AIBU to think it’s not me who’s ‘odd’

[NotOdd]

Apparently (according to bf) I’m odd, out of touch and not like “most people” because I think Sunday roast lunch as a regular standard default family event is normal and that about now is the time to start firming up Christmas plans in terms of guests etc.

Bf says he knows no one who regularly has a Sunday roast lunch or anyone who thinks about Christmas “this early”. He thinks this is because I come from a “backward” part of the country 🙄

I am genuinely confused because literally everyone I know (bf and his family aside) would have a roast Sunday lunch (not set in stone, other things may happen instead ie days out, bbq in the summer etc) and everyone I know either has, or nearly has, their Christmas plans settled. When I say ‘everyone’ I mean my whole family, my EXH whole family (going by knowing them for 20 years) and all my friends.

AIBU for thinking it’s not me who’s the ‘odd’ one?

feelingdizzy we are vegetarian but still have a roast dinner. Surely a meal with roast potatoes and yorkshire pudding is still a roast?

Sunday roast used to be normal. But since the working week started to include sundays, it seems to have gradually fallen out of favour. FWIW I think it should be reinstated as a national treasure.
I no longer partake in Christmas in any form. But the family rule was Christmas planning started after the August bank holiday, to have plans in place by Halloween at the latest.
When I was in retail, Christmas planning started on Boxing day, by New Year’s Day I had already ordered my Christmas card stock for the next Christmas.

We have a roast every Sunday, but at teatime. I haven't started to think about Christmas yet, but we did get the dogs trust Christmas catalogue through this week!

We don't do Sunday roasts just now but I always looked forward to them when I was young. It's something I'd like to do now that my kids are a bit bigger and might actually eat them.

I'm really craving my mum's roast chicken now!

Christmas talk is banned until 1 November. I don't care at all about Halloween, but I'm not about to discuss Christmas until the orange tat is out of the shops.

@Corinaderlord not according to this thread! And actually we now quite often have it at 5 rather than at 1.

Sorry should have tagged @CorianderLord there...

I feel like for a lot of people cooking from scratch isn't as common so roasts are less common. I know everyone on mumsnet cooks from scratch! We do one every few weeks to once a month. My family (parents and sister plus her fam) don't bother.

I feel like the Christmas plans are unusual though. We'd have conversations in late Oct to early Nov between myself and dp then with family in November. Unless we needed to book travel. Which we don't now as we have a car and spend Christmas in the UK.

The paper shop opened for a few hours on a Sunday morning , but that was all. It was Sunday roast dinner , clear up , then get ready for school ( clean my shoes make sure the clothes were washed and ironed)
Dad would read the Sunday papers. Tv on in the afternoon for the Sunday football or the news.

This was our Sunday growing up too. Thankfully times have changed, I would hate that now. My parents quit doing Sunday roasts when I was about ten and we started getting out more.

If we do Sunday roast it's at tea time normally. So early for normal dinner. But not lunch. Normally as we've had a big breakfast on a Sunday.

We do Sunday lunch every week, I can't remember the last time we missed a week aside from weeks we've been on holiday.

Christmas plans depend on the situation - we go abroad around Christmas so often make our plans early in the year. If we'll be home for Christmas I tend to tell family quite early on so that we can make plans.

@BlindAssassin1

He thinks this is because I come from a “backward” part of the country

Well, this is rude. I suppose he lives an endlessly sophisticated life and hails from a cosmopolitan city, rather than the rest of us who chew turnips six days a week in our rural backwater holes and look forward to a roast on Sunday?

I would also suggest that he isn't thinking about Christmas because he doesn't organise anything for it, and simply turns up to gatherings where the Christmas fairies have done everything? Just a guess.

Every single bit of this post.

@SueEllenMishke

As for the Sunday lunch, sorry but to me people who always have a ‘roast’ on Sunday, to me, have always been lower-class/‘chavvy’ (sorry to use that term)

You aren't sorry to use that term otherwise you wouldn't have said it. Disgusting comment and attitude.

I much rather be considered 'lower-class' than a raging snob.

Anyone who would describe someone in those terms (chavvy/lower class) has nothing to be snobby about, I'd venture.

For crying out loud.

No Sunday roast - no Christmas plans yet. And I am from a backward place! Lol

Sunday 'Lunch' i was led to believe was always an English thing (dad was English) and I hated visiting GPs and sitting in hot, summer heat expected to eat a full roast bang on midday! Awful.

We did it at dinner time (6pm) ie sensible. I still didn't like it much but was better. Also boaked at the roast beef sandwiches in the packed lunch on Mondays. I makes total sense that I became veggie at 13!

I even had a proper Sunday lunch when I lived alone!
I am NOT thinking about Christmas yet though...

Did the op tell us where us ' backwards' place is her b/f thinks is so awful? 😀
I'm still wondering.

We have Sunday roast most weeks and have started talking about Christmas already (mainly who'll be there, rather than any details)

Well, I don't know anyone who defaults to a roast dinner on Sundays I don't think I've had one since childhood myself but that doesn't mean I disbelieve in the existence of a category of people for whom this is the norm. Like pps, the only people I know who will have given any thought to Christmas in the summer are those travelling overseas, or having family visit from abroad -- and this year I imagine lots of those are not making plans this early.

I also don't personally know any SAHMs, but I'm aware they exist in the world in quite large numbers. From Mn, if nowhere else.

I don't base my belief in the existence of people with very different ideas to me on the people I know.

Lots of people do Sunday family lunch but it is less common these days. And having an idea of who is going to be where for Christmas? Bit early but not ridiculously so, and knowing what to expect is ok. I would be more concerned he uses terms like you coming from a 'backwards' part of the country. That is so condescending like calling you odd. Bet he thinks about Christmas at the last minute because he doesnt do any of the work of it.

We haven't thought about Christmas, but Sunday roast is standard. This time of year it may be a more elaborate than usual BBQ instead though, a whole joint smoked instead of standard fare

You do you. Ignore his questionable comment about being 'odd'. You are who you are and if that's how you roll, it's not harming anyone, is it?

You chose each other so you should work as a team, including not labelling each other as he has done. If you're demanding he does all the work, that's unreasonable. If he's expecting you to do all the work while he scoffs at you and then scoffs the meals (see what I did there?) that's unreasonable, too.

We have a roast when I can be bothered to make one- more common in the winter when it's cold and dark and we can't go many places. Definitely not every week but probably every fortnight- month in winter.

I have started planning Xmas this year because we normally go out but I'm not sure we'll be able to this year with Covid and because I'll be heavily pregnant so want to plan something a bit easier than normal

We eat a sunday roast alot. But in summer (like last week) i would roast a chickne then serve it cold with salads and baked potatos.

I usually think about Christmas about now. Not this year because COVID has turned everything upside down and it has slipped my mind.

I am OBSESSED with food though.

OP, I think it's lovely that you do roasts regularly because they remind you of your Mum. The smell of roast potatoes reminds me of cozy Sundays at home as a kid.

We roast most weekends in the autumn and winter. Not always on a Sunday, Saturday is good too. The kids love it and it means we have leftovers for the next day. And I love cooking so it's a pleasure for me.

I'm slightly alarmed to find out this makes me 'chavvy', mind you, not least because I cook roasts for guests a lot! I wonder if they're secretly judging me Or maybe they're just enjoying the food instead.

You're still bonkers about Xmas though, OP!