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To be majorly pissed off at new lockdown rules?

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mediciempire · 31/07/2020 20:20

Teen DD has been looking forward to Eid for weeks. She has desperately been waiting to see the rest of her family and now we've been absolutely screwed over. She cried for most of the morning on and off and I'm just so annoyed that she's entering this state of absolute desolation again because she wasn't given a chance to prepare for Eid not being on. She was okay the last time if not very bored because she knew what was happening but this time she's just absolutely gutted. AIBU to be so angry? I just feel like it's ruined our day and I've wasted a whole load of money that I won't get back on food.

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Onceuponatimethen · 31/07/2020 21:12

Op I also have a very sensitive dd and I think I’m now going to have to start dropping hints that local lockdowns can be put back in any time.

I’m thinking if the government are going to be this bad at communicating I should prep her eg that we might not see grandparents at Christmas

mrsBtheparker · 31/07/2020 21:13

we might all be in this same position at Christmas

But will we get any sympathy? The leader of the Bradford Mosque has been brave enough to defend the decision, saying that he has been trying to get his community to take things more seriously.

FraughtwithGin · 31/07/2020 21:14

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Scout2016 · 31/07/2020 21:14

I was due to go and stay with a relative this weekend. I haven't seen any family since Christmas and this one is in Scotland so we had to wait for their restrictions to lift too. Went to bed thinking we would be going, wake up and we aren't. Now I don't know when I might be able to see any family. I am an adult and I have had several big cries over it. So no, YANBU.

OhLookHeKickedTheBall · 31/07/2020 21:15

Eid Mubarak. I feel so much for your DD, and all those who were looking forward. The notice was completely disgraceful.

CraftyGin · 31/07/2020 21:16

@Toomanyradishes

Yanbu, everything else gas been introduced slowly, lockdown, masks etc there was decent warnong given for all of them, but this has been handled terribly it would have been very easy to gice more notice. Eid Mubarak I hope you can at least do a zoom call with your family if that's appropriate
Starting something can be done in advance. Stopping something is virtually instantaneous (like the lockdown in March).
Flowers009 · 31/07/2020 21:17

My partner and friend celebrating

MaxNormal · 31/07/2020 21:17

What is it with posters with gin in their names and lack of empathy? Perhaps time to lay off the sauce?

DubaiDublin73 · 31/07/2020 21:18

Eid Mubarak OP Thanks

Tristatearea · 31/07/2020 21:18

I’m sorry for you and your daughter OP. Hope you can save some of the food and celebrate a via Zoom with your family for now if that’s appropriate Flowers

DarkHelmet · 31/07/2020 21:18

To everyone who says 'well we've all missed out on something' you're clearly missing the point! You knew you'd miss it, you didn't think it would go ahead only to have plans cancelled by an announcement on Twitter of all things, with 2 hours to spare!

Eid Mubarak from the DarkHelmet household, also in an area affected by this instant lockdown rubbish.

thecognoscenti · 31/07/2020 21:18

Eid Mubarak OP.

I'm so sorry this has happened. The lack of thought and compassion is so sad.

Flowers009 · 31/07/2020 21:18

Maybe I missed something. What rules?

SantaClaritaDiet · 31/07/2020 21:18

why being angry against CraftyGin?
It's other posters who started to compare with Christmas.

OP is not BU at all to be upset, we all were when the 1st lockdown kicked off, and each of us who is being caught in the new restrictions is pissed off too. It doesn't really matter if you miss out on Easter, your wedding, your family, it still hurts a lot.

I mean, we can understand WHY and the context, but we can still get majorly pissed off about Covid. It's really nothing to be cheerful about.

BertiesLanding · 31/07/2020 21:19

@mediciempire

Teen DD has been looking forward to Eid for weeks. She has desperately been waiting to see the rest of her family and now we've been absolutely screwed over. She cried for most of the morning on and off and I'm just so annoyed that she's entering this state of absolute desolation again because she wasn't given a chance to prepare for Eid not being on. She was okay the last time if not very bored because she knew what was happening but this time she's just absolutely gutted. AIBU to be so angry? I just feel like it's ruined our day and I've wasted a whole load of money that I won't get back on food.
I think it's time to grow up. I know it's hurtful that plans get cancelled, but this is a virus and it doesn't have a schedule, and it doesn't care about our own personal priorities. What it does do is to kill people - and it's killed rather a lot of them.

Why should the government give warnings about changing plans? How can they know, for a start? And why would they take into consideration personal plans when they are thinking about the macro impact of this?

They get told they acted too late. And now they're being criticised for acting too early. That tells me that we, as UK citizens, need to start growing up and accepting that life is going to be shit, in ways small and large, due to a phenomenon that is largely out of our control.

uniglowooljumper · 31/07/2020 21:19

Some will just do it all anyway. Think that ship has well and truly sailed.

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mediciempire · 31/07/2020 21:19

@Yorkshirepudding1987 I am also in a town where the rate of infection is relatively low which makes it even more frustrating. I do think it will have an effect on racial tensions but I also think it is incredibly unfair to pin the blame on one community when I have seen teenagers of all races gathering in packs yet the timing of the announcement strongly implies that it is just because of once community.
@TingTastic i'm not sure you understand the amount of food we cook. we have big portions and lots of different courses and bits of food.
@PablosHoney haha if I was closer Wink

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SantaClaritaDiet · 31/07/2020 21:20

To everyone who says 'well we've all missed out on something' you're clearly missing the point! You knew you'd miss it, you didn't think it would go ahead only to have plans cancelled by an announcement on Twitter of all things, with 2 hours to spare!

no one knew we would miss so much to start with

and just look at people in Spain, they didn't have a clue a quarantine would suddenly kick in with next to no warning.

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itsgettingweird · 31/07/2020 21:20

Eid Mubarak

I learnt that today alongside the whole story behind Eid and why it's celebrated. I felt it something I should do as the outcry from Muslims was heard nationwide.

I understand why the government did it but totally agree they must have known the preceding days it was looking like it may need to happen. I do think those who say he wouldn't do it so last minute for a Christian festival are probably right.

And it shouldn't matter the number of people likely affected and therefore the size of backlash or disappointment.

Everyone's faith is important equally.

I hope you get to celebrate somehow one day with your family.

Longwhiskers14 · 31/07/2020 21:20

CraftyGin Why do you find it so hard to have empathy for OP's predicament?

FizzAfterSix · 31/07/2020 21:20

This virus isn’t going away so we have to live with it.
These lockdowns are pointless and just pushing the problem down the road.
The mental, social and economic cost is not being factored in at all.

Polkadotties · 31/07/2020 21:21

@TingTastic agree with everything you say

DarkHelmet · 31/07/2020 21:21

Moot point though isn't it. We were given plenty of time to get used to the idea with the first lockdown, not 2 hours notice.

PotholeParadise · 31/07/2020 21:22

@FraughtwithGin

Firstly, observing from outside the UK, the entire thing has been a fiasco. Nobody has had the guts to be firm and frank. As a result there were mixed messages and situations open to "interpretation". Secondly, yes, it is unfortunate that this edict has been issued just before Eid. However, the information I have been "fed" suggested that the population most closely involved with Eid might also be the most vulnerable and may not have been as rigorous in the observance of distancing etc. that would have been required. Thirdly, as far as I know the UK is still a Christian nation (in theory), so what about Easter and Christmas? I did not notice, but happy to be corrected, that anyone from the indigenous, native population was here at Easter complaining about lockdown. Finally, a good lesson for any teenager to learn, you may "want" something, but you may not always get it.

Indigenous? Native? With an attitude like that, don't set foot in a church. Your feet might catch fire.

Many people were unhappy about Easter, but we had plenty of notice, and we certainly hadn't got the house full of food for two households worth (including teenagers)!

All I had to store was Easter eggs for extended family and they just stayed in the wardrobe until lockdown was over.

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