AIBU to think it’s not me who’s ‘odd’

[NotOdd]

Apparently (according to bf) I’m odd, out of touch and not like “most people” because I think Sunday roast lunch as a regular standard default family event is normal and that about now is the time to start firming up Christmas plans in terms of guests etc.

Bf says he knows no one who regularly has a Sunday roast lunch or anyone who thinks about Christmas “this early”. He thinks this is because I come from a “backward” part of the country 🙄

I am genuinely confused because literally everyone I know (bf and his family aside) would have a roast Sunday lunch (not set in stone, other things may happen instead ie days out, bbq in the summer etc) and everyone I know either has, or nearly has, their Christmas plans settled. When I say ‘everyone’ I mean my whole family, my EXH whole family (going by knowing them for 20 years) and all my friends.

AIBU for thinking it’s not me who’s the ‘odd’ one?

I haven't had a Sunday roast for about 20 years.

I usually start thinking about Christmas November/December time. That's when my mum usually starts asking me what I'm doing. No one I have ever met would think about it in July!

I've started making Sunday roast in the last few months for me, dp and DC. We have more time at home/less people to visit because of the virus and we all really enjoy the food. It's the only day of the week we will eat dinner together. I think it's a lovely tradition to have.
Have started on my Christmas shopping because who knows how the rest of this year will turn out.

All the meat and potatoes get shoved in the oven together and veg goes on 20 minutes before serving then instant gravy and frozen Yorkshires. It takes about ten minutes of prep and ten minutes to dish up, how is this hard?

Well that doesn't sound particularly hard but it sounds like a pretty shit roast!

I had no idea Sunday roast was so rare these days! See what I did there :-) We have one every Sunday evening and often during the week too. DD loves it and I find it so easy to cook. Got a bit stuck in my ways though and have turkey/chicken (DD only eats white meat), with roasties, runner beans, carrots, peas, leeks, white sauce, gravy and sometimes yorkshire puddings, although I think the're a winter thing. Add some red current jelly, mustard or mint sauce on the table and everyone is happy.

this is the first year ive thought about christmas this early. its since boris mentioned everything being back to normal by then, i automatically thought 'well that's wrong'. so yes we are ruminating on complicated plans involving vulnerable elederly relatives. i will wait for a new thread on this!

Not odd, just a bit old fashioned maybe? Have a roast if out on a Sunday for lunch and very rarely at home but will be for dinner not lunch.

The C word does not get mentioned until 1st December. Who knows this year what we'll be able to do.

I'm surprised more people don't have a roast but I live alone so no point really.

I do think about Christmas at this time of year because, if I need to hire a car, the earlier I book the cheaper the price. Try and book near Christmas and it gets far too expensive.

It's easier these days to plan ahead for Christmas as most on line websites have Christmas things and gifts on there all year round and the bigger stores have always brought out most the Christmas goods by the end of September at least! People would start making their puddings in October or November ( those that liked them to mature / home made and so on)
It's not a new thing to plan in advance. I might do more if it after all the fiasco in the shops this year and with brexit looming too!
Might be the way to go..

Sunday roasts here but not every week. More in the winter.

We are supposed to be travelling to see relatives at Christmas but who knows what will happen.

I dont think you are odd OP or perhaps you are and I am too.

Sunday dinner is a tedious chore, I hate cooking it and I hate eating it. Pils are strict Sunday dinner eaters, even when they’re away abroad in August in 35 degree heat.

I can’t think of anything worse.

I don’t even want to discuss Christmas plans until at least the beginning of November!

I grew up with Sunday roasts and acres of Sunday boredom, so I decided not to inflict this form of Hell on my own children. Even thinking about it makes me feel as if I'm suffocating. I always assumed my mum kind of liked doing it, but she told me some years ago that she hated eating a roast at lunchtime, and stopped doing it the day my younger sister went to university.

As for Christmas: any mention is banned until December. YABVVVVVVVU for even thinking about it in July.

We don't always have a roast, but we will have a 'nice' dinner. Something like bolognese, lasagne or paella, and I try to do a pudding at the weekend. If time doesn't allow it, that's ok too.

For Christmas, I know what we're doing (Christmas at home, anyone is welcome to join us) but you have made me think about the 'other' Christmas we do with uncles/cousins etc and so I've just sent out feelers for that!

So. If you're odd, I am too. 🤷‍♀️

I don't think you're odd but I don't know anyone who does as you do.

We have a Sunday roast most weeks, usually in the evening though. It’s just easy to do, everyone likes it. To be honest, sometimes I just can’t be bother to ask, what does everyone fancy, then get no suggestions! So I just cook it.

Never had Sunday roast as a kid, and don't have one now as an adult with my own family. We might have a roast as a dinner but would be on any night we choose. Sunday's are lazy days, or we go for a bite at the local pub. My friends and family don't do big Sunday roast/lunches either.

I also have no idea re: Xmas plans. We would start to talk about that in late October, with plans not 100% confirmed until start of Dec

Married 40 years.............never had a Sunday roast

A Sunday was for getting out a doing things, not for sitting around and waiting for food.

This is how my parents are. They are in their 80s, and quite old fashioned even among their friends.
But even if you are odd, your boyfriend doesn't sound very nice. He should love your quirks, not put you down because of them.

We don’t do Sunday lunch but I definitely consider it every week, see it’s £8 for the meat and dismiss it.

Yes to Christmas being sorted but that’s because we have to alternate between both sets of grandparents that live literally opposite ends of the country from us. We booked a cottage last month to stay near IL’s.

We have a roast most Sundays and we will start planning Christmas soon 😊

We love a good Sunday roast. We used to go to MIL at her insistence every Sunday for family roast but lock down our pay to that. So I’ve been making them at home it’s lovely. My mum always did a Sunday roast too. Great memories.
When I lived in house share during uni we always had a Sunday roast everyone contributes a dish (friends from other houses cane too) we’d all sit around eating lovely food being hung over and watching a movie was so nice.

We’ve already vaguely discussed Christmas because we have to balance DH large family, seeing mine and my eldest seeing his dad. Nothing set in stone just a quick chat about everyone’s expectations for seeing us really

Sunday's as a kid were predictable. Shops were closed. The ritual was to get the Sunday papers...read them, cook the roast, watch the Eastenders omnibus.

Bliss!

Yes, roast every Sunday, after Church. Would usually have tentative Christmas plans in place by now - is who is coming to stay etc - but not fixed till nearer the time. But this year we’ll just wait and see what the world looks like by then.

@formerbabe

Sunday's as a kid were predictable. Shops were closed. The ritual was to get the Sunday papers...read them, cook the roast, watch the Eastenders omnibus.

Bliss!

As an adult or a child that sounds like torture to me.

But we all like different things.

Formerbabe, love your username!

Sounds like my Sunday too ( as a little kid)
The paper shop opened for a few hours on a Sunday morning , but that was all. It was Sunday roast dinner , clear up , then get ready for school ( clean my shoes make sure the clothes were washed and ironed)
Dad would read the Sunday papers. Tv on in the afternoon for the Sunday football or the news.
Hardly ever went out anywhere. (We didn't have a car , so that wasn't that unusual anyway! )
The Sunday trading laws changed a lot of things and I found it strange to shop on a Sunday. I still find Sunday's a bit depressing too!

Growing up as a kid we had a Sunday dinner every week but now me and my children never really have a Sunday dinner that often. Christmas I have already sorted and started buying presents too! Can never be to prepared.