Shower etiquette

[chocolatesaltyballs22]

Just interested in whether, generally speaking, the people in your household clean up after themselves when they've used the shower?

We have two bathrooms - en-suite, and family bathroom used by my daughter (17) and two stepsons (13 & 19) when they are here. 19 yo is home from Uni at the minute and it's a constant source of frustration to me that whenever he has a shower he leaves soap, hair (very long) and bodily hair all over the bath for whoever goes in next to find it. He's been told multiple times to rinse the bath down when he's finished. It goes in one ear and out the other.

AIBU to expect him to just clean his sodding pubes off the bath when he's been in there? If it was only him and his brother sharing I would leave them to it but my poor daughter having to walk in and find that

I think you mean it's imperative that his dad sorts it out.

Also @KrabbyPatties, why are you landed with it? Kick the lazy fucker out. You only get one life.

No he's not angry at me. Just a fucking slob. I've had enough of it - I don't even want him coming to stay any more because he puts me on edge the whole time he's here.

Sounds like there's more to this story... You seem to really, really dislike/resent him.

This proper pisses me off with my DP. He’s a dirty slob. He always leaves pubes/back & chest hair (he’s like an ape) all over the shower and shit splatter on the toilet. I’ve asked him nicely to clean up, I’ve nagged him to clean up, I’ve threatened to take pictures and post them to Facebook to embarrass him. He still does it, not as much with the toilet anymore since the fb threat, but I still come across the odd splatter. Some men are oblivious to dirt. When he cleans the bathroom he does a shit job as well. I don’t tell him he’s not done a very good job though, as I don’t want to demotivate him from actually attempting to clean the bathroom when he does.
When we buy another house I’m making sure we have 2 bathrooms and he will not be allowed in mine, amd I will not be cleaning his!

I’d be a bit blunter than “please can you rinse the shower down after use” if he’s not paying attention. I imagine any stepmother saying “I and your stepsister are fed up of finding your pubes and hair in the shower after you use it” is enough to embarrass any 19 year old boy into not doing it again in a hurry...
Does he have a girlfriend? I'd wait until she's visiting, then walk in and say the above. If that doesn't make him take action, nothing will. In the absence of a girlfriend, any of his mates will do.

His girlfriend dumped him. And he only seems to have Uni mates that we've never met!

@PrtScn

When we buy another house I’m making sure we have 2 bathrooms and he will not be allowed in mine, amd I will not be cleaning his!
Just ensure there's room to build a third bathroom for the kids! Start 'em early...

Send him to clean every bathroom top to bottom, baths basins lavs showers the lot. Rinse and repeat every time he leaves one bathroom dirty

Don’t be ridiculous. No one uses a “squeegee” on shower panels. At least, I hope not. Why would you when the water washes them clean during every shower?

And some women, too.....

Right, but why should that be his problem?

@AmateurDad : I take it you don't live in a hard water area?

Disagree. 13ish is when you're most disgusted by this sort of thing. Uni age is different.

I agree, but I think OP said her dd is 17, it's the other stepson who is 13. Either way she shouldn't have to face it of course.

Some men are oblivious to dirt.

i read some real bollocks on mn sometimes but this (and other comments of this ilk) really get on my tits. They aren't oblivious to dirt. (and some women are like this too). They are oblivious to the need to clean their own mess/shit up.

Update: husband is currently turfing SS out of his pit and giving him a lesson on full bathroom cleaning!

Those who live in hard water areas, I can highly recommend these brushes by Oxo Good Grips. I just keep them on a shelf in the shower and attack a small area for a couple of minutes while I'm giving my conditioner time to do its work. It crumbles the limescale off the tiles and grouting and when you rinse it the water runs away a pleasing shade of orange.

@chocolatesaltyballs22

No he's not angry at me. Just a fucking slob. I've had enough of it - I don't even want him coming to stay any more because he puts me on edge the whole time he's here.

Do you do his washing...?

@nanny0gg no. I used to do everyone's washing but I got fed up of it. I do mine and my daughter's, and my husband does his and the boys. He sometimes gets the eldest to do it.

As soon as I read this I knew teenagers would be involved. They just don't get it.

I absolutely feel your pain on this. I have two stepsons one 17 and one 20. The 17 year old tidies his stuff away and will also wash his dishes. The 20 year old does absolutely nothing. He has a shower and then throws his wet towel in the corner of his room and then gets a clean towel put the next day and does the same again. A week goes by and then he throws all the sopping, stinking towels in the washing basket on top of everyones good clothes. I actually find it replusive. His room absolutely stinks and he sleeps on a bare mattress which we’ve already replaced a year ago because it was rotten and stinking. Touching his things actually makes me shudder. Our house is lovely but his room is bacteria ridden and rotten. I can’t say anything to him though as he thinks its my job to tidy up after him and that he shouldnt have to do anything. I feel for you.

Yep, it's just laziness and expecting (knowing) that others will clean up after him. He needs to be given a lesson in cleaning up after himself, and he should do it while supervised so there is no question about whether he knows what to to do or if he can do it or not. Obviously he knows how and is able to, but by doing this, he then has no excuses in the future, plus he will then be more likely to do it for a quiet life.

Next time gather up the pubes and sprinkle them on his dinner. He'll soon get the message.

Maybe suggest he has an eye test (if it's COVID-ly safe where you are)? Maybe he thinks he's cleaned it well enough, but just can't see well enough to see everything that needs cleaning. Just thinking that if he's been living with others at uni, and leaving a mess, people will have been moaning at him about it for ages. So maybe there's a better explanation than he's lazy / doesn't care about others.

I'd struggle to fully clean a bath / shower without my glasses and glasses and a steamy bathroom don't work well together. I have to go back after I've put clothes on.

I get that he is a slob, but I am shocked that you stated that you didn't like the lad, he's your step-son. Maybe he doesn't bother his arse because he knows full well that you dislike him.

It all comes off when they get bleached later on.

Yes. But who will do the bleaching?