To stay in bed tomorrow and ask DH to contact my boss

[Gaffertape101]

I'm exhausted beyond exhausted - just Like many others are too probably. Currently managing working every day at home, looking after 2 DS 1 who is ASD, DH is also ASD, doing all the food shops, running the house, managing the finances and keeping everything ticking over, managing a garden renovation project, getting the family ready to go away and planning for it all. I just want to stay in bed tomorrow and ask DH to contact my boss (we work in same company) and say I'm exhausted physically and mentally and hes not waking me coz I need to rest before I collapse. He wont do it not even if I asked him.

Most of the things that are making you exhausted aren’t work related, they are home related. So really instead of ringing you in sick, your DH (asd or not) should be picking up some of these.

I agree you should ring yourself in sick if needed. It’s annoying as sometimes the thing you need to recover is not to have to wake up in order to ring in sick! But it is what it is.

If you are so exhausted why plan garden renovations? You are making yourself exhausted by taking on projects when dealing with lockdown, wfh, kids and everything else. If you are planning for going away you must already have holiday booked. Can you just not ring boss and ask to take a few days extra holiday the rest of week.

YANBU in your desire but the reality of dealing with a family where everyone has ASD, except you, means that they may never fully understand your emotions unless you spell it out to them.

Maybe it's time to accept things you cannot change and tell your spouse when you've had enough for one day? I'm sure your family members have plenty of good qualities and they all love you even if they show it in different ways. I understand it is annoying that you have to explain things another neurotypical person would instinctively sense. But, they're not trying to hurt you. Tell them specific things they can do to help you whenever you need help - and definitely tell them when you need help; they clearly cannot guess. x