AIBU to think it’s not me who’s ‘odd’

[NotOdd]

Apparently (according to bf) I’m odd, out of touch and not like “most people” because I think Sunday roast lunch as a regular standard default family event is normal and that about now is the time to start firming up Christmas plans in terms of guests etc.

Bf says he knows no one who regularly has a Sunday roast lunch or anyone who thinks about Christmas “this early”. He thinks this is because I come from a “backward” part of the country 🙄

I am genuinely confused because literally everyone I know (bf and his family aside) would have a roast Sunday lunch (not set in stone, other things may happen instead ie days out, bbq in the summer etc) and everyone I know either has, or nearly has, their Christmas plans settled. When I say ‘everyone’ I mean my whole family, my EXH whole family (going by knowing them for 20 years) and all my friends.

AIBU for thinking it’s not me who’s the ‘odd’ one?

No regular Sunday roast here - too much flaff taking up time on a day off! And it's way to early to be thinking about Christmas. Late November would be when I'd be thinking about Christmas day plans.

We have a roast every other Sunday rather than every week.

Christmas plans are pretty much firmed up in July/August here. That's because there tends to be 25-29 of us and people need to make travel plans, a local AirBNB is booked and cattery/kennels need to be booked early for a busy time of year.

I don't know anyone who has a roast every Sunday. I do it about once a month and I do love a roast. I can't commit to it every week! We're often put for the day on a Sunday so it doesn't work.

OP
Like you we usually have a roast dinner on a Sunday in the winter, as it is the one day I get to see my parents if we are not doing something else. In the summer we may have a BBQ, Tapas etc.

I have already started with Christmas as I am hosting it this year, everyone is invited I have already ordered the table presents for everyone and bought a few presents. I know what are the theme colours for the decorations, I have just ordered a new tree for the dining room as we are moving in September.
I don't think you are backwards at all.

We have a lunch time roast a few times a year when we haven't got anything else on at a weekend. But mostly, we eat in the evening and - very occasionally - I'll roast a chicken which we then finish the next day (just 2 of us). But certainly not an every week event and I never roast a joint of beef/lamb/pork.

Christmas ??? ....... good heavens. Not a mention until December

We very rarely have a Sunday roast and if we do its in the evening. We like to be doing things out and about on the weekend, not being tied to the kitchen preparing and then cleaning up every single Sunday lunchtime.

Christmas is not even considered until at least November.

We always have Sunday dinner though I have it down to a fine art with little or no flaff.
I'm thinking about Christmas but only because my dsis has invited us to her house and there's a lot of travel involved. I'm also thinking about Christmas because of COVID and possible spikes so I want to be ready just in case we need to isolate.

We rarely have a Sunday roast. I know that I’m staying at home for Christmas this year and have 1 guest so far (could increase up to 10). So for us yes you’re the “odd” one.

If you eat out in a pub on a Sunday it's very hard to get anything other than a roast dinner. It's very much a tradition but like most others, it's on the wane but I'd like to see more places offering a full menu in Sunday, though I expect with it being the busiest time with families that the limited choice makes it easier to cope. I never eat a roast out, it's such an easy meal to cook at home & home version is always better than buying it out.

I don't cook a roast dinner, I don't like the idea of a little body in the oven

I have a Sunday roast regularly but it is always dinner, not lunch.
We have a fairly set pattern for Christmas so no need to discuss it until confirmation nearer the time.

Roast is rare- such a faff!

I just remembered that when we got married in the Caribbean years ago, the inlaws went out of their way to find an English style pub for their roast dinner on Sunday. We declined to go with them and they couldn't understand why.

@CurlyhairedAssassin
Double oven - potatoes in one meat in the other. Turning the potatoes twice (usually while doing something else). DH has a list on the chalk board of six timings including turning the oven on to heat up. So that is six times from turning the oven on to serving that the meal requires attention of which preping the potatoes is probably the longest at about 15 minutes.

I don't understand why people think a Sunday roast is a faff to prepare. You don't have to have Yorkshire puddings or six different types of veg with it every time. Keep it simple. And it's great to have cold cuts/leftovers on Mondays (to eat with more veg or salad) as it frees up time at the start of the week.

We usually have Sunday roasts at dinner time (early dinner) and invite friends but if we eat it earlier in the day, we always go for a long dog walk afterwards to blow off the cobwebs.

I always plan ahead for Christmas (live abroad) so shop or make presents throughout the year, but plans re: family guests etc are usually made mid to end September. I know this year is different, but generally I think people don't like Christmas being mentioned until after the summer holidays at least!

I'm unsure how anybody can firm their Christmas plans right now, in these uncertain times.

Sunday roast is common in many families!

We don't have Sunday roasts on Sundays.

I work full time and don't want to spend my Sunday tied to a kitchen so we normally have something simple , wraps, pasta, curry.

I love Sundays and it's our family day to chill out and go out for a walk or to catch up with friends

What we do though is have a roast in the week

My parents always have a Sunday roast but we don't have one every week. I don't firm up Christmas plans until at least the end of November!!!

Sunday lunch is still something a lot of families do but it's probably getting less common year on year.

July is FAR TOO EARLY to start thinking about a meal which is 5 months away.

We nearly always have one when in the UK, but never cook it ourselves. Plenty of great pub options to have a delicious roast near us.

I don't think it's rare enough to be deemed odd, even if it is falling out of fashion.

A Sunday roast dinner is a "traditional" family event and my Mum did make them every Sunday when me & my sibling lived at home, and often in the years following. Not so much now she is in a smaller house. We hardly ever have them now.

As for Christmas, we went to a restaurant for our last Christmas lunch and it was universally agreed to be so good that after the meal my Nan pre-booked for the same place this year!

I don't know about odd, but the Sunday lunch tradition is a bit old-fashioned these days. My mum cooks a roast every Sunday, but I don't.

As for fucking Christmas - argh! Far too much of that nonsense in winter - I am absolutely going to give it headspace in the summer!

*NOT

We don't always do a roast but I do make more of an effort with Sunday dinner but we have it in the evening. Our Christmas is booked but that's because we are hoping to have a Christmas away with the ILs and we needed to book accommodation.

I haven’t had a regular traditional Sunday lunch since I was a child (over 40 years ago). We may have one very occasionally but also occasionally have a roast during the week. For me and my family Sunday is a day for pottering around, going out and about, not staying in to prepare, eat and then all the clearing up. What a waste of a day. Christmas starts in December.