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To be majorly pissed off at new lockdown rules?

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mediciempire · 31/07/2020 20:20

Teen DD has been looking forward to Eid for weeks. She has desperately been waiting to see the rest of her family and now we've been absolutely screwed over. She cried for most of the morning on and off and I'm just so annoyed that she's entering this state of absolute desolation again because she wasn't given a chance to prepare for Eid not being on. She was okay the last time if not very bored because she knew what was happening but this time she's just absolutely gutted. AIBU to be so angry? I just feel like it's ruined our day and I've wasted a whole load of money that I won't get back on food.

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AllTheUserNamesAreTaken · 01/08/2020 00:13

But Sallydimebar, were those things cancelled with 90 minutes notice?!

thousandflowers · 01/08/2020 00:14

@TingTastic

Surely if it was only yours and one other household (as per the rules before the additional lockdown) then there can’t be that much food going to waste? Can’t you just cook it all up and eat half tomorrow and the other half later in the week?

If your DD is a teenager then she is old enough to understand why this has to happen and to wait until things relax again

It is purely these threads that show people were planning celebrations for Eid with more households than allowed anyway, proving that the government made the right decision

You are saying what many on this thread are clearly thinking.
AllTheUserNamesAreTaken · 01/08/2020 00:17

The lack of empathy from so many posters astounds me.

The op has complied with the restrictions. She’s allowed to be upset and have a moan about it. She’s allowed to be worried about her daughter receiving another disappointment when she was struggling.
I’m sure they made the best of the day they could but it’s completely understandable they were upset

Of course they will ‘get over it’ but doesn’t mean they can’t be upset for today

MaintainTheMolehill · 01/08/2020 00:17

Aw OP it's crap, especially for the kids.

I had to explain to my 9 year old that her First Holy Communion was cancelled and she said "it can't be cancelled because something THAT bad can't happen". She was so disappointed so for your dd to have only hours notice must have been terrible.

I really hope you can make it special in some way. Flowers

cyclingmad · 01/08/2020 00:17

@sallydimebar exactly...Op would be back starting a thread on how irresponsible the government was for not locking down after one of their family members gets it.

Or OP will be back declaring how pussed off she is if she lost her job or someone in her family did because of covid

Or she will be back complaining about schools being opened up and its not safe to send her child who isn't mentally prepared for what itll be like at school

Despite all the news and messages going on for months...she will still complain

Sallydimebar · 01/08/2020 00:22

No but as we’re in the middle of pandemic still , I know if I plan something next week , next month there’s a chance it won’t happen . If I choose to fly out on holiday next month there’s a chance I won’t get back home or have to cut holiday short to get back home quick . If that’s saves one person , one family loosing a member to COVID I’m happy with that . Just hope I have all family and friends next year to celebrate with .

ComeOnBabyPopMyBubble · 01/08/2020 00:22

@cyclingmad can I borrow that crystal ball of yours?

Since apparently you know exactly who OP is, what she had planned, how she's raising her children ,what she thinks,how she feels etc.

Or maybe you could follow your own advice and get over over yourself, and stop being pissed off at strangers on the internet for daring to have feelings.

MadCatEnthusiast · 01/08/2020 00:29

OP's not saying 'why was my Eid cancelled' but rather why was it cancelled 2 hours before on Twitter - equivalent to a breakup text and not face to face in a press conference or a quick breaking news broadcast. It's a form of respect, surely.

I, as a Muslim, would understand if Johnson/Hancock went and said sorry, it's too dangerous for Eid gatherings in gardens a day or three before.

It's common knowledge in government that the 2nd Eid is fairly close to the first one meaning they knew and they could have pre warned us much earlier. Considering, more things have been/are/were opening up this past two weeks anyway

ToyKitchenSink · 01/08/2020 00:33

@PhilSwagielka

I'm sorry, OP. It's ridiculous how short notice they left it. Eid is hardly a small festival, you'd think they would have announced it earlier. At least when Passover happened, Jews had plenty of time to cancel.
Why mention 'the Jews' in this context?
tabulahrasa · 01/08/2020 00:33

“OP's not saying 'why was my Eid cancelled' but rather why was it cancelled 2 hours before on Twitter”

She’s not even though, she’s just going...I’m pissed off that it happened.

Which you’d think was understandable...

bagpuss90 · 01/08/2020 00:36

I think it’s pretty shit - I’m very sorry for you and your family 💐

PotholeParadise · 01/08/2020 00:36

ToyKitchenSink

I think Phil is just trying to empathise as one woman of faith who's had her religious celebrations disrupted to another.

cyclingmad · 01/08/2020 00:38

@ComeOnBabyPopMyBubble op made it clear on an earlier she doesn't care and what's to be upset and pissed off blah blah blah so if doesn't take much intelligence to realise she is a person who rather than use her brain and accept reality of the situation and what governmenf has been telling us for weeks on end she chooses to wallow.

I'm not pissed off at her, I find it quite weird that people come on moaning and being upset and placing blame in the wrong places. I'm just shows the mentality and stupidity of people really.

She just wants validation for feeling like crap and could avoid this by managing it better but lets not hold ourselves to account and god forbid people actually take personal responsibility

It doesn't matter if only 90mins were given when government has been telling us all along this can happen at short notice.

If it happened where I'd live yeh ifs such buf I'm not gonna be pissed off, upset and my child wouldn't either because I'd have properly managed their expectations

SD1978 · 01/08/2020 00:42

Unfortunately in Melbourne, it was a celebration like this that caused one of the massive upsurges we have and continue to see- because whilst you maybe did plan to socially distance, many won't. I'd imagine they've seen what happened here, and have implemented their decision there for that reason. More notice though should have been given.

Sallydimebar · 01/08/2020 00:44

OP has every right to be upset of course but “majorly pissed off” at new lockdown rules no I don’t think so . I want nothing more then come September for my child to get back to some near normal including attending school 5 days a weeks not stoping and starting. I’m not 100% sure that’s going to happen yet . As I said I’m just taking each day as it comes I can celebrate birthdays , Easter , Christmas etc next year hopefully. What I can’t do is try and catch a 10 year old up on what he’s missed of year 5 education. We had to get a tutor in to help as he was slightly behind at beginning of year 5 and was worried home schooling just was not enough while trying to work full time , But as of midnight last night she can’t come to our house now next week . I could say I’m pissed of bu I really don’t think Boris is sat there each day thinking how can we mess peoples plans up this week I think he would love nothing more for COVID to piss of too.

MaxNormal · 01/08/2020 00:45

cyclingmad give it a rest will you. We get it, you have no empathy.

MaxNormal · 01/08/2020 00:46

thousandflowers what is everyone "clearly thinking"?

feelingverylazytoday · 01/08/2020 00:54

@randomer

I see some parallels between Eid el Fitr and Easter, shared ideas of fasting and contemplation. The " What are you doing for Easter and Did you have a good Easter" has crept up in the last 10 (?) years or so fueled by adverts promoting happy families digging into legs of lamb.The present. Christmas, I am led to believe is a motley hybrid of Pagan folklore and the belief that Christ was born on the 25th December. Somehow, it has expanded into a hideous spendfest and countless episodes of handwringing and falling out about trifle, cheese and who's got the best gift.
Could you be any more ignorant if you tried?

Eid Mubarak OP, and our other Muslim posters.

Izitso · 01/08/2020 00:55

Can't make sense of this mess but I know we have to accept this as the new normality. Nevertheless, Eid Mubarak OP - we're all in
this together Flowers

BigChocFrenzy · 01/08/2020 00:56

Some people relish the misery of things being taken away from other people who dare to have fun like weddings or holidays

but they really wet themselves in delight when they can kick a minority they dislike

BigChocFrenzy · 01/08/2020 00:58

The situation didn't change over a few hours
At best, the government dithered again for several days

They could have given a few days notice

and yes, it is very similar to cancelling Christmas gatherings at 10:30 pm on Christmas Eve

ToyKitchenSink · 01/08/2020 01:02

@PotholeParadise

ToyKitchenSink

I think Phil is just trying to empathise as one woman of faith who's had her religious celebrations disrupted to another.

I hope Phil is a person of faith and is empathising. But Jewish people tend to refer to themselves as that - Jewish people - rather than Jews and it got my spidey senses tingling. Perhaps after the Wiley Twitter debacle and lack of outrage I'm over sensitive to anti Semitism.

Anyway, I don't want to derail this thread.
OP, I can only imagine how disappointing the late change in rules was and I'm sorry you, your daughter and others are so devastated. I can understand the need for the change but agree it's been really badly handled. I hope we will all be close to our friends and families again very soon. I'm aching to see my mum and dad and won't be able to now either. Eid Mubarak to you and yours.

ComeOnBabyPopMyBubble · 01/08/2020 01:04

@BigChocFrenzy

Some people relish the misery of things being taken away from other people who dare to have fun like weddings or holidays

but they really wet themselves in delight when they can kick a minority they dislike

That just about sums up a lot of MN lately.
notangelinajolie · 01/08/2020 01:08

You should be explaining to your daughter why we have gone into this new lock down.
I live in an area of Greater Manchester that has seen a huge increase in Corona cases. We are not Muslim and we live in a area that is predominately White/Christian. Corona knows no boundaries and we are in lock down too.
I am glad the government acted so swiftly.
Please tell your daughter that we are all in this together.

Twofurrycatsagain · 01/08/2020 01:14

Not the original point of the thread but I'm pretty sure Asda didn't invent Easter. And most of our Christian celebrations incorporated pagan aspects: Eostre was possibly a pagan forerunner to Easter

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