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Original poster

To ask what is the most ridiculous reason someone has fallen out with you?

735 replies

Rainbowb · 04/08/2020 07:13

Need a bit of solidarity right now!

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Dinkydody · 05/05/2021 21:48

@WitchesGlove

On social media, because I said that the state pension should be means tested; and only for those that have worked hard for it- so many nasty comments saying that all old people live in poverty (only one in six do) and making threats.

Child benefit is now means tested- where was the upset about that? 🤔

Child benefit is not means tested, you may be thinking of child tax credits 🤔
Charliecatpaws · 05/05/2021 22:27

Fuck me, there are some serious weirdos about, people need to give their head a wobble

KillingMeDeftly · 05/05/2021 22:36

I had a good friend who was utterly obsessed with true crime and serial killers. I enjoyed talking to her about it when she brought it up but when she found out I didn't actually share her obsession, she fell out with me and said she needed time to "process the betrayal" as I'd lied to her for years. Go figure 🤷🏻‍♀️

kittycorner · 05/05/2021 23:03

@KatherineofTarragon

I get that it was awful. Unreliable childcare is very hard as a single parent. But to ruin someone's business when you really don't know the ins and outs, is awful.

Yes, she should have returned or at least communicated as soon as she could. But in essence to make it so she couldn't practice again and then take joy in her resulting misfortune seems awful. The thing is, it's awful to you too because it prevents you from psychologically moving on.

CockneyCutie · 05/05/2021 23:44

I was a full-time carer for a disabled lady.
My DH was diagnosed with aggressive cancer & given 4 weeks to live... the sister of my client moaned that I had ‘ruined Christmas’ by being with my dying husband ~ meaning that she had to help her disabled sister!!
DH died a few days after Christmas.

I often wondered if she ever reflected on her nasty words... probably not - she was a total bitch.

StillCoughingandLaughing · 05/05/2021 23:51

[quote kittycorner]@KatherineofTarragon

I get that it was awful. Unreliable childcare is very hard as a single parent. But to ruin someone's business when you really don't know the ins and outs, is awful.

Yes, she should have returned or at least communicated as soon as she could. But in essence to make it so she couldn't practice again and then take joy in her resulting misfortune seems awful. The thing is, it's awful to you too because it prevents you from psychologically moving on.[/quote]
But was it awful? A childminder gave up her job. That’s essentially all that happened.

CockneyCutie · 05/05/2021 23:56

Just remembered another one - a work colleague got very huffy with me and my boss. She declared that she felt ‘very sorry’ for the McCanns as “we all go out for the evening and leave our kids alone”
Both my boss and I said Errrr no, we definitely don’t, the colleague stamped off in a mood, saying we were ‘too perfect’ to understand the need to go out socially (and leave your kids alone!!)🤷‍♀️
Weird

fiveminutebreak · 06/05/2021 01:24

At work, I was doing a fairly new role, that I wasn't being given a lot of direction on from my boss. I had a colleague who I worked quite closely with, and had, up until then, got on really well witih. I started working on something without checking with her first (to give myself something to do, she was not senior to me in any way).

Anyway, she lost the plot and told me I should have told her what I was doing and that she should have been doing it (I had no idea this was the case, which I explained to her) and she didn't speak to me again. Literally, not at all. Frozen out. So weird. We could have just had a conversation about it and moved on... but she was content to lose the friendship over something so insignificant. It made for a very uncomfortable few months until I went on mat leave.

SunscreenCentral · 06/05/2021 01:37

Dirt poor young professionals new couple in an expensive city. We were spending the weekend together and had a very small fund (equal in the pot) to spend. Off to the supermarket to buy the staples (bread cheese wine). We fell out over bread. He wanted quantity over quality, relationship never really recovered

TurquoiseLemur · 06/05/2021 01:49

@Aunthe

MindGrapes the creating children type of eggs. It was so weird, I had actually got on well with him up until that point.

It gets weirder - DH worked for the same company and had been sitting at lunch with us for a while before leaving friend and I to finish pudding.

Then wham! I did know he and wife had fertility issues but didnt see that coming. The whole situation was ridiculous.

Eugh. Especially given that you hardly knew the person, this comes over as him basically saying "You're a woman, aren't you? So you can give me what I want." No sense of a woman having choice or agency at all just, Women are on the planet to fulfil my wants as and when I demand.

I hope everyone he asked said no. I wonder if the wife knows he was making these approaches?

FrangipaniDeLaSqueegeeMop · 06/05/2021 01:49

When I was 17, my friend started a fight with her ex's new girlfriend in a club we were in. She slapped the new girlfriend, who scratched her neck back before bouncers broke them apart. I stayed well away from it all.

When we went outside the new girlfriend went to see her sister, and pointed at us. The Sister, mistaking me for my friend, came up and punched me in the face.

My friend fell out with me because I didn't have enough sympathy for her poor neck, which consisted of three small grazes. She was moaning at me as I was nursing a black eye. She wasn't in the least bit mortified that her violent behaviour led to her friend being punched - in fact she said I should have stuck up for her Confused

I went round to hers with my mum the next day to get a few things I'd left the previous night. Her parents answered and also had a go at me for not sticking up for her! When I pointed out that I got a black eye because of her violent behaviour they said "well that's hardly Emily's fault that girl got the wrong person".

My mum, in an Uber calm and posh tone said "Gosh, no wonder you've a thug for a daughter with parents like you raising her. Oh well we can't all have wonderful daughters like I do. Have a lovely day" Grin

AdamAntsBitofFluff · 06/05/2021 02:52

During height of lockdown, my friend called and moaned about
her family
her boss
her co-workers
her neighbours
having to go into the office.

When she finished (30 mins of so) she asked how I was. I literally said ' not coping well with lockdown'
Her: "I can't be dealing with your problems' She hung up and I never heard from her again (11 months ago). We used to talk daily.

Embracingthechaos · 06/05/2021 03:32

For not having an abortion.

Apparently I wasn't thinking about the environment when I made that very selfish decision Hmm

NigelWithTheBrie79 · 06/05/2021 03:46

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orangesnapples · 06/05/2021 04:40

Because I shared a meme with a friend that reminded me of a joke we had on holiday. Got a raging text early one Sunday morning, refused to explain how it was insulting and couldn't remember the joke, very rude and aggressive, I was a bit hung over and told her to do one. A hour later her mum reposted the same meme saying
This reminds me of the pair of you on holiday!Hmm
That was 3 months ago, bumped into her mum last week, who had no idea we had fallen out and said but we was just talking about you she gave no indication that there was a problem.
People are strange.

StoppinBy · 06/05/2021 04:43

I refused to spend Christmas at my Mum's after she said she wouldn't keep her grumbly, growly pack of dogs (she breeds a toy breed of dog that are unsocialised with kids and had at the time about 10 dogs) seperated from our kids, then 5 and 18 months.

She told me I would just have to watch the kids, stop them from running around etc. I told her calmly that as it was her house she was allowed to not want to put her dogs outside but that as a family we wouldn't be coming for Christmas.

My younger brother told me that if I didn't come to Christmas he'd 'never fucking speak to me again'..... it's been several years now and he's kept true to his word.

No great loss, anyone who is willing to threaten me and expect me to put my children at risk of senseless harm is not welcome in my life at any rate.

Ohfudgeme · 06/05/2021 04:58

I've got 3 reason's why

  1. I changed job's and she didn't like I was on more money than her
  2. I had a boyfriend
  3. I was pregnant by my fiance and not married
BlackRibboner · 06/05/2021 05:34

Child benefit is means tested - income over £50k and you have to start paying it back (in the form of the high income child benefit charge) on a sliding scale until £60k, where you have to pay all of it back. No issue with the means testing, but the system is the most ridiculously convoluted thing!

When I was just married and told my friend we wanted to start trying for a baby, she said she thought we were going to be pregnant at the same time (she was in a very new relationship at the time). We didn't exactly fall out, but it was quite awkward and we never really got back to where we were.

Rowofducks · 06/05/2021 06:44

A friend got really angry at me for being upset that my dad had died as they had never known theirs. We didn’t stay friends for much longer.

Insert1x20p · 06/05/2021 06:56

My sister ate the last 4 fish fingers instead of splitting them with me. It escalated into a huge fight and we didn't speak for about 2 weeks. We laugh about it now (and fight about other trivial things).

APinchOfLOL · 06/05/2021 06:57

  1. A woman from my baby group stopped speaking to me because her cleaner said I didn't like her. Apparently, I went round to her house once to a baby plaything and her cleaner was there and I didn't chat to her. I asked what I had done or said and she told me I'd done nothing, her cleaner has a 6th sense and she just felt it. WTF????

  2. A school mum, whose child wreaks havoc at school fell out with me because my DS told hers that he thought Cross Road (game) was rubbish and her DS didn't like it. TBH I think we fell out because I told her to get a life.

  3. A friend/ acquaintance has stopped speaking to me because........I don't know. She just started blanking me and then her 10-year old daughter gave me a filthy look. I cannot think of any reason whatsoever why. We have not had words, our DC do not know each other and I have never said a bad word about her. I will not waste any time on it because I am not 11.

AbsolutelyPatsy · 06/05/2021 07:00

my comment sounded like the boss,
end of friendship sadly

PrincessPopple · 06/05/2021 07:04

One Friend - because our husbands went for the same job and mine got it.
Another Friend - because my 2 year old pushed her 2 year old.

SelkieFly · 06/05/2021 07:04

My mum fell out with me because i told her she hurt me. She wont have it. Has stonewalled me for a year.

I agree with a pp it'd be interesting to have the other side of the story posted under neath!

I suspect my mum would say after all we did for her..... (ie she owns me and can hurt me if she wants to)

Feedex · 06/05/2021 07:12

Being gay. I came out at 21 and lost most of my uni friends including the ones I was living with post grad in London. They just stop talking to me and I eventually moved out. We’d been inseparable for 3 years. The fact I had a gf I loved and felt like I was being my authentic self softened the blow a bit. But it stung.