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To worry when 10yr DD went for an early run alone

574 replies

BelleBoyd · 27/07/2020 08:02

My DD woke me early this morning saying she was going for a run and left. She kept to our road and was back in half hour. Is this ok? Just seems unusual behaviour? She hasn’t done this before and doesn’t run usually as a sport.

OP posts:
theDudesmummy · 27/07/2020 15:29

That's my point. The risks associated with specific childhood activities (including being out on the street, or swimming in a river, or being in a car with no seatbelt) in most places in the world (be they low- or high-risk places, and/or activities) have not really changed for that location over time (with the obvious exception of war zones) but the perception of and managment of those risks has.

PablosHoney · 27/07/2020 15:31

But the thread isn’t about swimming with crocodiles or not wearing seatbelts it’s about running up and down a street.

Thisismytimetoshine · 27/07/2020 15:34

People can bring whatever they like to the thread, it's an open forum.

theDudesmummy · 27/07/2020 15:34

I know that. But I was just making a slightly broader point that childhood risk is perceived differently now from when I was a child, wherever you are in the world and whatever activity you are talking about.

theDudesmummy · 27/07/2020 15:35

And I started by talking precisely about me at ten, running up and down a street while my mother snoozed for a few hours every afternoon....

PablosHoney · 27/07/2020 15:38

I was usually with my sibling when I was out and my ten year old doesn’t tend to go out without her older sister (13) so I’ve not had to worry as much, she is allowed to go to the park or run round the block alone but she doesn’t want to.

Thisismytimetoshine · 27/07/2020 15:38

Of course you did, theDudesmummy You just ended up talking to a load of insular English people, who think that even within the UK, every street is the same.

Nicknacky · 27/07/2020 15:39

Thisismytimetoshine Haven’t you just done the same by saying we are all English?

PablosHoney · 27/07/2020 15:40

😂😂😂 Yeah that’s exactly it.

Thisismytimetoshine · 27/07/2020 15:41

No, I have not said you are all English.

PablosHoney · 27/07/2020 15:41

I forgot to say I was from the U.K., I apologised, you are behaving like an arse 😘

Nicknacky · 27/07/2020 15:43

Thisismytimetoshine I’m one of the ones that was discussing points with theDundemummy so I think it’s safe for me to think I’m one of the posters you said was “insular English people”.

theDudesmummy · 27/07/2020 15:45

This is going down an odd rabbit hole for sure!

FWIW I am English too!

Thisismytimetoshine · 27/07/2020 15:45

You can think what you like, nacky, you certainly don't need my blessing. But not everything is about you.

PablosHoney · 27/07/2020 15:46

I’ve travelled extensively, and lived in shit areas and nice ones. I made a mistake by typing ‘here’ and now I’m an insular freak wrapped it the flag of St George in a safe cul de sac 😂😂😂

Nicknacky · 27/07/2020 15:47

Thisismytimetoshine I’m just chuckling at your hypocrisy, that’s all.

And no, I’m not English.

Thisismytimetoshine · 27/07/2020 15:48

Not everything's about you either, Pablo! Cool your jets.

PablosHoney · 27/07/2020 15:51

Ohh so when you said I was insular you didn’t mean me, that clears that up then 🙄😂

Temp123999 · 27/07/2020 15:58

How can a ten year old just do whatever she wants, you need to establish some boundaries as otherwise when she hits 13 you'll have no control at all...

Temp123999 · 27/07/2020 16:12

@MsTSwift
"My 11 year old has done this too. Don’t see the problem - good for them"
There's always one🙄

midnightstar66 · 27/07/2020 16:27

@MsTSwift
"My 11 year old has done this too. Don’t see the problem - good for them"
There's always one*🙄

What do you meant there's always one? There are countless people on the thread that don't see a problem.

Temp123999 · 27/07/2020 16:35

@midnightstar66
🙄

lazylinguist · 27/07/2020 16:44

How can a ten year old just do whatever she wants

She said to the OP that she was going out for a run. Does anything in the original post suggest to you that if the OP had said no, the dd would have said "Fuck that, I can do what I like, I'm going anway and you can't stop me!"?

Telling someone your plans can be a way of seeking permission or approval. It's not necessarily a fait accompli, especially if it's a 10yo saying it, who is presumably used to being allowed to do some things and not others.

GenevaL · 27/07/2020 16:47

If it reassures you at all, when I was about 13 and massively unsporty I decided on a whim to go for a run. My mum accused me of lying and sneaking off to meet a boy (no idea who!). I went for a run simply because I felt that my friends were doing active things such as aerobics classes after school and I wanted to do it too.

anon5000 · 27/07/2020 16:48

[quote Temp123999]**@MsTSwift
"My 11 year old has done this too. Don’t see the problem - good for them"
There's always one🙄[/quote]
Always one, what?

Loads of people on this thread have said they wouldn't have a problem with it.