Just sad....and drunk

[drunkmomandsad]

Mom to 4, currently home alone with 3 dc.
My family have just said no to helping us financially to move, this was our last option really. Just feel incredible sad and gutted

Gosh. I read this feeling incredibly sorry for you, imagining you were in a desperate situation 🤣🤣

I'm a lp (ds dad dead) who's studying full time to try and create some kind of future, living in a shitty small flat, no outside space, no money.
Fucks sake.
If this is real op you need to sort your fucking self out

7 bedroom house 🤣🤣 good effort OP

@drunkmomandsad

I would completely out myself if i gave my whole back story. I am not entitled, nor wear diamond fucking shoes. Surely if you had a choice, you would want a better life for your kids? Room to run and let off steam etc?

You don't have the choice available though, because you can't afford a seven bedroom house.

If it was just a case of 'well if you could choose xyz wouldn't you do it too?' then I would like twenty million pounds and a yacht please.

Is a 4 bed house not enough room to let off steam?

Whether true or not, you have to wonder at the pain someone must be in to deliberately start a thread that will attract a “good kicking”.

But you don't have a choice. I'd love a detached 5 bedroom house with loads of room to park, a massive garden and a utility room. We can't afford that but that's ok because the house we have is fine and affordable. We won't have any more children though as it would become more of a squeeze.

You have a choice. Earn more money and buy a bigger house or be thankful for what you've got. I'm holding out for the premium bonds

Your choice is based on your ability to fund it. YOURS.

Not Mummy and Daddy's.

Grow up.

@BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz

How drunk? And how old are your dc? Are you capable of looking after them drunk?

Really?

It's a fairly bloody privileged level of pain.

Ffs. If you want a bigger house then increase your hours, change jobs etc It's your responsibility to provide for your dc not your parents!
I work with families who live in 2 rooms and you're feeling sorry for yourself in a 4 bed house?

Your OP was concerning. Your follow up posts are either a winde up or you need to get some perspective.

Just had a look on Right Move. This is where I want to live. www.rightmove.co.uk/property-for-sale/property-77160412.html It's only about £450k more than our budget but I'm just going to ring my mum to see if she'll write a cheque because it's unfair I don't get to buy the house I want when I can't afford it.

🙄🙄🙄

This is the most baffling post I’ve read all week!!
You sound like a spoilt brat.
Get some perspective. You own your own 4 bedroom house.
I’d love to have a detached 5 bed with utility room, wine cellar, swimming pool etc but I can’t afford it !! I’m not going to ask mummy and daddy to help then get drunk at tea time whilst here with my kids, cause I can’t get what I want.

Come on to fuck, this is nonsense 😂

Poor soul can't afford a 7 bed house. Set up the gofundme now.

You are clearly not high earners but can afford a 4 bedroom bedroom which sounds adequate. Try to be grateful for what you have and celebrate in the good.

Your husband needs to prioritise his family.

Why have kids if expect mum and dad to pay for it all?

Fuck men try being barren bankrupt and in a rental. Christ

I wonder if OP is from a background where it would not be unreasonable to have a 7 bedroom house. She has met someone who is greedy/smart enough to cover his investments with clauses in title deeds. OP thought she would change the DH to suit her wants but he is standing firm to protect his assets.
Maybe the parents are not impressed with the abilities of the DH or can see through him and so would not help by being guarantors.
OP has found that DH will only do what he wants especially with him wanting to work in his own business and not be under any bosses and is now hankering after the level of life she had as a daughter of the house.

Ffs Op I’m really suffering, as we can’t afford a 8 bedded house and we really need the room for both sets of grandparents. This won’t even be enough fit all my siblings! But we all have to make sacrifices. Please think of others

Why has your DH got a clause on the mortgage saying that he keeps a portion of it for himself? What exactly is the back story? Has he got rich parents or something who gave him a large amoutn of money towards the house and "didn't want any ex-wife getting their grubby little hands on it"?

We lived long way from my son and his family, until their next move they haven't had room for us to stay so we book an hotel. Maybe your parents should do this, or airbnb it. We're having to remortgage our house but I would rather move .

^^
I have the same questions as Curly.

If you are married why on earth did you agree to this?

@NerrSnerr I wanted my Dad to buy me a house last year. This one www.housebeautiful.com/uk/lifestyle/property/a30070766/henry-viiis-house-for-sale-wales/ Only £875,000, not a big ask for his only daughter