Tell me your pet peeve kind of posters!

[HurtPeopleHurtPeople]

Hands down for me are the ”if this was a man asking/doing/saying/bla bla”.....
all hell would apperently break loose.

What are yours?

(Oh and let’s vote on mine
yabu- you don’t mind these kind of posts
yanbu- you dislike these kind of post)

Posters who don’t use full stops. Posters that say ‘your’ when it should be you’re. Posters that say ‘councilling’ instead of counselling. Posters who say ‘hun’, ‘baby daddy’ and ‘lol’

When a certain poster comes on and makes exactly the same point as about fifty posts before her, but, without fail, there will inevitably follow a stream of posts - “What x says,” “x has it!” “I agree with x....”

Why does this happen? Nobody has ever met this poster have they? It’s like being 5 in the school playground. It’s so bizarre, I sometimes wonder if MN are having a laugh.

Posters who are a perfectly normal height, such as 5’7, who say they are ‘skeletal’ if their weight goes below 11 stone.

At 5’7” I was indeed unhealthily thin at 10 stone!
In fact, I looked skeletal.

@Wolfgirrl

There is a poster on MN, EVERY post from her is an anecdote ending with her own personal triumph, proving she was right all along... fucking unbearable, and it literally is every single post

Intrigued

Hmmmm... I wonder who?!

(certainly not me - see my user name!!)

The delusional meritocracy:
"I don't see why DH and I should have to pay more tax. We've shed blood sweat and tears over every penny we have so that when his parents died, left us half a million pounds and their 6 bedroom house in London, we could retire at 40 and send our children to private school. Hard work is all it takes people."

And the more general intolerance for other people. I don't mean racism or homophobia but the posters who don't seem to realise that there's a world outside of "Our little family" who they actually have to co exist with. And all the fucking hyperbole that goes with it.

Lots of threads start with a warning that their post is going to be a long one.
Fair enough. I don’t mind that.

What really grinds my gears though is when they follow that by saying “You might want to grab a coffee”.

Er, no. Your long-winded drivel isn’t THAT riveting, thanks.

Oh yes, that thing about "our little family". I last saw it a while back in a discussion about volunteering (or rather not volunteering) to help at school events, with the Scouts or whatever. Inevitably, somebody said they were too busy looking after their little family and many people applauded, saying that raising the next generation was a sufficient contribution to the general good. Fair enough, everyone's circumstances are different, and not everyone can volunteer, but if everyone took that view, the Scouts and other voluntary organisations would be extinct.

I can’t stand ‘our little family’ because it sounds so self-satisfied.

And invariably a euphemism for “dh is miiiine and he should grow up and cut the apron striiiiings with mil.”

Or twattier reply - "You brought a house? Where did you bring it? I don't understand?"

Ironically, the people who out themselves as relying on grammar to understand meaning are amongst the least intelligent people I know in real life. Really good communicators grasp understanding from whatever garbage is spoken to them, interpret the meaning, and frame their responses appropriately.

(I'm thinking of one particular idiot I work with who is massively out of touch with everyone because he can't understand meaning without his own incorrect understanding of grammar being followed - but thinks everyone else is the problem!)

Also, I massively hate sending unMumsnetty hugs.

These posters have identified that a person is in need of a virtual hug.

So they send one, but they have to make sure than no other reader thinks that they're doing so in an 'unMumsnetty' fashion. Twats. If you think someone needs a virtual hug, then the situation isn't about your adherence to site norms or otherwise.

Always.

“He needs to realise he’s got his own little family now. Time for him to grow up and defer to you in all matters.”

To paraphrase.

Posters who seem to almost intentionally search for the tiniest mistake the OP may have made and then tear him/her apart for their 'shocking fault' (usually causing a pile on) and end up completely bypassing what the OP actually posted to ask!

Also, those who either don't read the OP properly or have terrible reading comprehension!
ie: "I have a problem, it's really affecting me. I've tried X, Y & Z but didn't work. Any ideas?

"Have you tried Y? Should work

@YgritteSnow

I'm finding MN becoming more and more like Twitter every day. The shaming and exaggerated disgust at alternative views or opinions and there is a slow but steady creep towards attempting to "cancel" posters as far as it's possible to do that on this forum. I know this is said regularly but it was never like this before. It could get heated for sure but the discussion would continue and would often educate. Opinions are now presented entirely as fact and if you don't agree or if you question even mildly, you're immediately labelled a worthless bigot of some kind. I find it really worrying. It's everywhere now.

THIS! 1000%! TOTALLY AGREE!!!!!

Me too.

Just a petty irritation, but I hate thread titles that don't tell you what the thread is about, e.g. "Would it be unreasonable?" Would what be unreasonable, OP? Just add the extra couple of words so I know if I'm going to want to comment.

‘You’re lucky if that’s all you’ve got to worry about’ type posters. Plus any query about why a non-mum would be on Mumsnet.

@HarlanWillYouStopNamingNuts

Just a petty irritation, but I hate thread titles that don't tell you what the thread is about, e.g. "Would it be unreasonable?" Would what be unreasonable, OP? Just add the extra couple of words so I know if I'm going to want to comment.

Oh yes - there used to be a lot in AIBU that just said "AIBU"

HELLO? That's already the title of the entire topic you dummies.

Posters who want to bring their kids everywhere,even when not suitable.

Or posters who want to bring younger siblings to a birthday party they are not invited too.

thecats Re "un-Mumsnetty hugs": Back in the day when MN was all green fields, "Hugs" was written and meant nicely. Then the MN cool kids/frequent posters of the time scoffed at it for being twee. "Unmumsnetty hugs" crept in as a way of offering a virtual hug without risking the scorn not of the cool kids, who'd moved on of course, but the cool kids hangers-on hoping to please the cool kids, who then scoffed at the hangers-on for caring whether someone wrote it or not. Some people now scoff at "Unmumsnetty hugs" for being twee. Now nobody knows where they are up to....

Why???

Ironically, the people who out themselves asrelyingon grammar to understand meaning are amongst the least intelligent people I know in real life.

I do a fair amount of writing, editing and proofreading in real life. Everyone, but everyone, misses the odd howler in their career. I see repetition and daft errors in my own posts on here all the time. The only people I know who big themselves up about their perfect spelling and grammar and come down like a ton of bricks on people they find unworthy in that regard are not professional writers, editors or proofreaders, in fact they're usually not good writers at all.

There are times when it matters and times when it doesn't. When a person is posting on Mumsnet while in crisis, that is a time when it really, really doesn't. Anyone who thinks it does doesn't understand the point of language.