Tell me your pet peeve kind of posters!

[HurtPeopleHurtPeople]

Hands down for me are the ”if this was a man asking/doing/saying/bla bla”.....
all hell would apperently break loose.

What are yours?

(Oh and let’s vote on mine
yabu- you don’t mind these kind of posts
yanbu- you dislike these kind of post)

Emojis in thread titles

It buggers up the whole display in 'Active' and other lists for certain (older) types of assistive technology

MN was brilliant at avoiding this, so that people didn't have avoidable challenge to accessing the site.

Unfortunately, that has significantly lessened, and if ever mentioned, just told to 'hide the thread'

Pity, as the community used to brilliantly supportive.

It's the same reason for avoiding text speak, btw, and using standard English where you can.

That has the double effect of working better on assistive tech, and making the site more accessible for those for whom English is not a first language or who have dyslexia (both groups which can struggle with non-standard writing)

I read a thread once where the OP said a load of vile shit about transgendered people (who were not bothering anyone or any of her concern) and ended the post with 'oh but I'm not homophobic'

“Gently pointing [something] out” inevitably means acting officiously, probably with a head tilt and this look on your face

Ruins a thread

The ones that go off the OP and bring up hypothetical situations and then start debating these none existing scenarios..

"Yabu to use hubby/hun/whatever term mn has currently deemed unacceptable."

Shared language/sland binds communities together. Agree there is no logic why some terms become taboo; but when one has, such as the two you list, also 'girls' for grown women, it's an important marker for the sense of community

That's a natural and much studied linguistic and psychological phenomenon.

It's not surprising MNers want to keep what sense of community there is, and what is distinctive about MN - such as the free use of swearing.

There are oodles of sites with different habits, so it really is a case of finding the one you feel comfortable in

People who say they could have a mental health problem, when in fact they could just be an arsehole

Those who say - I haven't read the full thread but...

and post utter nonsense as the thread has moved on. If you can't be arsed to read the thread don't bother posting.

Posters who ask - Were you the OW?

Anyone who uses 'u' instead of 'you'.

Only Prince gets away with it, anyone else looks stupid.

I’m comfortable using mumsnet AND I say hubby. I’m like the old man in The Life of Brian being stoned to death for saying Jehovah.

Hubby! Hubby! Hubby!

Posters who don't have a quick read through before posting to sort out any glaring typos.

And lately the regurgitation of 'masks don't protect the wearer, they protect others'. It is still worth it to protect others. Any research results right now are not conclusive IMO as the guidance about covid safety and protection keeps changing, just because proper research takes time.

I really hate when posters put a dramatic final sentence/punchline type thing, it makes me cringe.
Lengthy story
I was 12 years old.

story
We were engaged the next day.

It’s completely unreasonable and harmless but I just hate the sort of ‘ba dum tss’ punchline nature of it. Oh and already mentioned but when posters comment on a jokey, light hearted thread with a really serious post. That’s awful but read the room. Start another thread! Or comment on one of the many serious threads already going.

Posters who don't believe that some kids can just be little shits at times and some old people can be nasty. Instead it's always "are your DC on the spectrum OP?" "Has MiL been diagnosed with dementia Op?"

Posters that scream RTFT!

No thank you. I do not have that sort of time to waste on social media. I have other things to do. I am not omnipresent on MN.

It is perfectly reasonable to take the OPs opening post at face value, occasionally skim the OP's subsequent comments (if I choose to) and respond with whatever and however I want to on a thread.

The "RTFT!" screamers are control freaks.

I really wish the diagnosis of every arsehole family member (if it is indeed that person who is the arsehole) with actual Narcissistic Personality Disorder would just sod off already. Why does it always have to be that disorder anyway? There are loads of others, many of which are far more common and fit the arsehole better.

Occasionally there's a poster who's determined that someone must have NPD and takes great offence at the idea that statistically it's far, far more likely to be something else, if indeed it's a disorder at all and not just a common garden variety twat.

I find it very hard to take the NPD diagnosers seriously sometimes.

Also -

1. Posters who type 'asshole' when they mean 'arsehole'.

1. Posters who type 'noone' - it is 'no one' or sometimes 'no-one'.

I think it’s very self absorbed and socially inept to bring a lighthearted thread down with grave matters that people are duty bound to acknowledge and which thereafter alter the tone of the thread.

Fuck off you attention seeking ghoul. Sorry shit happened but this is not the place.

Oh and fucking "Crimbo"...!! Chavvy.

It's Christmas.

Fucking "After Crimbo, we are going on our holibobs..."

Aaaarrhh!!

“I have a son and a daughter, i have treated them exactly the same, and the girl likes pink and the boy likes trucks

Therefore proof that gender is innate, not socialisation”

I said RTFT last night but I swear it was a one off. I haven’t ever said it before I don’t think. I do agree it’s a knob’s term. I was, admittedly, being a knob at the time. I was all fizzed up in sympathy and defence of someone whom it quite quickly became apparent was a troll.
Doh.

Anyone who ever uses the expression "So me being me..."

I’ve said RTFT because sometimes the OP will update: eg it’s ok I’ve borrowed the money!! Then 5000 posts will follow with “can you ask x for the money?” “You could pawn your jewellery” and on for pages and pages of irrelevant, absolutely pointless suggestions that OP no longer needs. For some reason they wasting their time and effort irritates me

Every so often there is a thread which descends into reminiscing about the good ole days of mumsnet where iLoveTea123 would give excellent advice and people post about the great parking fiasco of 2003 and posters jump in with posts like "sits on a bench with you" or some drivel about "how is SingleMummy84 getting on now, she hasn't posted since 2012 but I often think of her"

Those threads give me.the rage.

Why can't people just admit they're sitting in their pants in Wolverhampton making up crap to get attention?

Now that there's the "show all OP posts" function, it'll be easier to skim those and just check if, for example, she's cancelled the cheque before suggesting it.