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To be majorly pissed off at new lockdown rules?

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mediciempire · 31/07/2020 20:20

Teen DD has been looking forward to Eid for weeks. She has desperately been waiting to see the rest of her family and now we've been absolutely screwed over. She cried for most of the morning on and off and I'm just so annoyed that she's entering this state of absolute desolation again because she wasn't given a chance to prepare for Eid not being on. She was okay the last time if not very bored because she knew what was happening but this time she's just absolutely gutted. AIBU to be so angry? I just feel like it's ruined our day and I've wasted a whole load of money that I won't get back on food.

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JayAlfredPrufrock · 31/07/2020 22:00

Fireworks going off in downtown Oldham.

So celebrations are happening.

Bravefarts · 31/07/2020 22:01

It's exactly like announcing it on Christmas Eve. It was totally shit, and disrespectful.

It's like they just remembered Eid was happening, and panicked.

YANBU

randomer · 31/07/2020 22:02

Eid is not Christmas. Lazy thinking.

Polkasquare · 31/07/2020 22:04

@JayAlfredPrufrock

Fireworks going off in downtown Oldham.

So celebrations are happening.

People are still allowed to celebrate!
Eeeeeeeok · 31/07/2020 22:04

Sorry also wishing you Eid Mubarak op xx

mosscarpet · 31/07/2020 22:04

@craftgin say what???!!! I think if you read my post you would note money was one of many things I mentioned, and where did I say you lacked ampathy?? And what is to say OP hasn't also been furloughed or is struggling for money for any number of reasons - and what has that got to do with this thread anyway!!! ???

Eid Mubarak OP And I wish you and your dd well in these truly horrible times. Flowers

Bollss · 31/07/2020 22:04

@randomer

Eid is not Christmas. Lazy thinking.
In terms of it being a religious celebration where families usually get together it is entirely comparable.
Bravefarts · 31/07/2020 22:06

After a curtailed Ramadan, and Eid al-Fitr, I think a comparison with Christmas is reasonable, given that everyone was expecting a wee bit of respite due to the summer, and having family safely in the gardens. If pubs are open, it's not unreasonable to expect to be able to celebrate with family.

It was badly done.

randomer · 31/07/2020 22:06

Easter is a time for quiet contemplation, loss re birth. For those of us of a certain vintage, a time of considerable boredom and puzzling about what was good about Good Friday.
It is so lazy and rather stupid to compare Eid to Easter and/or Christmas.

PotholeParadise · 31/07/2020 22:07

I hope you and your family have the best week it is possible to have under these circumstances, OP. Also, really hope the biryani freezes well. The thought of that going to waste is a wrench.

P.S. I forgot. Eid Mubarak!

Bravefarts · 31/07/2020 22:08

For devout Christians, Easter is the more religiously significant festival.

But for family and food, it's Christmas. Maybe it's more like an Easter after the government cancelled Christmas.

Bollss · 31/07/2020 22:08

@randomer

Easter is a time for quiet contemplation, loss re birth. For those of us of a certain vintage, a time of considerable boredom and puzzling about what was good about Good Friday. It is so lazy and rather stupid to compare Eid to Easter and/or Christmas.
It's not lazy or stupid. They're both religious celebrations where families get together.

Just because YOU have a shite Easter or Christmas doesn't mean everyone does.

Longwhiskers14 · 31/07/2020 22:09

@randomer

Easter is a time for quiet contemplation, loss re birth. For those of us of a certain vintage, a time of considerable boredom and puzzling about what was good about Good Friday. It is so lazy and rather stupid to compare Eid to Easter and/or Christmas.
Lazy and stupid? Eid is a festival underpinned by religion that brings families together. To say it is nothing like Easter or Christmas is pure ignorance.
Livelovebehappy · 31/07/2020 22:09

In the grand scheme of things, losing money over a bit of food is nothing. People have lost jobs, lost loved ones and we’ve all had to make sacrifices over the last few months. So no sympathy from me.

amusedtodeath1 · 31/07/2020 22:09

Eid Mubarak OP!

I'm so sorry for you and your daughter, the timing of the announcement was far from ideal. Your DD is clearly bitterly disappointed, all you can do is make the best of a bad situation. Flowers

Bollss · 31/07/2020 22:10

@Livelovebehappy

In the grand scheme of things, losing money over a bit of food is nothing. People have lost jobs, lost loved ones and we’ve all had to make sacrifices over the last few months. So no sympathy from me.
It's clearly not just about the food is it? Open your eyes.
Longwhiskers14 · 31/07/2020 22:10

How gracious of you, Livelovebehappy. Would that be your attitude if households were banned from mixing indoors 90 minutes before midnight on Christmas Eve?

1234512345Meh · 31/07/2020 22:11

But those celebrations weren’t cancelled the night before.
It’s all rubbish. But worse if you thought you could legitimately have another family over/bought food/got kids excited and then that taken away the night before.

TotorosFurryBehind · 31/07/2020 22:11

I'm so sorry OP, how hard for your family. Eid Mubarak

cyclingmad · 31/07/2020 22:12

Well OP its been months since covid has had real impact, we are now 5 months into it and your the parent so start taking some responsibility in managing her mental health instead of blaming everything else. Things have been eased for a few weeks now so there's been opportunity to meet people in bubbles and then there has been news leading up to this point about increasing cases.

But as you said your going to sit in your negative pisssd off.mood which will be noticed by your child instead of managing expectations and dealing with change.

Problem here is people cannot deal with change qell and I do this for a living, people who refuse to ac eat and move on and qnaf to sit in the grief stage

End of the day it's your life but I wouldn't be wasting mine by being pissed up, angry and not doing more to manage my child's expectations. The messages have been clear and Leicester was a real wake up call for everyone and even then the government has said tirelessly local lockdowns will happen. Get used to this and then next time u won't end up feeling this way.

Allywill · 31/07/2020 22:15

@thegcatsmother

My Mum was devastated that she couldn't go to church and take communion on Easter Sunday. It is the first time since she was confirmed as a teenager that she has missed this, and she is 80 next week.

Easter is the most important festival of the Christian year; not Christmas.

It is hard for people of all faiths and none; but better a lock down than more deaths surely?

Same for my mum. I really don’t want to make this a competition in misery, it’s crap full stop but at least you can still go to mosque which for a religious festival is surely the most important.
randomer · 31/07/2020 22:15

How can Eid be like Christmas and/or Easter? How absolutely silly.

Please what are the connections?

Bollss · 31/07/2020 22:16

Get used to this

Sorry why the fuck should we get used to having our freedoms taken away at the drop of a bloody hat?

bellinisurge · 31/07/2020 22:17

Also in Greater Manchester.
There's been some ignorant shit posted on here from people with no idea what last night's contemptible bollocks was like. Sneaking an announcement out on fucking Twitter, two hours before the rules changed at midnight. Even a formal announcement by the PM at 6pm yesterday evening would have been better.
The passion for "othering" people on here is rampant. Rather than blaming the shitshow of a government for poor messaging and for supporting that twat Cummings. So-called "British common sense", my arse.
I'm so very sorry for your family. And all our children.
Eid Mubarak

ButterPie1 · 31/07/2020 22:17

Another just dropping in to say hope you and your daughter are OK Flowers to say this has been handled badly by Bozza and Co is an understatement! Hmm