To tell people that my twins are five?

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Even though they technically don't turn five until November?

Dh is in a right hump about it. He thinks by me telling everybody that they are already five that it makes people place age inappropriate expectations on them. I think it's all just semantics, and those who actually need to know their real age know it. It's a bad habit I picked up from my mother, and my older children have survived me rounding their age up once their birthdays drew close with out being labelled as having additional needs, as seems to be DH's primary concern.

Is it really that big of a deal?

Just use their actual ages. It’s so much easier

@JustGieMePeace But what do you think Mumsnet would do about it?

Typos in previous post. Meant to say "say school". I just think it's a topic best dealt with carefully and appropriately

That's a really odd thing to do. They're not 5 until they're 5. Just say 4 and a half or 4.

If you're rounding things wildly then it's nearly half a year til they are 5. Your DC are 4 and I'd find it odd if someone was telling people my 10 year old was 11 - her birthday is around the same time.

If I thought a child was in danger at day school, I would flag it to the appropriate person, child protection officer at school or social services rather than just talk about it in the playground. So yes.

Well, that didn’t answer the question!

[quote Chungus]@JustGieMePeace But what do you think Mumsnet would do about it?[/quote]
I would hope they have policies to flag things. They have our email addresses.

"We're talking about a sport that 99% of professionals started before the age of 5."

Can't most people walk before they're 5. Or are they 6? Who knows.

"I would hope they have policies to flag things. They have our email addresses."

🤣 what are they going to do with that?!

What i find even odder is that your ignoring all the people taking about their ages and asking relevant questions and instead only replying to those discussing the ice skating...

You hold onto their hands and glide along, therefore they glide along. Or you sit them on a penguin and push them. It's really not that hard. Everybody does it. It's like babies who 'ride' horses.

Then they're not skating are they? You're pulling them along.

Very confusing for the Children what do they say when you tell someone they are 5. It will catch you out eg getting on bus and not paying for them and driver asking age you say 4 and they say you’ve just told lady at bus stop I’m 5 Mummy. 2 extra fares and very embarrassing.

Social services can't do much with an email address. And after the whole Mumsnet user details doxing thing a few years ago I doubt anyone uses their real name anymore.

But they’re not 5 yet.

@JustGieMePeace Mumsnet don't get involved at all (and I don't blame them as so many posters are trolls so they'd waste so much time). Nothing stopping someone in the thread calling the authorities and the police could request info from Mumsnet if required.

Mumsnet don't have any kind of 'duty of care'.

@crustycrab

"I would hope they have policies to flag things. They have our email addresses."

🤣 what are they going to do with that?!

I'm probably very naive about how these things work. But if I see things on Twitter I don't think are appropriate I would report it rather than engage. Same rule applies here.

@Hercwasonaroll

This is batshit. I literally can see no reason for doing this at all. Just tell people their actual ages. November is ages away!

Batshit? Perspective, much?

I'm very confused. They're 4, so why wouldn't you just tell people they're 4?

Why would you say they are five when they are four?

DS2 is 11 in November. He's 10 now. If asked his age, he and I both say 10. Because that's how old he is.

This is really odd.
Imagine telling people your kids are 5 and then inviting them to their 5th birthday party.

They’re not 5- don’t say they are.

How do you report abuse to Mumsnet @JustGieMePeace? Genuinely? Where are the contact details?

Where are these “policies”?

If I saw abuse in the playground, I’d report it to the DSL.

In public, the police/LA DSL.

On MN? Where we have just a username? No other identifiable information?

Also, a lot of this is (and it is) emotional abuse. Which often nothing is done about even when SS is involved unless physical or sexual abuse or visible neglect are also part of what’s going on.

The OP has said she doesn’t really care about illegally disciplining her children on the smacking thread, she’ll do what she wants.

Unless YOU can come up with a detailed plan of how exactly to get MN to solve this problem then I suggest you don’t take issue with posters who call abuse out for what it is.

Same rule applies here.

Yes but that is your rule which you are welcome to apply to yourself, but it’s a bit off admonishing others for not adhering to your self imposed rule.

I bet you don’t start saying “I’m 40” when your birthday is 6 months away 🤣.

If my children’s birthday is soon (in a month or 2) I say “he’s 3 in September” or if it was a few weeks ago “just turned 3”, otherwise I just state their age like a normal person.

Yep, have a go at someone for says report abuse. 🙄. I'm out. Have a good day everyone.

@NameChange84

How do you report abuse to Mumsnet *@JustGieMePeace*? Genuinely? Where are the contact details?

Where are these “policies”?

If I saw abuse in the playground, I’d report it to the DSL.

In public, the police/LA DSL.

On MN? Where we have just a username? No other identifiable information?

Also, a lot of this is (and it is) emotional abuse. Which often nothing is done about even when SS is involved unless physical or sexual abuse or visible neglect are also part of what’s going on.

The OP has said she doesn’t really care about illegally disciplining her children on the smacking thread, she’ll do what she wants.

Unless YOU can come up with a detailed plan of how exactly to get MN to solve this problem then I suggest you don’t take issue with posters who call abuse out for what it is.

God, talk about a wild ride. You've gone the full smiler. The smacking thread went like this: "I occasionally whack my kids hands." "Dramatic gasp: that should be illegal." "Doesn't matter if it's illegal. I'd still do it." You're acting like I admited to going no wire hangers on my children with the intent to go full blown feeding them arsenic laced doughnuts in the attic, fuck the police.