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Is anyone else boycotting Tesco's for giving £80,000 to Mermaids?

999 replies

loveyouradvice · 05/07/2020 17:20

Just that really... I was shocked, especially given all the news coverage there has been about the issues recently. I would have expected them to give it to an uncontroversial charity at the very least - and ideally one that most of their customers would like to support

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feetfreckles · 05/07/2020 22:39

Oh, so now people are queuing to go to Tesco's to support mermaids, not to get the weekly shop? I know which I think is more likely

Clymene · 05/07/2020 22:41

Jackie Green grew up in a horribly homophobic household where girls toys were forbidden. That same narrative is repeated time and again as 'evidence' that a child is transgender. Liking toys generally associated with the other sex does not mean that your body is wrong. It means that society is wrong for putting toys and clothes into rigid sex boxes.

MrsHSW · 05/07/2020 22:41

Awful.

BeautifulCrazy · 05/07/2020 22:41

What they should do is help transpeople recognise that there is absolutely nothing wrong on having a mismatch between body and gender identify. That you can be a boy in a dress or a lesbian mechanic and that is totally fine and normal.

What they should do is tell them that gender doesn’t exist. They should tell them that they’re an individual, it’s called having a personality, not a gender. Instead they present gender as fact and say everyone has one. I don't have a gender, they can’t tell me that I do. I have a personality though and I have likes and dislikes. They want to tell me this is my gender. It’s complete madness.

Children should only be told that however they feel is ok, whatever they want to wear and do is ok. But it’s just who they are, it’s not an imaginary thing called gender. It’s so, so harmful to tell kids this stuff. Mermaids is awful.

LemonadeAndDaisyChains · 05/07/2020 22:41

You don't need to do anything to prove it, you don't need to do anything to correct it. You just need t9 get on living your life as you

How are you living your life as you though if you're being told that being yourself (trans) is wrong and you should stay as you are?

Le22Fu22 · 05/07/2020 22:41

Your links are out of context. NHS links to Mermaids so that link would be viewed. During counselling and support the pitfalls and info NHS outlines would be discussed.

Cut and stick all you like but the trans community are real people who were once real children from real families in need of support. Mermaids gives that support. Get over it.

TheGreatWave · 05/07/2020 22:42

@Ninkanink

A charitable organisation is not automatically good, ethical or morally superior.

It’s a financial designation, that’s all!

That, sadly, is why scandals happen as people think that as a charity they must be wholesome and good.

Oxfam immediately springs to mind. you can't brush appalling acts under the carpet because they do good elsewhere.

feetfreckles · 05/07/2020 22:45

Oh so you speak for the whole trans community?

Le22Fu22 · 05/07/2020 22:45

And Give over with your patronising bullshit. We all know what charities are.🙄

LemonadeAndDaisyChains · 05/07/2020 22:46

Oh so you speak for the whole trans community?

Who is that aimed at? Me? I've never claimed to speak for the whole trans community.
It was just a question.

MouthBreathingRage · 05/07/2020 22:46

How are you living your life as you though if you're being told that being yourself (trans) is wrong and you should stay as you are?

You’re mixing yourself up there. It’s groups like Mermaids who say you’re ‘wrong’ for being a boy and ‘liking things that are for girls’ or vice versa. There’s nothing wrong with having gender dysphoria as much as there’s nothing wrong with having autism or a mental health condition or whatever else may be different about you that society tries to hide away. We need to change society, not change an individual to fit into a twisted idea of an ‘inclusive society’.

blubellsarebells · 05/07/2020 22:46

Roll on the scandal around mermaids being exposed sooner rather than later.
Sterilising children is wrong.
Its not ok.
Cant wait to see all the brain dead fuckwits that have endorsed this madness squirm and run away when the shit hits the fan.

feetfreckles · 05/07/2020 22:47

Exactly, being yourself, trans is not wrong

Your gender identity does not need to match your biological sex, and people who tell you otherwise are transphobic. They can't cope with people who don't neatly fit into their narrow minded boxes

Ninkanink · 05/07/2020 22:47

Yes.

That’s how you get hmmm...

The NSPCC

Diversity Role Models,

Oxfam, as you’ve already mentioned

Kids Company

Mermaids

And so on and so forth.

PotholeParadise · 05/07/2020 22:47

@Thinkingabout1t

From six years old, my son came home telling me that other children had been telling him he must be a girl because he liked the colour pink and so on. These ideas come from home. They come from the parents who tell their sons they can't have pink things

It's tragic that this kind of nonsense is being put on children, PotholeParadise. I hope your son can brush it off and/or find better friends.

The current enforcement of sex-role stereotypes seems worse than in the ever-so-conservative 1950s. At least back then children weren't drugged into conforming.

The rules for boys are so tight, it is unbelievable. We found out that pastel blue lunchboxes are "for girls", teddies are "for girls" (in key stage 1?!) and loads more. And don't start me on hair.

My son now likes his hair very short (well, pre-lockdown he did) because he was sick of being called a girl. And people dare to tell me that it's radical feminists picking on gender non-conforming children? Bugger off with that one.

We've told him that anything he likes or does is definitively something that boys do because he's doing it and he should never let anyone force him to believe that he doesn't count and so on, and I think he is reassured. But at the same time, he does his best to fit in at school because he doesn't want to be teased any more.

feetfreckles · 05/07/2020 22:48

Exactly, being yourself, trans is not wrong

Your gender identity does not need to match your biological sex, and people who tell you otherwise are transphobic. They can't cope with people who don't neatly fit into their narrow minded boxes

They want to sterilise you because they are scared of you

Your sex is just a small part of you, it does not define you

FamilyOfAliens · 05/07/2020 22:48

Le22Fu22

There are links on the first two pages of the thread. One is a YouTube video.

In other news, we still have nothing but a deafening silence when those posters claiming there are transphobic posts and hate speech on this thread have been asked to link to said posts.

LemonadeAndDaisyChains · 05/07/2020 22:48

They can't cope with people who don't neatly fit into their narrow minded boxes

Surely it's more narrowing people into boxes telling them who they are and what they should be doing?

Le22Fu22 · 05/07/2020 22:48

They’re not saying you’re wrong for being a girl. What utter rubbish.

feetfreckles · 05/07/2020 22:49

Le22 was proportion to speak for the whole trans community , whilst excluding me

Le22Fu22 · 05/07/2020 22:49

Well there clearly were transphobic posts because a shed load have been cancelled.

feetfreckles · 05/07/2020 22:50

Le22 is your idea of girl a sex or a gender identity?

MouthBreathingRage · 05/07/2020 22:50

@Le22Fu22, so you’re happy with a charity that supports pushing children into having dangerous drugs and eventually surgery to fit in with some odd idea of what it is to be the opposite sex? Do you not think that the long term fall out may have huge implications for those children, as opposed to helping adults with GD who are able to make their own decisions about transitioning?

MouthBreathingRage · 05/07/2020 22:51

@Le22Fu22

Well there clearly were transphobic posts because a shed load have been cancelled.
Cancelled? Oh goodness, you’re not actually an adult are you.
feetfreckles · 05/07/2020 22:51

Does it say why the posts were cancelled?