as fast and safe as possible’.

They seemed to see it as some sort of weird competition.

'I also dated a woman for a while that went down like a lead balloon too because my mother does not "believe" in lesbians.'

OMG! I heard that so many times when I first came out, 25 years ago. It felt like people were queuing up to tell me they didn't believe in lesbians, it was a phase, I hadn't met the right man yet ( hilarious given I'd never ever had a boyfriend)... and on and on...
Luckily, not my immediate family, they were great.

She asked me how I was feeling during pregnancy (which she knew was complicated). I said I was very sick, she said I should be grateful for being sick and grateful for my unborn child 🤷🏻‍♀️

Not turning up for an 'across town' lunch with a group of friends when I'd had PILs to stay (and just waved them off), been up since the crack of dawn and out all morning with DS (baby at the time), and couldn't face fitting more into what had already been an exhausting couple of days. I did let them know in advance but that wasn't good enough apparently!

I subletted a room from an old school friend for the summer when I had a seasonal job in a certain tourist destination. They were students so had all gone home except for 1 girl. We were both really busy so didn’t see much of eachother but we got on fine and had an occasional drink together in the evening etc.
Apparently everyone else who usually lived there hated her and I was supposed to have been awful to her (nobody told me) and my friend was very cross I hadn’t been and fell out with me.
My friend was usually really nice but unfortunately had fallen in with a Mean Girls crowd at Uni. We are friends again now and I occasionally like to take the piss out of her for it.

For having children. Never an issue until it became obvious some 20 years later sibling couldn’t have them. Once that became apparent they cut me off without discussion. Parent says their problem is they assumed when they did have children they would be ‘the favoured’ grandchildren as they believe they are closer to parents (not true). So the solution is to cut myself and kids off apparently.

Given my youngest would have been around 15 when this happened no idea how/why they thought this was the way to go as it’s not like my kids would have ‘competed’ with theirs at that point anyway. Completely bonkers.

I met up with friend who was briefly back home after she had moved abroad, but it was a Friday night and I was really tired from work. I didn't want to let on how tired I was so did my best to sound enthusiastic in our conversation. After she went back home she stopped replying to my texts. Eventually it came out that I had sounded so enthusiastic about her updates she thought I was envious of her life and not just genuinely happy for her. Whoops 😂 no easy way out of that one...

A lot of these scenarios speak volumes about the ones doing the 'blanking'.

Met a new friend via church. We were both new to the church and shared some hobbies. She seemed genuine. She kept asking me about my family. One night I gave in and shared some detail (negative, my family is a mess). She seemed annoyed with me as I was talking. The day after, she proceeded to cancel every meet including a weekly event with church that we both attended, apparently I "made her feel uncomfortable". I was systematically removed from the weekly small group and ostracised from all church events.

She still attends and married one of the longstanding church members

A “good” friend who I saw once a week for coffee pre lockdown and again in the summer last year; one day she stood me up and didn’t reply to texts anymore. I was mystified and thought I must have done something, wracked my brains, still couldn’t think what it could be. Asked her if there was anything wrong and eventually she replied, “you shouldn’t have to ask. I think it’s obvious what you’ve done”

I asked a mutual friend to do some digging. Apparently I had changed two appointments to meet up, shifted them back an hour (one rearrangement was made the day before, one with about three hours to spare) and it apparently just showed that I was selfish and she didn’t need people like that in her life. She doesn’t have a job so I wasn’t messing up her working day though I am sure she’s busy.

The reason I delayed meet ups by an hour twice in about three months? I was nursing my dying father, and she knew that.

Another one, though we have sort of made up now... Childhood friend stopped speaking to me after a night out where we'd talked about work and general stuff. She sent long ranty texts telling me I was 'fake' and materialistic and toxic and wanted me out of her life.
My crime was to explain I was staying in a job I didn't like because it paid okay, the people were okay and I needed to pay the mortgage, bills etc. that I had no family to fall back on to help out. So being a grown up basically. I'm probably the least materialistic person EVER but I do like a roof over my kids heads.
Friend has always jumped from job to job, lives in a hse entirely paid for by her parents, and was on some kind of spiritual journey so took offence even tho I've only ever supported her, chaotic a times, life choices. She does have MH issues.
She ignored me for over a year, and said some hideous things, and now wants to go back to how we were but I am struggling to trust her again after the vicious take down.

I lost weight so wasn't the 'fat friend' any more

@SaltyAndFresh just so you know, it's not a far right belief to want to protect a statue of Churchill

I had a very good friend in high school who went to a different college from me.

I was sat in kfc with another friend waiting for a list home from the cinema (oh those were the days!) when she came up briefly in conversation.

Later that night I got a lengthy text from her that very woefully ended our friendship because I had been so cruel as her cousin had overheard us being horrible about her. Upon further enquiry we had apparently called her a fat boring bitch.

Despite protestations to the fact that had never happened and her cousin had clearly misheard/was making shite up she sent me four 'I wish you well' texts.

Never heard from her again. She came up on my recommended instagram page a few weeks ago and I liked her recent wedding picture and followed her. She proceeded to block me.

@Embracingthechaos

For not having an abortion.

Apparently I wasn't thinking about the environment when I made that very selfish decision

You win.

@Northernparent68 if he didn’t want to get laughed at he shouldn’t have been so amusing
He seems to be tolerably over it now - he doesn’t remember it anyway it being nine months ago

A "friend" went on a massive rant that I was bullying her and being mean to her as I hadn't liked her Facebook posts. I'm still in shock someone could be that insecure.

More so as she didn't let it slide and went down a whole rabbit hole of me not admitting it was damaging her mental health etc.

It had been one of the times Facebook he changed its algorithms and people were complaining they didn't see certain people's posts as much. We hadn't hadn't had much contact and frankly I was pretty busy with life and real life friends. I didn't do much scrolling on Facebook and only responded to notifications.

Her rant went on for days. Massive long pages of how me doing this to her had seriously damaged her mental health and how horrible I was.

To be fair the friendship had died a bit of a death. I had gone through something I struggled with and she would say things like "I can't see him saying that" or "I think your remembering it wrong". So basically she was gaslighting ME. It was over a religion which I stopped attending after I was verbally abused by someone in leadership. I had proof, she didn't want to "rock her faith".

I accepted her not wanting involved in my drama, I had accepted we saw things differently and that was fine but we she hadn't contacted me and I hadn't contacted her. Occasionally I would like and comment on her posts and her mine but that's was it as far as our relationship went.

I had absolutely nothing against her, I still thought we were friends of sorts, I didn't ignore her posts, I just didn't see them. Frankly other than my mum 😆 I can't tell you who likes my posts or who doesn't. I don't care, I don't post for likes.

And a follow up I guess, I left my religion (cough cult) that I grew up with and instantly became "misled by the devil" and other such ideas in their minds. So I was shunned and ignored.

It's one of those religions if you point out any inaccuracies then it's all lies, even when it's from their own sources. I didn't do that, but the few times that I'm asked questions I answer them and told I'm deceived by the devil and they will pray for me. 😆

1. For getting a bunch of flowers from my boyfriend on my birthday (recently).

1. For getting an inheritance (when I was a teenager).

Because I started dating her ex. Now, when I say 'ex', they held hands for about 3 weeks when we were 12/13ish. They became strangers to each other after that, and by the time we started dating we were mid 20s. And she never spoke to me again.

I’ve had 3 friends randomly stop speaking to me, delete me off social media etc over the last few years, couldn’t understand why.
Until a friend told me that a mutual acquaintance has been spreading horrible lies about things I’ve apparently said and done !
So so strange, I don’t know what I’ve ever done to this person to encourage them to have such a grudge against me.
But like my friend said if they were true friends they wouldn’t believe the stuff she was saying.
She is currently trying to get to know another person I know as she commented recently how odd it was how that acquaintance is constantly asking about me. I wanted to say don’t listen to a word she says, but thought I would sound crazy 🤦🏼‍♀️😂.