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To be majorly pissed off at new lockdown rules?

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mediciempire · 31/07/2020 20:20

Teen DD has been looking forward to Eid for weeks. She has desperately been waiting to see the rest of her family and now we've been absolutely screwed over. She cried for most of the morning on and off and I'm just so annoyed that she's entering this state of absolute desolation again because she wasn't given a chance to prepare for Eid not being on. She was okay the last time if not very bored because she knew what was happening but this time she's just absolutely gutted. AIBU to be so angry? I just feel like it's ruined our day and I've wasted a whole load of money that I won't get back on food.

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CraftyGin · 31/07/2020 21:22

[quote mediciempire]@CraftyGin it is so great for you that your DD is so emotionally mature that she is able to understand all this. Unfortunately, some of us have children that do struggle with being told they will be allowed to do something and dramatically let down at the last minute.

@TheNewLook but how are they able to ensure that everybody at these tables are from the same household? I know personally when I've been out to the shops there have been people brushing past you and not wearing masks. That could lead to several households mixing.[/quote]
I felt that my job was to manage expectations with my DD, which makes her resilient.

Yes, she was gutted, but she saw the bigger picture and got over it. She has a whole tonne of things to be gutted about this year, but will these setbacks affect the story of her life?

It’s our job as parents to carry her through these setbacks, and also to impress upon her how blessed she really is. There are so many people worse off from Covid itself, and economic outfalls.

rwalker · 31/07/2020 21:22

I get your disappointment but I think Eid is the reason they have done this lockdown .
It's massively social , Big gatherings, lots of social mixing, families in each others houses .
I think they have left it to last minute as really reluctant to impose it as they will be called racist .
I work in blackburn the Eid celebration are MASSIVE, MASSIVE crowds
80% of the new cases were asian .There was a funeral with 250 peal the Imam tested positive .
Be safe not disapointed

FruitLikeAPeach · 31/07/2020 21:23

@TheNewLook

I'm not sure how going to pubs, restaurants and shops with dozens of other households are more safe than having a socially distanced garden party?

I can see how these things are different. In a pub people are sitting at separate tables with their own group, not mingling with others. The tables are set apart and there’s no gathering at the bar.

Socially distanced garden parties tend to get less socially distanced as the party goes on when everyone there knows each other.

If you think people are socially distancing in pubs (some will be I'm sure but definitely not all) I think you're mistaken.

I'm currently pregnant so not visiting a pub but my friend went and she said once people had had a few too many there was no distancing happening whatsoever. People were going home with others to carry on the party when they closed etc... Lots of drunk people cannot be expected nor trusted to effectively social distance.

You can still meet in your bubble

Not in the areas of the North where lockdown has been reintroduced.

Jarli · 31/07/2020 21:24

Hope you have a great Eid OP.

I do wonder if the announcement came late because they were holding off in the hope that the restrictions did not have to be reintroduced.

Bollss · 31/07/2020 21:25

Be safe not dissapointed? Ffs come on!

Brenna24 · 31/07/2020 21:25

Eid Mubarak.

I feel so sorry for both you and your daughter. That is so little notice and after months of nothing she must have been really looking forward to it. I am in my 40s and I would have felt like crying too if it was me. I hope that you managed to have a good time today regardless.

We are Catholic and definitely missed our usual Easter routine here but it is not comparable at all as we were well prepared for it.

Grumpymum789 · 31/07/2020 21:26

To the PP who said it’s only in the NW, can’t be too many people affected, this affects 4.5m people! That’s not insignificant.

Lunar567 · 31/07/2020 21:26

The numbers of infections are inflated, the tests are inaccurate.
I would ignore government guidance and live your life. It is not a law.

BingeOnChocolate · 31/07/2020 21:26

Eid Mubarak from West Yorkshire.

We completely feel the upset your daughters going through. The government have continuously given notice for the new rules or lockdown yet this occurrence they haven't. It's wrong on all accounts. You are a to socialise with a bubble - can you bubble with some more family so you can celebrate and DD see them?

Chocoholic12 · 31/07/2020 21:26

Eid Mubarak OP! So very unfair. I would not have blamed you if you carried on with your plans. I agree they would not do this if it was xmas eve!!

Northernsoulgirl45 · 31/07/2020 21:26

Yanbu. This was really poor on behalf of the Govt.

FruitLikeAPeach · 31/07/2020 21:27

@Grumpymum789

To the PP who said it’s only in the NW, can’t be too many people affected, this affects 4.5m people! That’s not insignificant.

Stinks of I'm alright Jack attitude doesn't it.

I do agree that this is just pushing the problem further down the road as another poster put it. This isn't going anywhere and we cannot do this forever.

Craiglang · 31/07/2020 21:28

Eid Mubarak, OP. I am sorry that you and your family are missing out on this celebration.

However, even with the awful timing, it's the right thing to do. I haven't seen my parents since Christmas. We haven't seen our extended family in just as long. You're not the only ones canceling plans. It's sucks, but it's what must happen right now. We didn't have Easter and we'll likely miss Christmas too with our loved ones.

SantaClaritaDiet · 31/07/2020 21:28

I agree they would not do this if it was xmas eve!!

I hate these comments, so unhelpful and trying to stir up hate.

Just look at what is happening to WEDDINGS instead of trying to create unnecessary anger.

The whole situation is bad enough, what's the actual point of trying to make it worst?

cyclingmad · 31/07/2020 21:28

This really shouldn't come as a surprise, i just don't understand people who are so ignorant to this. Just because lockdown has been easing the message has always been if cases increase localised lockdoab will happen and it'll happen fast. This is the new normal, we've been told for months yet people burying their heads in sand refusing to accept this. Only has to look at what happened to Leicester...no area is immune from that happening.

Its tough but this is way if life now. Expect short notice lockdowns if cases increase in your area. Accept that and life is easier to manage in terms of expectations.

Jarli · 31/07/2020 21:28

The numbers of infections are inflated, the tests are inaccurate.

The tests (at least those in March/April used in NHS hospitals) are inaccurate - they are giving false negatives though, not false negatives.

Longwhiskers14 · 31/07/2020 21:29

TrustTheGeneGenie I know, right! I look forward to everyone sucking up the 'be safe, not disappointed' message if Christmas is cancelled with 90 minutes to go.

ComDummings · 31/07/2020 21:30

Eid Mubarak

Frogsandsheep · 31/07/2020 21:31

Eid Mubarak @mediciempire
I was gutted about not observing Holy Week and Easter as usual but as you said we knew in advance and there was time to accept it was going to be that way so didn’t have to change plans at the last minute Sorry your dd is so sad

saltycat · 31/07/2020 21:31

The notice for this was far too short. Same applied to weddings that were to happen this weekend onwards also. Disgraceful really.

Communication is everything. If people are told a reasonable time in advance they have time to adapt. Not anymore it seems.

Is this Cummings keeping us all wary every night for another instruction or what?

FruitLikeAPeach · 31/07/2020 21:31

@cyclingmad

Its tough but this is way if life now. Expect short notice lockdowns if cases increase in your area. Accept that and life is easier to manage in terms of expectations.

I'd have much more respect though if it weren't for the hypocrisy and inconsistency of it all.

So you can't meet a member of another household outdoors or in a garden practicing social distancing but you can sit in a pub or restaurant with a load of strangers.

Why don't they just come out and say the truth. Which is that these things generate money which is why they won't close them despite it likely having a much bigger impact than a few socially distanced cuppas in your parents garden. It's blindingly obvious the reason why, just tell the truth.

paddingtonbearsmarmalade · 31/07/2020 21:32

@FruitLikeAPeach you can still meet if you have formed a support bubble (I.e. if one household in that bubble is a single person household).

To be majorly pissed off at new lockdown rules?

LEELULUMPKIN · 31/07/2020 21:32

Perhaps your DD and everyone else who is so upset about this should be directing their anger and disappointment at those who are responsible for the infection rates rising so shockingly.

Yes it's crap but if everyone had followed the rules in the first place it wouldn't have been an issue, whether 90 minutes or 2 weeks.

EustaciaPieface · 31/07/2020 21:33

Eid Mubarak to you and your family xx

And people mentioning Easter - there’s no way people celebrate Easter in the same way as Eid! And even if they did, you didn’t get a few hours notice to cancel your plans.

JayAlfredPrufrock · 31/07/2020 21:33

4.5m people in the North West. But last time I checked they weren’t all followers of Islam.

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