Husband sending nudes emotional affair

[AngryAF]

Someone has just messaged me pictures and screenshots of my husband's penis and three months of conversations.
Topics cover everything from food, our children, our sex life, what they want to do to each other, who our children will live with when he leaves me!!!

(D)H says it was a game, meant nothing, that he hasn't met her and was just getting kicks from it. He is apologising and wants to come home (I kicked him out). He sent this woman, who is a stranger pictures of our children! Some where he was in bed with our toddler hugging and taking selfies - for her! She asked for them!!

I dunno wtf to do! I was angry but now I'm numb.

I thought we were in a good place... What a moron!

Aibu to ask wtf do I do?

Thing is, the way you speak about your husband it sounds like you have little respect or liking for him anyway, being thick etc. So even if you were to somehow get past this, is it a marriage you want to save?

The account that is "hers" is full of spam accounts that have liked her photos. Lots of single men from India.

Definitely a con!

He is an idiot! I have nothing nice to say about him right now. I found out all this at 2am

She was probably a man, from the sounds of things, and it's all been a total made up situation, possibly for blackmail or just for kicks

That doesn't change what he did but it might give you something to taunt him with.

Sorry, op. You are best off out of it.

Having an emotional affair with a scammer is almost worse. All the intent with none of the genuine feeling.

Her interest in me and the kids concerns me.

As well it should. Your H has set you and the children up as targets in his sleazy game. This stranger is using your photo for sexual gratification and your children’s images could be used likewise. This is a safeguarding issue. Your husband is despicable. Don’t buy into his ludicrous manipulative excuses.

whether its a scam or not, i'd be keeping him kicked out. He sounds like a hideous husband, father and person in general.

You can do better - alone!

He dangled pictures of your children to a predator on the internet.

I hope this is sinking in OP.

Your OH has a loose screw. Get rid and start over.

Wow dodgy AF... what details did he give out addresses, places of work?
I doubt that ‘She’ even exists.

She wanted photos of your kids, and he obliged? That's fucked up. OP please don't take this man back, you deserve so much better than him

Oh God that is vile! I couldn't forgive a dick pic but to even mention your children is beyond betrayal! Please don't let him back, you have done the right thing. Has this recently been sent to you? Why on earth would she want to know so much about you and your home life anyway?

this is a common fraud- they will have used it to blackmail him. check your accounts as he may have paid until he could no longer afford it

I’d be kicking him out, contacting the police and ss. He’s sent pictures of you and your children for someone to get off on, someone who is a stranger on the internet. You have no idea if this person poses a threat to you and your children. They may know where you live, it could be part of a human trafficking ring or paedophilic ring - why else would they request photos of you and the children?

I’d do this because when he wants access to the children, unsupervised, you’ll look unreasonable when you don’t want them to go. The reality is that he’s not safe to be around them unsupervised, they need protecting from someone who gives their images to strangers in the internet to get off on. He might be ‘thick’ but he’s also dangerous.

Do not let him back in the house.

Sorry OP but I'd say this will turn out to be a blessing. He is unstable and untrustworthy.

I'd be RAGING that he sent pictures of the children to a scammer/OW. That would be going to court when it comes to access arrangements.

She has asked him for pictures of me, our children. She told him she got off on looking at pictures of me while she was "playing" with herself.

He sent pictures of your children. Those pictures may be all over the internet by now, where she and many others could be masturbating over them by now.
The police should be involved, simply because she has sent this filth to you.

You seem to be taking this as DH is a little stupid, or on meds.
I would be incandescent with rage - and there would be NO going back.

This is horrific, and I can only reiterate what other PPs have said. Well done for kicking him out, don't let him back. And I would be contacting police and SS too for advice/guidance and to report this.

If he's never met her, how on earth does he know its not a cat fish? Someone who's asking for pics of his kids? Weird asf if you ask me! Sorry to hear this has happened. I'd definitely not be able to move past this! Get his stuff packed, get him out

I wouldn’t call that an emotional affair. He sounds like an absolute idiot. You and your children deserve better. I would be fuming especially talking about your kids and sex life! Every credit to you for kicking him out. Keep your resolve 💐

DO NOT take him back. I've met a couple of similar specimens and they will not magically change. They're brilliant at gaslighting though.

I'd get rid just for him sending photos of your DC to some random on the internet. That's without the dick pics and anything else he may have done!

File for divorce.

There is no way on God's green earth that I would stay married to a man that thought so little of me and my children, that he was prepared to send photos of me and my children to a complete stranger and discuss my health and life.

Apart from the affair...sending pictures and details of you and the kids to abl stranger is one of the biggest violations of privacy that I can think of

Tell someone you know, who matters.

You have to have someone who can support you through this. The embarrassment isn't yours to carry!

And regardless of what the OW turns out to be you could never, ever trust him again, could you?

And yes, check your bank accounts.

Good luck with it all!

Did he say she'd asked for money op? How did he get your contact details?