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To be majorly pissed off at new lockdown rules?

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mediciempire · 31/07/2020 20:20

Teen DD has been looking forward to Eid for weeks. She has desperately been waiting to see the rest of her family and now we've been absolutely screwed over. She cried for most of the morning on and off and I'm just so annoyed that she's entering this state of absolute desolation again because she wasn't given a chance to prepare for Eid not being on. She was okay the last time if not very bored because she knew what was happening but this time she's just absolutely gutted. AIBU to be so angry? I just feel like it's ruined our day and I've wasted a whole load of money that I won't get back on food.

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DarkHelmet · 01/08/2020 01:28

Can someone explain to my why if the R number is 1.1 in London but only approaching one in the north, why London hasn't had tightening of lockdown but we have? Thanks.

MrsTerryPratchett · 01/08/2020 01:39

@DarkHelmet

Can someone explain to my why if the R number is 1.1 in London but only approaching one in the north, why London hasn't had tightening of lockdown but we have? Thanks.
The R number is a bit of a blunt instrument. If it's R2 in one location but that's all contained nursing homes, hospitals and acute care, that's very different to R1.1 in the general population. Still dreadful but you don't cancel Eid.
DarkHelmet · 01/08/2020 01:42

@MrsTerryPratchett it's all a bit of a shambles as far as I can tell.

MrsTerryPratchett · 01/08/2020 01:46

Completely!

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Councilworker · 01/08/2020 01:58

Eid Mubarak to those celebrating. It must be so disappointing after missing all the iftars with family and Eid Al Fitr but hoping you would get to celebrate in summer with Eid Al Adha. To have had so little notice is hard for everyone to deal with especially teenagers who are often less emotionally controlled than adults can be. If you have time to get your head round things like schools closing with a couple of days notice then it's easier than it just being snatched away.
When people were going to massive raves in parts of Greater Manchester (which led to 2 murders, 1 rape and 3 stabbings plus a fatal overdose) back in June I don't recall quite so much sanctimony on here. Usual bosom hoiking but I don't recall parents of white teens on here in the area being scrutinized to see if perhaps they were a part of it or if maybe they were in part accountable for it happening.
. People asking OP how she can have enough food to worry about waste if she was still following guidance...not everyone caters with a single magic Mumsnet 3lb chicken and is full after simply glancing at the rice. Shameful trying to implicate she might somehow be part of the problem.

HeIenaDove · 01/08/2020 02:18

When people were going to massive raves in parts of Greater Manchester (which led to 2 murders, 1 rape and 3 stabbings plus a fatal overdose) back in June I don't recall quite so much sanctimony on here. Usual bosom hoiking but I don't recall parents of white teens on here in the area being scrutinized to see if perhaps they were a part of it or if maybe they were in part accountable for it happening

Excellent point.

flashbac · 01/08/2020 02:23

Sickening that around 40% think yabu. As if cancellation of a major religious festival with a few hours notice via twitter is a reasonable thing for a democratic government to do. Wtf is wrong with ppl?

MustShowDH · 01/08/2020 02:35

It's rubbish, but not exactly unexpected. We were talking the other day about the fact that Xmas may look very different this year.

I hope you are able to save most of your food and get to wear your outfits sometime soon.

Over 45k people won't get to celebrate ever again, so I guess we just have to count our blessings.

Alabamawhirly1 · 01/08/2020 02:35

Sorry this is going to come off as really ignorant, but why is Eid cancelled. Why can't it's still be celebrated just in each individual family home.

If this happened at Xmas we would just celebrate Christmas at home with the people we live with surely - we wouldn't cancel Christmas.

I appreciate you might have bought a lot of food - but can't you just take that the others homes and have a socially distanced chat on the doorstep.

I know its not the same - but we're in the middle of a pandemic. Kids missed months of school, people lost their jobs and livleyhoods. I know not getting to celebrate in the way you intended is not nice, but you can surely still celebrate in some way can you not.

kateandme · 01/08/2020 02:45

tbf we mopaned they lcoekd down too late.
moaned they gave a week for masks to come into play.
moaned other things werent done on the day.
but the lateness was shit.say it in the morning at least

choli · 01/08/2020 02:53

@CherryBlossomPink

I live in one of the areas affected and when I drove through an area heavily populated by the Asian community on my way give, there were lots of large Eid celebrations taking place, so an awful lot of people have ignored the restrictions. I agree the timing was shit - my birthday night out tomorrow has had to be cancelled, but the people most affected in my area are the ones ignoring the restrictions!
Well, yes. That's why they are the most affected.
LilQueenie · 01/08/2020 02:57

I'm sure you can meet up at a later date or have celebrations via zoom. Its not being done for any reason other than to protect everyone from a virus which is on the increase again. Don't be another reason to spread it. Why is it so hard to understand.

flashbac · 01/08/2020 02:59

Not everyone is on twitter though.
To add to that, are people telling me the government couldn't reasonable have foreseen the issue until only a few hours before? Really? This is what's insulting and upsetting. People are not stupid. Most understand we need to be careful.

flashbac · 01/08/2020 03:01

"why is it so hard to understand"

Oh really? You think a democratic government that know what's it's doing should act like this? Making announcement via Twitter so late in the flipping day? Seriously?

LilQueenie · 01/08/2020 03:10

flashbac The Government are useless with this. lockdown should have been ages ago but better late than never. Ok go ceelebrate and mingle and give us all a chance at covid. ffs Easter wasn't much fun either but too bad. Its nothing compared to battling a disease on life support. For some that is the reality and that is why I question the pettiness you show.

itsgettingweird · 01/08/2020 06:01

I agree that in public spaces we have more control.
I agree a family sitting in a pub is less risk if tranmission than families all meeting together behind closed doors.

But I've seen - as many have - that control of people in public isn't always what it should be. There should be tougher restrictions on public spaces and tighter controls. If people truly believed those in public were still seated as a household they'd probably accept that a SD garden party is more of a risk.

AlternativePerspective · 01/08/2020 06:21

Tbh I think the fact that EID is a massive celebration is part of why the restrictions had to be tightened before and not after. Because with social gatherings it was almost certain that figures which are already high in the north would increase even further, and then a lot of people would be asking why the government didn’t lock down on Friday.

TBH they’re damned if they do, and damned if they don’t, People complained that they took too long to lock down in the first place, now that they’ve acted straight away people are complaining about that as well...

Leflic · 01/08/2020 06:25

@GreytExpectations

Some posters are horrible on here. Can't believe people have such a lack of empathy and can't comprehend why such a religious celebration is important, comparing it to a party is so disrespectful and then not understanding the devastation of it being cancelled with 90 minutes notice. A lot of you need to take a good, hard look at yourselves and start showing some god damn empathy, it won't kill you and it will likly make you a better person. And ffs stop with the borderline rascism
If it were Christmas though people would be saying exactly the same the same things. Lots of people moaning about the lack of notice. Loads of others saying it’s own fault for doing lots of Christmas shopping and increasing the transmission, people asserting that you shouldn’t have planned for Christmas in the first place etc. It’s not racism it’s just the standard response.
Di11y · 01/08/2020 06:30

Bit late now but tomorrow could you pack it all up and celebrate in a park? I thought you were allowed to meet up in public spaces.

RunningFromInsanity · 01/08/2020 07:04

Well for starters it’s not been ‘cancelled’. You can still celebrate in your household.

Comtesse · 01/08/2020 07:06

@cyclingmad u ok hun? Calling people stupid for being upset about this is pretty unkind. People are allowed to moan if they like, and frankly I feel real sympathy because they way it has been announced is rubbish. Eid/ weddings/ family get togethers - we would all feel sad if these were cancelled with very little notice. Why are other people’s emotions making you angry?

If the govt was really serious about preventing community transmission they would shut pubs too. No one needs to drink a beer. The social distancing sounds fine in practice but completely disappears when people are 3 pints in.

Eid Mubarak OP Flowers

cyclingmad · 01/08/2020 07:31

It's been 5 months now endless messages about if cases increase local lockdowns will happen with short notice warning. Anyone outside Leicester would have had a wake up call as to what can happen

Yday in Ilford 200 people celebrating eid together ,not even allowed to have 200 people gather anywhere.

These are adults who can go to work and do a job, functioning adults. So if your told no mass gatherings than yes your a stupid person id you take part.

Yes you're stupid adult if you refuse to listen to the ongoing messages for qeeks and then throw a childlike tantrum cos your area was lockdown and complainnof shodf notice

Noone has cancelled eid you can celebrate it with your family over video l, celebrating with family of friends doesnt have to be face to face in times like this. Id rather mine were all safe and alive

There have been plenty of threads about people going to beaches before it was allowed, protesters and about the illegal raves.

Today still headline news that come spetemwbr families could expect restrictions on meeting others as kids go back to school, 4 week advance notice of what could happen but guess what stupid people will come and moan because they refuse to listen now and then moan its short norice despite the 4 week warning.

Yeah I'm a xunt for being an adult who isn't going to complain and amin or throw a childlike tantrum because I've decided to listen acknowledge and accept what is going on and what could happen.

If u wanna be upset fine go right ahead and waste your energy on it buf don't blame government when you choose to stay ignorant and act like a child 🙄

My nephew hasn't cried cos of restrictions in place why cos my sister has educated him to understand the situation and managed his expectation ever since news was going on about increasing numbers. Instead they had zoom party with damily instead.and a good time was still had.

Then again some people just rather wallow in misery

Jarli · 01/08/2020 07:33

@Comtesse do you realise how many people are reliant on the hospitality industry???

Comtesse · 01/08/2020 07:41

@jarli yes I do. But the pubs social distancing is a joke. I went to one last week for the first time - people queuing at the bar, no one took contact details, bar staff hugging customers. It was a ZOO and most unnecessary (left after one and won’t be going back any time soon). Restaurants seem better, people tend to sit down, but pubs are a hot mess.