Husband sending nudes emotional affair

[AngryAF]

Someone has just messaged me pictures and screenshots of my husband's penis and three months of conversations.
Topics cover everything from food, our children, our sex life, what they want to do to each other, who our children will live with when he leaves me!!!

(D)H says it was a game, meant nothing, that he hasn't met her and was just getting kicks from it. He is apologising and wants to come home (I kicked him out). He sent this woman, who is a stranger pictures of our children! Some where he was in bed with our toddler hugging and taking selfies - for her! She asked for them!!

I dunno wtf to do! I was angry but now I'm numb.

I thought we were in a good place... What a moron!

Aibu to ask wtf do I do?

Oh love, that's awful! I wouldn't be able to come back from that. Have you got any support? For me it would be over, I hope you are ok, what a shitty thing he's done

Yeah I do, but I'm so embarrassed to tell anyone!
I've told his mother, but she's obviously in bed, mostly so he will move to hers which is miles away from me!

If it was "just a game" he wouldn't be sending pictures of the children and discussing where the kids would live when he left you.

I hope you are OK - I know how tough this can be.

You should leave him, I know it's not that easy but his words are beyond redemption, in my opinion

Messaging another woman and sending dick pics is bad enough but to send pics of your DC is completely wrong.
I’m sorry he’s done this, I think you’ve done the right thing to kick him out. You need time and space to think but I can’t see this relationship mending after his behaviour.

I doubt it was just an "emotional" affair.

So sorry for you. I won’t be much help but it’s almost 4am and wanted you to know that some of us are also awake and can be here to talk.
I wouldn’t be able to forgive the pics of the children and working out where they’d live when he left.
You have nothing to be embarrassed about, he’s the one the shame falls upon, not you, so tell someone who will be a good real life support to you

Sorry to hear this OP.
Have you got a friend you can tell who can come and be with you tomorrow?
The numbness is the shock kicking in so please look after yourself, try to eat a little bit if you dont feel like it.
I'm glad you've kicked him out. What an idiot he is.
Take care. I know you will feel awful right now and in the coming weeks but it will get easier.
Handhold from me.

I dunno wtf to do!

You've kicked him out so keep him gone. What he's done is irredeemable. You'd be a fool to take him back.

Ah love I'm so sorry that's horrid. The pics and chat is one thing and you might be able to believe his fantasy story, but talking about what he will do when he leaves, where the kids will go, what they would do to each other. He's moved out in his head and ditched you, i don't think there's a way back from there. Kick him out and take control, so sorry

Sorry OP, but do you have any proof it was only an "EA"? It's just plain weird to send pics of your kids when it's just an online "game" thing. See if you can do some digging, if you can bear it. My bet is he is minimizing...I know from experience...

Men are such shit

Here and listening OP! Hope you're ok. X

You don't know what to do?
You already know. You kicked him out. Now keep that door locked.
Don't let him convince you this was a game.

That is more than an "emotional" affair

For me the idea of his sending a woman sexual images and then adding to the list with PICTURES OF HIM IN BED WITH YOUR CHILD is MASSIVELY blurring the lines and shitting on your family.

I wouldn't let him back ever. If he wanted to move miles away, I'd say good riddance.

A game that meant nothing? Hardly. It seems to have meant everything. He prioritized OW enough to sexually and emotionally cheat, discuss your marriage, send photos of your precious children and make plans for their future.

Your H has treated you and your babies with utter contempt and disrespect. In my opinion, this is unforgivable. He is completely untrustworthy and a rotten role model.

Just LTB. You’ll never trust him again and that’s no way to live.

Oh God... please don't forgive him. You were so strong to boot him out, now you have to stay strong. He will say literally anything to you now in order to worm his way back in. It's all bullshit. He shagged this woman (despite what he says) and he will do this to you again and again for as long as you allow him to.

Nope. No way. She could have been anyone ffs. Pictures of your children? Using your children to lure her in? God I think it's gross enough when men do that with dogs in the park. What a twat.

Have you lost respect for him?

God I could never take him back. He'd planned to leave you and already involved the kids in his sordid relationship. I always think it's worse when they say it didn't mean anything, you wouldn't risk hurting someone you love for something that means nothing to you. So you're less important than someone that means nothing to him?

Urgh, this is rank- he should be ashamed to have used his child in this way. I’d be keeping the door firmly locked and getting my ducks in a row for permanent separation.

A 'game'. Nice gaslighting.

He spent months telling another woman the most intimate details of your life. He involved your children. He plotted how he would leave you, all while pretending everything was normal to your face. That's a game to him?

You deserve better than someone who treats your marriage, your relationship, your confidence with such utter contempt.

Gosh op, I'm so sorry. You've done the right thing by kicking him out... It will be keeping it that way that's the hard part. I'm so sorry

Completely agree with @Nottherealslimshady - He was willing to risk his relationship with you, his children’s home and happiness, for something that meant nothing to him? What a fucking prick.

So the OW sent you the messages?