Husband sending nudes emotional affair

[AngryAF]

Someone has just messaged me pictures and screenshots of my husband's penis and three months of conversations.
Topics cover everything from food, our children, our sex life, what they want to do to each other, who our children will live with when he leaves me!!!

(D)H says it was a game, meant nothing, that he hasn't met her and was just getting kicks from it. He is apologising and wants to come home (I kicked him out). He sent this woman, who is a stranger pictures of our children! Some where he was in bed with our toddler hugging and taking selfies - for her! She asked for them!!

I dunno wtf to do! I was angry but now I'm numb.

I thought we were in a good place... What a moron!

Aibu to ask wtf do I do?

Well done on putting him out right away OP.

There is so much wrong with what he has shared with this OW but the details of your lives and pictures of your children are the biggest betrayal.

Clearly this person has sent these to you to cause pain and probably get you to kick your husband out so she can have him. Let her have him, he is not worth you.

Wow I would be so pissed. I don't know if I could forgive this, your children could have been at risk

What kind of pictures of the children did he share???

Are you buying into his lies? He is minimising. You are probably in shock and the enormity of what he's done hasn't sunk in yet. Stop blaming the OW. He chose to lie and cheat. He is a disgusting man. He sent pics of you and the kids! Do not let him back. I have a feeling there is more to this. Keep strong, hold your head up high.

Holy shit, this is horrifying. I'm so sorry that you're having to deal with this, OP.

I'd be considering taking this to the police, tbh. Actually, I would take this to the police, so that they can investigate if the person who received these pictures is who your H says she is, or whether it's part of a scam, or worse.

And I'd lock down the bank accounts, just in case, screenshot everything and save it somewhere safe, in case you need it later, and block his calls and not let him over the threshold while you have some space about where you want to go from here.

Involve someone in RL who isn't him or his mother, 90% of the time the mother will want him home and everything sorted so will help with the minimising and excuses.

This isn't an affair. This is about photos of your DC being shared online for this person to masturbate over and share with other predators online. Your DH is an arsehole and completely stupid into the bargain.

He can't be trusted so don't let him back into your house; call the police and SS, as this has become a safeguarding issue.

Who was masturbating over pictures of children?? What kind of pictures!? Wtf

Could I get over a digital affair...probably, yes after much anger etc.

Could I get over the danger he has put you and your children in. Never. get copies. At present he would be allowed supervised access only.

My mind would be going everywhere right now. I wouldn't let them out of my sight.

Is this even real? Yesterday there was a thread - which actually scared me. Checked to see what was happening and it has been removed. It was same topic area to this. If this is not real why do people do this? If it is real then how is OP so calm?

Scam. Turn it all over to the police. If your children had been conned into sharing those photos, we would call it grooming. Unbelievable that an adult would be so dick-led as to fall for it. Most marriages would not survive such a betrayal. Let's hope it's just blackmail and not CSA.

I've unfortunately had experience of the online grooming of children. I discovered that it was happening to my DD2 (then 7). I was alerted to this when she spoke about 'online boyfriends'. I also caught both DDs taking photos and trying to send them. I read them the riot act and thankfully they weren't actually sent anywhere.

Sadly, it's obvious that these predators would groom parents as well, because they would be more likely to have access to children that way.

I do suspect that's what this is about, I'm afraid.

Please contact CEOP with regard to what has happened. A common pattern is blackmailing the parent or carer (emotionally, or with release of intimate pictures) to get increasingly inappropriate images of the children. Even if in this case they weren’t successful in getting inappropriate ones, the images sent may have formed part of a ‘coming soon’ sort of pitch. Using the photos, authorities may be able to identify where these photos are and other at risk children.

Equally, the sophistication of this account researching local knowledge sufficient to have a conversation (another city in the UK, basic tenets of first language conversation) suggests a level of sophistication and commitment that would concern me.

Keep screenshots of everything, for the authorities and for your divorce case. Do not entrust custody of children to this man in any unsupervised way. Whether it’s due to vulnerability of stupidity, he cannot be trusted to keep them safe.

Wtf op! You need to be less worried about his dick pics and more worried about him sending pictures of your children in bed to COMPLETE FUCKING STRANGERS like what the fuck is this guy thinking?? I'd be reporting it to the police to investigate exactly who this person is.

I'd contact the police OP. Incredibly worrying

YANBU OP, sorry to hear it!
I hope you find a solution for your sake 💐

Hi OP.

Just checking you're ok and hoping you and DC have gotten some plans in place to protect yourselves.

I wonder if the reason for him feeling guilty and having stomach pain all week is because they were blackmailing him and he hasn't paid so new it was going to come out. Did you check your bank accounts?

Hope you're okay op.

There was no blackmail. Money in accounts is safe, our savings were in my account which we use to save because we never got round to setting up a joint savings account.

I am an avid fan of body language expert videos. I have grilled H multiple times and I do not believe he is lying to me anymore, all the clues and cues to his intentions are truthful, remorseful and honest.

After detective work, I think this person is a male catfish - can't explain right now for reasons I cannot discuss but I am convinced. They are from the UK due to the phone provider and slang words used "dozy cow". The accounts they used are still up, even after I told them I was going to the police. The phone number has not been cancelled.

They told me what H had done within days of the first dick pic and within 30 hours of the last one. He sent two dick pics and three dirty talk conversations. I think for them to have done that so quickly, and for them not to have blackmailed him a dick pic was all they wanted.

I have the full log of conversations.

I can't discuss anything in regards to my children.

The naked photos of the woman used for the catfish didn't show her face. The breasts are too big for the body of the pictures with a face. Possibly they just want dick pics for their next catfish. But the person being used for face pics didn't match the naked photos at all. Body sizes all wrong.

Their pictures are old - old model phones, handbags and dresses. Don't show up on reverse image search sites.

I can't go into details about my next steps which is why I haven't posted before now. H knows I am on here and although he gave me his electronic devices I do not want to risk it.

His parents are disgusted, his mother is especially devastated, and that word is no exaggeration.

You’re incredibly strong OP.

Good luck x

Oh you do know what to do
Stay angry
Get rid
Bloody idiot