To be relieved that my MiL has just left after a fortnights visit.....

[Rach35]

She has stayed with us after birth of DD (who is now 3wks) and I have found myself in tears at frustration with her. She came to stay to 'help out' and I have cooked for her every night, she has hardly done a thing, she has left dirty plates and cups on the side for me to clear away into the dishwasher, I have asked her for help with things and then she hasn't done them (eg asked her to get some apples from supermarket which is 5mins walk away - she goes out and comes back empty handed AN HOUR AN HALF LATER - having been chatting with people - no apples cos she went to corner shop instead of supermarket and then didn't think to go to supermarket). She professes to be an expert on everything inc bf - so I ask her how long she bf my DH and it was 4 DAYS!!! She talked constantly about herself, never asked how I was post birth. She probably thinks I am the most surly DiL because I really struggled with her company towards the end...... Argh even DH claims to not understand her. But rant over ..... I have peace, DD and house to myself.... Any other MNers with MiL woes willing to share and make me LOL?

[Elasticwoman]

"Wow, you really lucked out with your in-laws" said my American cousin on my wedding day. It is only by reading these threads on MN now I can see how right she was.

[WinkyWinkola]

48 hours is my limit too but for some bizarre reason - must have been feeling v. charitable - I've invited PIL and my mum on holiday for a week in January.

We're not obliged to go on holiday with GPs, are we? I was feeling guilty for some reason but then I always feel guilty. I can't always be wrong surely!

Two weeks with MIL makes you a champion of champions. And your MIL, Rach35, will be bragging about her wonderful DIL to all her pals. Rather you than me though.

[Rach35]

The thing is I think she thinks I am a right surly cow - I try to be nice but I know I am not being myself.... Still - I am having a lovely day today, been for a walk , had a tasty fattening waffle, life is now good. It makes me smile and feel better to know that I am not alone with a mad MiL!

[cjsausie]

Rach35 you are indeed medal worthy and isn't it great to really moan about PIL as there is only so far you can go moaning to DH. I was feeling really down as mine are coming for 2 weeks soon (see thread in laws visiting!) and love all the mums netters for making you feel normal and not a selfish grump who should feel guilty. Enjoy your special time with your DP and DD

[Rach35]

hey cj - good luck with your PIL - let us know how you get on ( and any coping tactics would be welcome!)

[Kewcumber]

I hereby bestow upon you the Mumsnet medal for Courage in the Line Fire and the distinguished Daughter-in-law medal.

[LilBloodRedWantsGore]

Give the girl a medal!

[RedFraggle]

Bloody hell! I would have murdered mine if she stayed that long! Her 5 day visit after DD was born was enough to make sure she would not be coming straight after DS was born!
You are a saint - get DH to go and buy some posh nosh from MS simply cook department and have a nice relaxing meal, just the two of you!

[Rach35]

Thanks Kew - DH has now gone away for work for 2 nights so am home alone with DD and dog and it is bliss - am loving it!

[Vikkin]

Home alone sounds gooooood.
My MIL is in China at the moment. Am hoping she has one of her funny turns and might get incarcerated for human rights protests.
Love her really. But Thursday will be a welcome break from her weekly visit.

[LazyLinePUMPKINJane]

When the question starts with "am I being unreasonable to be relieved that MIL has left..."

the answer is always YANBU. Regardless of timespan

[Sparkletastic]

Rach why oh why oh why did you agree to this in the 1st place?! I can tolerate my MIL for max 1 day... Really resented her coming to see DD1 on the day of her birth as I thought she could bluddy well wait - made her wait until day after for DD2 then got rid of her sharpish.

[Rach35]

Only agreed because we live abroad - it would have meant that she wouldn't have seen my DD until she was nearly 3mths old and I am not that wicked (although I have had some wicked thoughts!) I was a good DiL though and arranged for a card with photo of her and my DD to be at her house the day she returned saying thank you for 'help'. My DH got thanked ..... not me (although that's not what I've done it for and it's not expected - it just would have been nice). I did the same for my mum and she rang me to say thanks.....

[pollywollydooooooooodle]

I'd never had a problem with MIL until the day after i'd given birth to dd, MIL hot tailed it from the other end of the country to stay at ours.... she decided at the end of first visit that she "couldn't bear to leave her baby" and as FIL and hubby disappeared i had to crow bar her off the mat unit....

good old dr decided (coincidentally) that i needed to stay in hospital for 5 days and they visited every day and "didn't waste a minute" of visiting times (even coming when others were booked in) I insisted that hubby made sure we were on our own when i came home

problems with interference and intrusiveness ever since...breast feeding (5 days..) toilet training (12 months...) you name it
oh and she made a big fuss about doing a big pile of ironing once and forgot to switch the iron on (????)


so you rach ARE A SAINT!!!!!

[pollywollydooooooooodle]

we do have regular visits tho' as my dd loves her....

[Sianni]

My Mother turned up the day my LO was born - she lives 200 miles away. I came out of hospital the same day (which we weren't expecting) DH casually mentioned that he would have preferred to have us come home to an empty house, but was very happy that we were coming home that day. She sulked and insulted us until we asked what was wrong. When I told her she was unreasonable she has sulked and made snide comments ever since (5 months)
I don't think we were unreasonable as we are not close and she kept interfering and smirking when I tried to breastfeed.
Not a MiL one, but the effect was the same.