I’ve had a chin length bob a number of times, the first was when I was 9. My hair is currently about an inch above my waist, mostly because I’ve not had it cut for a year.
Currently, my hair is too long. It gets caught under my back when I’m sleeping, it takes forever to brush, it gets caught in the crook of my elbow if it’s down, it gets tangled around the brushes in the hoover. It wouldn’t be this long if lockdown hadn’t happened. I haven’t made an appointment yet because I know the hairdressers are busy and I can’t be bothered to dial them several times a day until I get an appointment but it will be chopped off soon. It’ll probably go to shoulder length. I like my hair longer because it’s easier to maintain. I usually wear it up, so I wash it, brush it and put it in a bobble. When I’m wearing my hair in a bun or a ponytail on a daily basis, I’m hardly doing it to be attractive am I? When I’ve had short bobs in the past, they’ve needed blow drying and styling as they didn’t fit into a bobble. With short hair cuts you also have to get your hair cut regularly. I don’t particularly enjoy going to the hairdressers, it’s a necessity for me. So why would I want to attend every 6 weeks to keep on top of my haircut?
In the 10 years I’ve been with him, I’ve never once asked DH whether he would prefer my hair long or short. He actually doesn’t like my hair this long because it gets in the way and he lies on it in bed when he’s asleep, then I kick him to get off my hair. He associates my long hair with him being painfully woken up.
I have always had the opinion that it’s hair, and that it’ll grow back. I’ve had a radical hair cut going from super long to super short and previously donated about 12”. I’ve always found that hairdressers are reluctant to make a cut bigger than an inch and I have to tell them several times that it’s fine. The only person who has ever been remotely upset that I’ve cut my long hair is grandma. Most men I encounter don’t even realise whether my hair is long or not.
I do not inherently think that long hair is attractive. I know a number of women who suit shorter hair, of all age ranges. I think we should stop sprouting ideas such as ‘women have long hair to be attractive’ or ‘women should have short hair over a certain age’ and I personally think a woman should do whatever the hell she wants with her hair without fear of judgement.