Tell me your pet peeve kind of posters!

[HurtPeopleHurtPeople]

Hands down for me are the ”if this was a man asking/doing/saying/bla bla”.....
all hell would apperently break loose.

What are yours?

(Oh and let’s vote on mine
yabu- you don’t mind these kind of posts
yanbu- you dislike these kind of post)

@Scout2016

I agree with PP who said vague thread titles.

OP being told to get their ducks in a row annoys me too.

It does me too. Personally I prefer my ducks in a circle. Or maybe a triangle.

Posters who draw you in with lots of questions and requests for advice, and then suddenly go quiet and never tell you if things got resolved!

@Titsywoo

This is going to make me sound like a right miserable bastard but I hate it when the OP "replies" to every single message in their thread and talks in a really matey way with everyone (obviously not on long running threads where people have clearly been talking for months).

You’re, right. You do sound miserable

Threads like describe yourself in four emoticons , wtf is the point as nobody comments or looks at the replies

The fast food snobs. E.G:
OP: I was in McDonald’s today with my son and this stranger screamed at him for blah blah blah.
Poster: I can’t believe you take your son to McDonald’s. My darling child is 9 and has never wanted one in their life. They wouldn’t even drink a bottle of water from that place. If someone so much as says the words ‘Big Mac’, they throw up everywhere.

When someone’s complaining about a relative or friend and people just respond ‘Well I’m glad you’re not my daughter in law’.

OPs who drag out a thread and definitely start making things up because they’re loving the attention. On Sunday night they’ve made a post thinking their husband might be cheating. By Monday, they’ve already divorced him, they’ve moved to a different country and his mother is now in prison.

Threads that are over complicated when there’s a person A, B, C, D, E, F....

Posters who say “we as a family”.

We as a family don’t eat much meat.
We as a family like to go for walks.
Wouldn’t “we” be enough?

Posters who say, ‘This thread is 4 years old!’

Not everybody was on MN 4 years ago, it may still be relevant to some people.

Any poster starting with, ‘So me and dh/dp/whoever....’

Ditto x 100 to the ‘Everything in the U.K. is shit’ posters.

Agree with all the above.
Particularly 'as a family', I've never heard anyone say that in real life.

I instantly click off any thread with hubby, hubs etc.

The drip feed when a thread is not going well, usually it's anxiety.

Misspelling "infinite" and "definite".

Anyone who uses the word 'luncheon'.

Discreet/discrete.

Oh, and "loosing" weight: it makes me think of someone unscrewing their belly button to release the chub.

This post. It makes me cringe when people on Mumsnet imply someone's thread is more valid or permitted than another's.

"I mean this kindly". Even in the absolute best reading of that phrase, you know there's something bad coming. But generally people use it as a way of giving themselves carte blanche to put the boot in, and the recipient is not allowed to be offended because it's kindness, silly! There's also this irritating long-suffering tone to it, like the person is summoning all their reserves of patience and diplomacy, whereas really they're just being a twat to a stranger.

"Are you/ he always this controlling?" replies.
Suggestions of someone having ASD based on fuck all.

The attribution of moral value to things that don't have any (cheap weddings, cake smash photo shoots, occasion cards, fruit bowls in the living room) is so tiresome. Also the fury when anyone does something that might be deemed "attention seeking". If it angers you that they wanted attention, don't start a thread about them, brainiac. Apparently you don't mind the attention this thread gives you?

And that leads on to another peeve: threads that are started purely to pillory someone under the guise of wanting discussion or advice. That's what makes them even more annoying than the ones that started so OP can have a "vent". So you walked away from this feeling so calm, clear and zen, did you?

Also the obsession with being "common", though that seems to have died down a bit.

Anyone using the word "Hun"

Not just on Mumsnet, in real life too

@MaggieAndHopey

"I mean this kindly". Even in the absolute best reading of that phrase, you know there's something bad coming. But generally people use it as a way of giving themselves carte blanche to put the boot in, and the recipient is not allowed to be offended because it's kindness, silly! There's also this irritating long-suffering tone to it, like the person is summoning all their reserves of patience and diplomacy, whereas really they're just being a twat to a stranger.

So true!

MsTSwift I don’t know what is going on at the moment with the accusations of ‘teacher bashing’ but it’s beyond a joke.

Drip feeding is annoying but I think a lot of posters don’t understand what it is. A drip feed is something that is later included that would completely change how people answered so someone upset that MIL called round without asking seems strange then they later add ‘I was only discharged from hospital two hours ago and was exhausted and trying to rest’ so then what seems like nothing (the MIL calling round) is actually really inconsiderate.

Drip feeding isn’t just talking and more info being included as the OP gets more comfortable, but you always get posters who start shrieking about it!

This is a minor one, but after a poster starts a thread to detail how upset she is at being duped / used / conned/ lied to or whatever, somebody will pipe up "omg are his initials SJ?" as though there was a shortage of this type of jackass

Threads about property where people come on and say "£500k for a studio flat! You could buy a castle for that where I live!"

Unless it's one of those 'show me what you could get for £1m where you live' property-porn threads, why mention this? We all know there are huge differences in UK property prices depending on location.

@DuineArBith

Also, people who write cross post or x-post. I don't have a clue what that means! I presume it's referring to another location / post but they never say where.

They just mean that they've posted more or less the same as someone else on the same thread at the same time. For instance, on a classic parking thread, two people posting a message at the same time telling the OP to box the offending car in.

Or the OP has updated while they were typing and that changes their answer.

People who manage to mention Brexit in utterly unconnected threads

(especially when it's done inaccurately, eg maternity rights)

Ditto posts telling other women to shut up (not usually phrased that bluntly) on the grounds that women must not be silenced, so they'll post what they want and no one must disagree

Posters who reply to some minor moan about a DH/DSis/rabbit with "at least you have a DH/DSis/rabbit, mine died".

Now you see, I get pissed off with anyone who writes something along the lines of, “Yabu to use hubby/hun/whatever term mn has currently deemed unacceptable.”

That can do one. Some terms are in common use in different parts of the country and they’re not always checked for approval by bloody mumsnet. It is ignorant to focus on it as fair game for criticism and rudeness instead of offering support and advice or even just your opinion on the matter at hand. ‘Look at me...I’m in the gang and you have broken a gang rule so I get to be a cock about it.’ So childish, so small, so rude.

Besides I say hubby all the time, people do around here. I don’t give a shit what mumsnet thinks about it. Why would I?