To tell people that my twins are five?

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Even though they technically don't turn five until November?

Dh is in a right hump about it. He thinks by me telling everybody that they are already five that it makes people place age inappropriate expectations on them. I think it's all just semantics, and those who actually need to know their real age know it. It's a bad habit I picked up from my mother, and my older children have survived me rounding their age up once their birthdays drew close with out being labelled as having additional needs, as seems to be DH's primary concern.

Is it really that big of a deal?

Bizarre. They’re not five, they’ll be five in November.

Team DH here!

They are 4 not 5.
You could say four and a half or nearly five, but they are categorically not five.

I'm intrigued to know what other bat shit crazy things you do!

I’m with your DH.

This is weird. They are 4. Stop saying they are 5. You don't even need to say 5 in November until October at the earliest.

So so so weird. I can't understand why you would willing cause confusion about one of the few things in life which is totally straightforward. If I was your DH this would drive me completely loopy.

I'm with your DH, you sound silly.

My 30th birthday is next month and I still say I'm 29. November isn't even close.

Yes a strange thing to do and I see 100% why your DH finds it irritating. It must also be confusing for your children

Yup that’s weird

Is it fair to your children to be misrepresented by you?
You are lying to people about their ages. How does doing this benefit you?

That's really odd, OP and I'm also agreeing with your husband.

What do your children make of this, I wonder?

YABU for the many reasons PPs have already mentioned and, of course, your DH's very valid reason. Most children love birthdays and the excitement of being that new age. You are taking that away from them.

Plain strange and unnecessary - You are weird.
Team DH all the way.

My MIL does this and it really annoys me!

Why age them? Do you forget how old your children are?

My children are the ages they are until their birthdays.

My daughter is 6 tomorrow, today she is 5. She might be telling everyone how close she is to being 6 but if someone asked me how old she was today I’d say 5. I might say 6 tomorrow dependant who it was.

As a PP said, if I was told a child was 5 I'd assume they were just finishing reception year and would have expectations (fair or not) of their abilities and behaviour. Your twins haven't even started reception yet, so that would be completely unfair to them, so I'm with your DH.

As it happens my DS is 5, his birthday is in December so is nearly a whole year older than your twins and I think you're putting them at quite a disadvantage to be subconsciously putting them at the same level of expectation as him.

My twins are turning 6 in November. I still say their age as 5, if anyone asks, because they’re not 6 yet.

This is just weird... Why not just continue saying they are 4 until their birthday.

Imagine being told your 5 then in 4 months time being told today your 5 when it's the actual day... Confusing I imagine when your young

Really weird. Do they not answer for themselves anyway?

My 4 year old tells everyone who will listen that he is 4, and will be 5 on January 28th and his brother is 1 but used to be zero...followed by his full address and random facts like my mummy fell off her bike into stinging nettles when she was little.

If I started telling people he was 5 I’d be corrected very quickly.

Just say they are 4. They’ll be 5 in November if anyone asks.

i do this and it really annoys my DP too 😂 i genuinely don’t know why i can’t get out the habit, my birthdays in december so from February onwards I’m a year older!

@welshweasel
“Followed by his full address”

That’s so funny I love it 😂

They are going be coming home from school in tears soon after peers and teachers keep correcting them or accuse them of telling lies. You sound very attention seeking in a 'ooh lm a bit mad me, a bit eccentric , l can't help it'
Definitely with your dh.

As everyone has said - this is weird! So DS16 is the only one who's age is accurate, everyone else just has to flow from his birthday? Can't you see how odd that is? Especially with your twins (though presumably the older ones at the time) because being 4 vs 5 at any particular time makes a huge difference as to whether they're at school etc.

This may be the first thread I’ve ever read that’s unanimous. Quite an achievement!

That's really odd. They're not 5 until November. They're 4. You add a year to your daughter's birthday in Feb when her birthday's in October. Bizarre!!