WWYD Sisters wedding

[Monkeymilkshake]

Hello,
Asking for some advice as i am torn between 2 options.
My sister is getting married in France in a couple of weeks. We dont know if we should go or not. I really really want to be there for my sister and see her get married but...
We would need to cross the country as the wedding is taking place in south of France (think 9hr + by car, no airport nearby).
We would be travelling with 2 DC (under 4yo).
Restrictions means we would have to wear masks for ceremony but not for reception. There will be around 200 guests at the wedding. Being in a close room with so many people panicks me.
I should also say, we are all fit and healthy (no one shielding etc).

What would you do?
Yabu: it's your sisters wedding. Go go go
Yanbu: there is a pandemic dontcha know. Stay at home.

I certainly would (though I would have postponed my celebration in any case). I don't expect people to risk their own or their family's health for an occasion, however important.

What I would NOT forgive is if someone gave me, or a family member, Covid, or even only helped to cause a local lockdown, because they'd been to a 200-person reception despite all the warnings.

@ConkerGame

Oh no, just saw your update. Really hope she forgives you, I wouldn’t I’m afraid!

What the fuck is wrong with you?

I just read your update. I think you did the right thing.

@ConkerGame

Oh no, just saw your update. Really hope she forgives you, I wouldn’t I’m afraid!

Oh give over

ConkerGame

Oh no, just saw your update. Really hope she forgives you, I wouldn’t I’m afraid!

And would you be able to forgive yourself if your sister and family caught the virus?

I didnt take the decision lightly. My sister wont forgive me as there is nothing to forgive. Her and her stbh love our kids and understand we dont want to risk anyones health. They made the decision to hold such a wedding; we made the hard decision not to go.
We'll find a way to celebrate them on the day and will have a proper get together later.

@ConkerGame lucky it isn't your wedding then 😂 anyone who goes ahead with their wedding in a pandemic will have to accept that people may not make it.

@ConkerGame

Oh no, just saw your update. Really hope she forgives you, I wouldn’t I’m afraid!

What an unkind comment for an OP in such a horrible situation, and how telling that you think there is anything to forgive.

@Monkeymilkshake

I didnt take the decision lightly. My sister wont forgive me as there is nothing to forgive. Her and her stbh love our kids and understand we dont want to risk anyones health. They made the decision to hold such a wedding; we made the hard decision not to go. We'll find a way to celebrate them on the day and will have a proper get together later.

Definitely did the right thing especially given new quarantines being brought in all the time. Glad that your sister is so understanding too :)

Its your sisters wedding. Leave kids with their dad and you go.

Extremely hard decision but in these circs the absolute right one. Journey way too long & overseas. If you catch covid even trying to track n trace it after that long journey & a 200 head reception be a nightmare. As for the person with 150miles drive to her sisters funeral - that I would do in a heartbeat even if I'd to stand outside.

I'm not sure and don't know how to vote, based on covid alone I wouldn't bother and the journey seems abit much, however if you can wear masks at the ceremony and be sat in your own separate area for the reception it could work, I would maybe talk to her about arrangements for your safety and go from there ie you sit at your own people and spend a couple of hours at the reception x

i wouldnt be going with covid etc. just tell her you will catch her next one.

Haha let’s all be glad not have a flat out bonkers sister like Conker.

I think you’ve made the right choice, hard as it is. Where I am we can’t even travel to the next city because of outbreaks - and I can’t socialize in anyway in case I’m exposed and can’t work. Everyone’s having to make tough choices at the moment and anyone with a small amount of empathy understands that.

NZ's biggest Covid-19 cluster (87 cases) was the result of a wedding... Just saying! Sounds like you've made the right call.