He said he is incapable of feelings ...aibu to think this is impossible?

[breakmyheart]

I've started seeing someone.
Saturday night we went for a drink and he just randomly told me "I think I should let you know,I don't get feelings for anyone"
I said "what do you mean?"
He said "I don't get feelings,I end up driving women crazy"

How can you date women /sleep with women and not catch feelings?
What is the point ?
I'm confused

Massive red flag. Run for the hills.

Basically he has told you who he is, listen.

Don’t bother seeing him again.

He's a psychopath (literally). Never see him again

Run.

Bin him.off now

He won't give you what you want. Don't let this get to the point where you develop feelings for him.

Some men are like this. Just completely out of touch with their emotions and probably has avoidant personality traits.
He's told you who he is, now listen and walk away.

Yeah he's just admitted he's psychopathic. Not necessarily in that he is going to attack, but that he uses people for his own gain.
Listen to him and run.

I was stumped.
I didn't know what to say.
I didn't think it was possible.

Maybe he really doesn’t feel anything. Maybe he’s one of those self-obsessed dramatic types who has very little insight into the feelings he does have and acts in maddening ways as a result. Either way, throw this one back and keep looking.

I don't really get deep feelings for men. I can find them attractive, fancy them and enjoy their company but I don't fall in love. So yes it's possible. Usually due to being emotionally stunted, which I admit I am.

If you are looking for a relationship then end it with him, he won't be able to give you what you want.

We’ll surely the only reaction to that is ‘cheerio then’.

He’s telling you not to expect warmth, regard, consideration, support or kindness.

So he sounds a catch.

Honest from the start so fair enough. No romantic future in it

I don't think it's psychopathic unless he actually gets a kick out of hurting women by promising them things he can't give them.

Either he was being honest with you in which case seeing him again would be a terrible idea or, as Golden says, he's a self-obsessed twat - in which case seeing him again would be a terrible idea.

It's not really possible.

What he is actually doing is trying to make you work harder to get him to love you, all the while he will be doing whatever he wants, and then, when it inevitably ends, he will say he told you so.

He sounds like a wanker.

Of course it’s possible.

How can you know if you will or won't develop feelings tho?
Surely they just happen if you spend time with someone or they don't.
He will only meet me once a month.
It's like he keeps me at arms length
It's baffling
When we meet up we have such a good time.

Run for the hills. Seriously.

I stupidly spent years with a man like this, because I thought that when he said he "couldn't feel emotions" he was just being hard on himself and had low self esteem. I was wrong, and the relationship was severely lacking in any sort of warmth and care. He did tell me to expect this, and I should have listened.

Yeah I'd move on tbh, save yourself a lot of heartache in the future

He will only meet me once a month.
It's like he keeps me at arms length

Another massive red flag. You're worth more than this.

I suggest raising your bar to finding someone who has regard for you and wants to see you.

Why you are accepting scraps from this arsehole is for you to figure out.

It’s very possible.
People can be sociopaths or psychopaths.
Considering he’s waved a massive red flag loud and clear right in front of your face and told you who he is, on your own head be it if you see him again. You’d be the insane one if you did.

He has been hurt before like major from his ex (bad breakup)
I've been trying to take it slow and show him I'm not like his ex.
Maybe the damage is done.