To shop as a family?

[lockeddown92]

We haven't shopped together since lockdown but it's getting to be a right pain. Would we be unreasonable to shop together this evening?
DS is 8 months so can't run off and get too close to people. DH is the chef in the house and often has a better sense of what to get it something is out of stock. I'm the driver so I've been doing all the shopping myself for months. We have a dinner planned for Saturday and I have family members with dietary requirements.
I know I could drive to the shops with DS and DH, then me and DS sit in the car while DH shops, calling me if he needs to query anything. DS will probably get fed up of being in the car and complain loudly.
Our local Lidl is always really quiet after 7pm so would we be horribly unreasonable to go together? I kind of think we would but it would be so much easier.

I am not incapable. I've been doing it for months. I just think we'd make a better job of it together. At the moment I'm leaning towards no but I still have a few hours to make my final decision.

Just go Op. He could come in with you and help and then one of you could head back to the car with the wee one while the other does the checkout etc.

If it gets really busy then you could do the same.

We love shopping as a family. Really missing it - DH goes on his own now. Love planning meals and getting inspired and kids love helping to decide what we have and chatting to the staff each week. Come to think of it people do think we are quite boring as we do lots of family stuff!!

but I still have a few hours to make my final decision

Or just make a decision now and stick with it. Or make a decision now and change your mind later. It's only a food shop, it doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things if a few of the ingredients are less than ideal or one person goes, or two people go. No need for a 'final' decision. No need for ongoing discussions on here. No need for ongoing discussions as you navigate the shop. It's really not that important.

If a 'final decision' about a supermarket run needs to take an entire afternoon and requires input from strangers, something's not right. But I guess you already know that.

@BigBadVoodooHat yes I do and I'm addressing it. For the time being however this is a big decision for me. Thanks for your input.

[quote lockeddown92]@SantaClaritaDiet yes he is perfectly capable of doing the food shop on his own, that leaves me and DS in the car. We could do laps of the car park but it's not a lovely day here so we'd be warmer in the car. I suspect this is what we'll do but I have a few hours to decide. [/quote]
I have already said just go into the shop but, if you decide not to, is there no park or slightly more pleasant place to walk around that you could go to while he is in there? Have you checked Google maps if it’s not an area you’d normally walk around on foot? There are so many parks.

If you're one of those couples who spend an eternity stood in front of the same display for ages debating what to buy completely oblivious to the growing queue of people waiting to grab a box of cereal, then YABU.
Also if you're one of those couples where one stands one side of the aisle with the trolley and the other stands across the aisle having a conversation then YABU.
I've never understood the desire for group trips to the supermarket but I guess we're all different.

Lots. Plenty of joined at the hip couples who can't do things separately, eg walk behind each other on the pavement when someone is coming towards them.

But what does that have to do with them choosing to shop as a family? I really don't get it at all. Lots of couples genuinely like doing things together - that doesn't mean they aren't also capable of walking behind each other on a narrow pavement!

You're confusing ignorant people (those who don't think they should move) and normal couples who just happen to want to do their food shop together!

We went to asda last week.2 adults one ds it was fine.

It's totally un-necessary for an entire family to go shopping and a bit selfish in the current climate and an added risk.

This. Do it if you absolutely have to e.g. you're alone with a small child. But don't do it just because it's more convenient please!

Cheetas, I don't know where you are but it's been peeing down all day here and it's cool and miserable and has been like this on and off for weeks. Garden is so sodden that we can't get the grass cut even if it does clear up for a while.

@ChibiTotoro

If you're one of those couples who spend an eternity stood in front of the same display for ages debating what to buy completely oblivious to the growing queue of people waiting to grab a box of cereal, then YABU. Also if you're one of those couples where one stands one side of the aisle with the trolley and the other stands across the aisle having a conversation then YABU. I've never understood the desire for group trips to the supermarket but I guess we're all different.

Agreed. Irritating at any time but even more so just now.

Also those who manage to do the shopping alone but insist on faffing about making phone calls about basic stuff such as what biscuits to buy. While blocking an aisle in the process.

'Some shops are still saying one adult per family so that may be an issue.'

Which supermarket is that? As it isnt asda, Morrisons, Tesco or sainsbury (not where I live anyway.)

Waitrose are saying one person where I shop

I dont care who goes as long as you ate courteous to others. You can have a family of 4 not cause one issue but a lone person decide to ignore social distancing and personal space, refusing to say excuse me and not wait their turn which annoys me a lot more

Or are

Oh and Tesco having a group of staff members having a non work related chit chat blocking the aisle is annoying too. Nobody could get past and they huffed and puffed that they had to move for customers.

I guess it may be waitrose.

@WaxOnFeckOff

Cheetas, I don't know where you are but it's been peeing down all day here and it's cool and miserable and has been like this on and off for weeks. Garden is so sodden that we can't get the grass cut even if it does clear up for a while.

There’s no such thing as the wrong weather, just the wrong clothes . OP was saying she could get out and walk around the car park so assume it isn’t actually raining or forecast rain where she is. “Cool” weather doesn’t stop you strolling in a park?!

Well, it's not that you couldn't go out for a walk in the rain and might choose to, but the implication was that it's nice so be out having a walk. That's how I read it anyway. I have no problem being out in the cold and wet but would prefer to not be sitting in a car whilst cold and wet.

I'm in Scotland, cool, wet, freezing etc is just a fact of life. Would I walk in that rather than be in the supermarket which is where I actually want to be? No. Would i in general prefer to be out in all weathers than in the supermarket? Yes

You’re overthinking it @WaxOnFeckOff . I just saw her say she could walk round the car park and suggested that a park might be nicer.

@WaxOnFeckOff I'm in Scotland too. Not nice here at all. I went on my own in the end.

Aye probably @CheetasOnFajitas, just saw the mention of a walk in the park and looked out at it still peeing down...

I'm sorry if you got put off OP. Next time don't think about it, if you are going at a time when there isn't a queue it's not affecting anyone so just go.

I nipped to Tesco earlier for more milk and fresh fruit etc. I wnet in to get what I wanted and left. I never noticed if people were shopping together, wearing masks or not, having conversations etc. Social distancing has gone out the window with the mask wearing, personally I don't really care as the amount of folk infected in the community is negligible so the chances of catching anything or infecting anyone else is minuscule and the chances of them having no particular symptoms if they catch it are high.

Basically this is the new normal...go in...shop..and get out as quickly as possible. Not as a tribe on a day out.