Just sad....and drunk

[drunkmomandsad]

Mom to 4, currently home alone with 3 dc.
My family have just said no to helping us financially to move, this was our last option really. Just feel incredible sad and gutted

I do have to follow otherwise I end up a single parent to 4.

2 years ago we both lost our jobs , then we was served notice to leave our rented property 4 weeks before Xmas . We had no family who could even house us for a bit let alone lend us money to rent . We had worst Xmas ever not knowing if we would even have roof at end of it . We managed to get temp jobs to tide us over . We had pets and 1 dc as well as ourselfs to worry about . 6 months this went on till we got a new house. And belive every week I cried wondering what we was going to face . That is real hardship sorry op but you need to be grateful for what u got .

I understand feeling disappointed but this is in really poor taste when people are losing jobs etc at the moment.

So you’d rather be unhappy wishing for the moon on a stick rather than going out to work yourself?

Being a single parent isn’t so bad.

You can't expect your parents to make up for your DH's selfishness unfortunately.

LOL YOU'RE CRYING BECAUSE YOU CANT BUY A SEVEN BEDROOM HOUSE?!

Jesus wept. 😂😂😂😂😂

If hes only earning £4 an hour, how long has the business been going? Surely there will come a point where HMRC say it is not a viable business?

@drunkmomandsad sorry what do you mean you have to "follow"? Do what DH says or he will make you a single parent?

Being a single parent to 4 kids is a whole lot better than being in a shitty marriage with a man child.

You're doing the childcare, earning the most money - what does he actually bring to the marriage?

Your moaning cos you can't get a 7 bedroom house?

I know this is MN BUT C'MON

Where are you living that you can buy a 7 bed house on tax credits?

@gottastopeatingchocolate

Where are you living that you can buy a 7 bed house on tax credits?

And earning 4 quid an hour 😂

Do 7 bedroom houses exist?

Come on op I think you need to get real.

I can’t work out if you’re taking the mick.

I know OP’s predicament may not seem likr such a big deal but saying ‘don’t have kids if you can’t afford them’ isn’t particularly helpful when they already exist! Not exactly ‘advice’.

7 bed house on tax credits and 20 hours a week?

They wouldn't be allowed to be guarantors anyway if they live abroad. So even if they did say yes it wouldn't happen.

I'm not trying to be cruel, but honestly if I were your parents I'd refuse too.

I'd tell your DH that sometimes 'needs' must take priority over 'wants' and that he needs to grow up and get a full time job. Or that he can take responsibility for the children to allow you to work full time. Maybe then you can afford the bigger house that you want. Not 'need', want.

There were 5 of us in a 3 bed house. DB had the smallest bedroom to himself and DSis and I shared the biggest bedroom with our parents moving to the next smaller one. I don't know the sexes of your children but you might consider doing the same if you have 3 of one sex. Give them the biggest room to share.

I think being a single parent to 4 will be a happier and easier life then you have now OP

£4 an hour topped up by benefits and you want your parents to buy a mansion? Is this a joke.

I think the best bet is to have an early night, get your head together and post for advice tomorrow? Perhaps you need help with your relationship issues or your own mental health. At the moment your comments are completely lacking detail and a bit garbled.

Put the dc to bed and get your head down

I am not bloody lying
It is a B and B
I would be able to actually make a living without having to let DH make all the decisions

Don’t have four Kids if you can’t afford them

Well the kids are here now. It’s a bit late in the day for coming out with that old chestnut. What do you suggest op does with these kids she can’t afford,? sell them for magic beans.

You wouldn’t be able to run it as a B and B. You need the bedrooms.

I thought you said you wanted somewhere for your kids and your siblings to visit?

Family staying over doesn't automatically turn your home into a b and b...

Awww op, pm me your bank details and I'll send you some £, you sound so worthy!

Why does he make all the decisions when you make more money