To tell people that my twins are five?

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Even though they technically don't turn five until November?

Dh is in a right hump about it. He thinks by me telling everybody that they are already five that it makes people place age inappropriate expectations on them. I think it's all just semantics, and those who actually need to know their real age know it. It's a bad habit I picked up from my mother, and my older children have survived me rounding their age up once their birthdays drew close with out being labelled as having additional needs, as seems to be DH's primary concern.

Is it really that big of a deal?

@ChaoticCatling I'd fib about ages for a few things, but I am very shocked you did for rock climbing, due to insurance etc.

You put him at risk in a dangerous activity!

No, it actually wasn't necessary, I made a mistake there, so no insurance issue. There would also be heaps of 12 year olds smaller than an average 11 year old so I don't see a safety issue.

Are you originally from another country, OP? My mother does that and I think it’s quite common in Poland, although I find is very irritating. 13.20 is 14.00. After your birthday, let’s say 20, you’re 21 as you started the 21st year of your life, etc.

@ChaoticCatling

No, it actually wasn't necessary, I made a mistake there, so no insurance issue. There would also be heaps of 12 year olds smaller than an average 11 year old so I don't see a safety issue.

Of course there was an insurance issue! If he'd been injured on the premises their insurance wouldn't have covered it as he literally shouldn't have been there. What nonsense to change "I lied" to "I made a mistake" . Sure you did...

i do this too, don't know why. It's a standing joke in my family that after the 9th birthday, mum will be saying, for goodness sake, you're almost 11...doesn't matter

I lied as I thought he had to be 12 for an activity, but I made a mistake, he didn't. No insurance issue.

I would never lie for a legitimate safety restriction such as height or weight.

ROFL at the idea that insurance companies go 'oh, you made a mistake... that's fine then, you haven't invalidated your policy, or the climbing centre's contract with us, at all. All nicely covered, here's your pay out.'

ChaoticCatling So you have went from lying to being mistaken about your child’s age?

Of course you weren’t mistaken.

...You don't see an issue, or consider our clearly stated restrictions to be legitimate madam?' Of course, you're quite right, we defer without question or hesitation to your superior judgement. Here's your pay out'.

This might be a good place to point out that the reason that seemingly trivial mistakes made when taking out insurance, invalidate the whole policy, is nothing to do with whether they are relevant (far less 'legitimately relevant in your view') to the claim being made. It's because an insurance policy is a contract, a legal document. Any error, whether deliberate or careless, invalidates the contract.

Nicknacky No, that's not what I said.

I'm sorry but I find this odd op. When they're 4 call them 4 and when they're 5 call them 5.

This is really strange in my opinion

November is quite a way off & they are 4 years old. Why round up to 5?

If for any reason they needed some urgent medication & a dose needed to be worked out based on age, they would use 4 yrs because that is their current age

Seems a daft thing to do considering they are 4.

If for any reason they needed some urgent medication & a dose needed to be worked out based on age, they would use 4 yrs because that is their current age Isn't that usually done by weight? A 20kg four year old would need a higher dosage than a 16kg five year old.

Bollocks, ChaoticCatling 😂
Why would you "assume" he had to be a completely arbitrary age to do the activity?

If you entered his age as the age you thought he had to be to qualify, then you absolutely were lying 🤥

ChaoticCatling It’s exactly what you said. You only changed your wording to “mistaken” when you got called on it.

I lied as I thought he had to be 12 for an activity, but I made a mistake, he didn't. 12:17. I don't know how to be any clearer. I never changed my wording ic you just read what I wrote.

@ChaoticCatling

I lied as I thought he had to be 12 for an activity, but I made a mistake, he didn't. 12:17. I don't know how to be any clearer. I never changed my wording ic you just read what I wrote.

What's the relevance of this "mistake"? You were happy to lie and shoehorn him in when you thought he was underage; the fact that it later emerged that you'd been mistaken is of no consequence. The only reason it didn't invalidate their insurance was because you were mistaken (very odd mistake to make, btw? and presumably you wouldn't have realised this until afterwards) When you're in a hole it's prudent to stop digging. You're making yourself look quite foolish.

I'm only coming back because people can't be bothered to read a few sentences!

I find that really odd.

You lied. Had you been correct, their insurance would have been invalid, with regard to your son.

Insurance companies do not view you or your child as exceptional.

I understand that @ChaoticCatling’s mistake was to believe that her child had to be 11 not 12 to do the rock climbing activity - and based on that mistake, she decided to lie about his age to the climbing centre.

If he had had an accident, your lie about his age could well have invalidated the centre’s insurance, and any chance you had to go after the centre themselves for compensation. BTW - I am not suggesting you’d be demanding compensation for a minor injury - but if he’d been badly hurt, compensation might be a necessity.

No, she pretended he was 12 when he was actually 11. (She said she put his D.O.B. back a year, so making him appear a year older).

In her view, because he was bigger and heavier than some 12 year-olds, it was all fine.

She thinks she knows better than the climbing centre and their insurer, what they are actually insured for.

As you say, if he'd had an accident resulting in a need for expensive or lifelong care, she would have been in deep, deep financial trouble. Her son might not have been able to access the standard of care that the climbing centre's insurance might have paid for.

I find that shockingly irresponsible.