He said he is incapable of feelings ...aibu to think this is impossible?

[breakmyheart]

I've started seeing someone.
Saturday night we went for a drink and he just randomly told me "I think I should let you know,I don't get feelings for anyone"
I said "what do you mean?"
He said "I don't get feelings,I end up driving women crazy"

How can you date women /sleep with women and not catch feelings?
What is the point ?
I'm confused

For the latecomers, OP has already taken the advice on board and decided to cut contact.

That's good to hear. Still an interesting conversation though.

Whatever you do, don't get interested in fixing him or showing him how much better you understand him than anyone else.

A simple right-o then will do.

Block to be on the safe side.

When I was dating I called these types disclaimer dudes. They issue limitations early on ( emotional baggage, heavy schedules, sick dogs/relatives..,) to keep your expectations low and so that when they treat you badly they can say that they did warn you...
Next

OP this will only get messier...
Cut your losses now before you get hurt.

@knittingaddict

For the latecomers, OP has already taken the advice on board and decided to cut contact.

That's good to hear. Still an interesting conversation though.

It is an interesting conversation. I wonder if he will attempt to reel her back when she tells him she's not interested anymore? If he's the kind of guy I think he might be, I think there's a fair chance he will

@Crunchymum yeah we have been sleeping together.

That's good to hear. Still an interesting conversation though.

It is, but the tone of some of the messages was quite condescending towards the OP, which I didn't think was fair considering she had taken the comments on board.

He has been hurt before like major from his ex (bad breakup)
I've been trying to take it slow and show him I'm not like his ex.
Maybe the damage is done.

This is Step One in you losing who you are. You are already being careful to please him. It will become a habit with you, and then your life will fritter away with a black hole of a man at its centre.

You need to work on your sense of self, and to learn to love and respect who you are. You do not need to validate yourself by being Miss Perfect for a man.

Regardless of whether or not he has feelings, he sounds like one hell of a cocky self assured wanker

"He has been hurt before like major from his ex (bad breakup)
I've been trying to take it slow and show him I'm not like his ex."

Oh FFS! So not a psychopath/sociopath, else how could he have been hurt before? Psychopaths can't get 'hurt' by other people - at most they can be enraged by another human who dared to not centre the psychopath in their life. Not hurt.

The "show him I'm not like his ex" is the big red flag. He has manipulated you into behaving in a particular way. It's all of a piece with "He will only meet me once a month. It's like he keeps me at arms length". He likes to control people. Toy with them. Manipulate them.

Walk away. No, run away from him. Run fast, run far. Never return to him.

well done OP . On the sum of things, sounds like the best choice.

Someone ought to write a book call "Red Flags" for both men and women.

You've caught three of them
"I can't feel emotion.."
"I was badly hurt by my spouse (aka s/he doesn't understand me)
"I can only see you once a month .... "

I'm so going to write this book unless a MNer beats me to it because I'm lazy.

I've started seeing someone.

Unless you want a FWB, I'd stop then.

Love the fixer-upper line!

Run for the hills.

He will mess with your head.

For a shag or two a month it just isn't worth the effort.

At least he is honest - run for the hills if you are looking to date a human if I were you

I would move on. Don't waste your time thinking about him.