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To be majorly pissed off at new lockdown rules?

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mediciempire · 31/07/2020 20:20

Teen DD has been looking forward to Eid for weeks. She has desperately been waiting to see the rest of her family and now we've been absolutely screwed over. She cried for most of the morning on and off and I'm just so annoyed that she's entering this state of absolute desolation again because she wasn't given a chance to prepare for Eid not being on. She was okay the last time if not very bored because she knew what was happening but this time she's just absolutely gutted. AIBU to be so angry? I just feel like it's ruined our day and I've wasted a whole load of money that I won't get back on food.

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Sunshine124 · 31/07/2020 21:33

Eid Mubarak OP

I’m sorry that your plans for the day were ruined and completely understandable for your daughter to be upset. I’m upset as it ruined our plans (seeing baby’s grandparents for the first time since February this weekend- was all packed and ready to set off today then found out during the night feed.) and I’m a grown adult so completely understand for a teenager to be upset. Hopefully it won’t last too long.

cologne4711 · 31/07/2020 21:34

But I thought we were still in only two households mixing or 6 people at most from different households

Well quite.

I'm not sure how going to pubs, restaurants and shops with dozens of other households are more safe than having a socially distanced garden party

Me neither, but that's not what the government was worried about, it was worried about large family parties INSIDE.

Mistlewoeandwhine · 31/07/2020 21:36

I live in Trafford. One set of neighbours on one side have loads of guests over right now and the other side have got dressed up and clearly spent Eid elsewhere as they’ve been out for ten hours in super fancy outfits . Both have clearly broken the rules.
This is why it’s like this in Gtr Manchester - because everyone thinks the rules don’t apply to them.

SantaClaritaDiet · 31/07/2020 21:36

@EustaciaPieface

Eid Mubarak to you and your family xx

And people mentioning Easter - there’s no way people celebrate Easter in the same way as Eid! And even if they did, you didn’t get a few hours notice to cancel your plans.

Clearly you have no idea how some people celebrate Easter, but regardless.

What about people who were planning a WEDDING due in a few hours.

It's not a competition, it's just a sad and upsetting situation for everybody, but let's not make it hateful too shall we.

cologne4711 · 31/07/2020 21:36

we certainly hadn't got the house full of food for two households worth (including teenagers

If the OP has genuinely only enough food for two households she wouldn't be complaining - you can get through that yourself within a week. Clearly a much bigger affair was planned which was exactly what the government wanted to prevent (and would have been against the rules anyway).

Bollss · 31/07/2020 21:37

@JayAlfredPrufrock

4.5m people in the North West. But last time I checked they weren’t all followers of Islam. Hmm
Sorry so we can only be annoyed about not being allowed to visit family and friends if we're Muslim?

Were all missing out, its just that some of us are also missing out on a special occasion.

CraftyGin · 31/07/2020 21:37

@Longwhiskers14

CraftyGin Why do you find it so hard to have empathy for OP's predicament?
Where have I said I lack empathy? I am a pragmatist.

I have relayed stories of my own DD’s disappointment, so I do understand. As a practising Christian, I get the disappointment with not being able to celebrate with church family, notice or no notice.

I am very disappointed that from post #2, this thread became sectarian with no provocation.

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mediciempire · 31/07/2020 21:38

@LEELULUMPKIN the town we live in has a relatively low infection rate. and I'm not sure what you intend for her to do, shake her fist at groups of people not socially distancing?

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mosscarpet · 31/07/2020 21:38

I am so sorry for you and your dd , and all those that found themselves in this position today. Those saying it is like Easter - I dont agree. I am a Christian, Easter is important to me. I normlly host easter for my Dsis, BIL, Neice and Mum and dad. In some ways I enjoy Easter more than Christmas. BUT we knew Easter wasn't happening this year weeks in advance. We had time to alter our plans and expectations. This was announced last night. As people said it would indeed be like announcing at 10 pm on Christmas Eve.
It is completely unfair that pubs, restaurants etc remain open for all yet these restrictions have been forced on people looking forward to eid with a matter of hours notcie - it doesnt follow science and there was no need for it.
I hope you managed to salvage the day a little OP if that was even possible.

tillytoodles1 · 31/07/2020 21:38

It must be so hard for you, but I'd rather cancel one years celebration and stay alive

Kitkat369 · 31/07/2020 21:38

Eid Mubarak Op and dd. Hope despite the last minute Eid cancellations you all still had a nice day. The food you can freeze, outfits can pop on hold and you can have post Eid celebration with families at later date once safe. Our Eid celebrations were limited to calling family. It’s not much but still good to talk to them and can meet at a later date God willing. TC Star

overnightangel · 31/07/2020 21:39

Can you imagine the govt giving 3houes notice that Christmas was cancelled?

🙄

DameMargaretofChalfont · 31/07/2020 21:40

@NoMoreReluctantCustodians

I cannot for a minute imagine that this government would introduce these rules on Christmas Eve.

YANBU OP and I hope you manage somehow to have a decent Eid. FlowersCake

FFS!!!

The Government has taken decisive action to prevent lots of people meeting up during Eid which would increase the rate of transmission and, possible, result in untold deaths!!!

This was not a racial decision - it was a sensible, humanitarian one.

And please remember Christians missed family celebrations for Holy Week and Easter Day - the most important dates in the Christian calendar.

This decision was made to save lives - regardless of colour, religion or background.

itsmschanandlerbong · 31/07/2020 21:40

SO MUCH (not very well) veiled racism in these comments. I'm so sorry this has happened to you and your family, it's really shit. As other posters have said, if this was announced 2 hours before Christmas there would not be comments basically telling you and your DD to "suck it up". This demonstrates the governments attitude to the pandemic from the beginning. They have been very poorly prepared, have delayed decision making until it's too late then have made decisions which have had a disproportionate impact on BAME and/or working class families, whilst implying they are to blame for the spike in the first place.

Bollss · 31/07/2020 21:40

@tillytoodles1

It must be so hard for you, but I'd rather cancel one years celebration and stay alive
Ah yes because celebrating Eid means sudden death Hmm
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mediciempire · 31/07/2020 21:40

@Sunshine124 I feel absolutely awful for those with young babies during this time. I hope you get to see your family soon.

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bigmamama · 31/07/2020 21:40

@mediciempire Eid Mubarak sister.
I also have a dislike of freezing cooked food, I never want to eat it, I try make my husband eat it so I don't have to.
I hope these people that are saying "oh you know I'm sorry you missed out on your celebration, but it's what we have to do for the greater good" etc etc .. will say the same thing if this happens at Christmas hours beforehand, although I'm pretty sure nobody will be saying that!
I hope you and your family managed to have a bless'ed day x

DameMargaretofChalfont · 31/07/2020 21:40

And Eid has not been cancelled - it will just be celebrated differently.

dementedma · 31/07/2020 21:41

Eid hasnt been cancelled and Christmas wouldnt be cancelled if restrictions were announced on Christmas Eve. You just have to celebrate it with fewer family members than anticpated..like my mothers 85th birthday in May which should have has family coming from all.over the world. The party was cancelled, but not the day itself. It's shit but you have to adapt.

Jarli · 31/07/2020 21:41

Me neither, but that's not what the government was worried about, it was worried about large family parties INSIDE.

Yes - and those families travel between both sides of the families and visit friends.

They also have the previous experience of one Eid celebration in lockdown so they will be driven by some data-based evidence as well.

It doesn't make it any less shit for those that can't celebrate as expected though.

CraftyGin · 31/07/2020 21:42

@cyclingmad

This really shouldn't come as a surprise, i just don't understand people who are so ignorant to this. Just because lockdown has been easing the message has always been if cases increase localised lockdoab will happen and it'll happen fast. This is the new normal, we've been told for months yet people burying their heads in sand refusing to accept this. Only has to look at what happened to Leicester...no area is immune from that happening.

Its tough but this is way if life now. Expect short notice lockdowns if cases increase in your area. Accept that and life is easier to manage in terms of expectations.

Yes!
neveradullmoment99 · 31/07/2020 21:43

Its the way it has to be. The possibility of theses things has never gone. Its disappointing but its a serious situation.

Supersimkin2 · 31/07/2020 21:43

My godson is gutted at having his best friend's wedding ruined at a moment's notice - he was due to be best man.

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mediciempire · 31/07/2020 21:44

@cologne4711

we certainly hadn't got the house full of food for two households worth (including teenagers

If the OP has genuinely only enough food for two households she wouldn't be complaining - you can get through that yourself within a week. Clearly a much bigger affair was planned which was exactly what the government wanted to prevent (and would have been against the rules anyway).

I'm not sure what the point of lying on an anonymous internet forum would be. I'm completely sure you've never attended an Eid celebration. What person would want to eat the same meal for a week straight, breakfast lunch and dinner? We have 3 different desserts bc we like to offer our guests a selection. We have 2 starters bc again selection. We have a massive vat of biryani which needs to be eaten and yes, all this food is for two houeholds. We eat a lot. We have large portions because it's a day for binging!!
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neveradullmoment99 · 31/07/2020 21:45

it may well happen at Christmas time but then you just celebrate in your own family group. Its necessary to stop the virus.