Tell me your pet peeve kind of posters!

[HurtPeopleHurtPeople]

Hands down for me are the ”if this was a man asking/doing/saying/bla bla”.....
all hell would apperently break loose.

What are yours?

(Oh and let’s vote on mine
yabu- you don’t mind these kind of posts
yanbu- you dislike these kind of post)

'What is Tabitha's sister called?' Threads

Posts where people mangle the facts as they're presented to fit a narrative which reflects their own, rather than what's actually happening, usually happens in relation to step parenting; 'You only have your husband and all his friend's word for the fact that his first wife was an abuser.' 'I don't believe that you weren't the other woman, you say you only got together a year later, but how do you know that he was telling you the truth and he had moved out?'

@GimmeAy

I think you may be the bigot but you can't see it. Well the first of the horses has arrived I see.

Aw, bless. So original. So witty. So um .... silly.

People who tell others that if they can't say something nice they shouldn't say anything at all. Don't they realise that MN would grind to a halt if that advice were followed?

People who talk about mental health when they mean mental illness.

Oh yes. "Mental health" has become a sort of shorthand for "poor mental health", but some posts are quite misleading on first reading because of it.

Lol - ye 'my friend has mental health' and then goes on to elaborate that their friend has killed kittens and cries all day long. The term is mental illness. Or mental health issues at least.

The ones who will disagree with your feelings but would also disagree the other way around. They just want to disagree and tell you why you are wrong 😂

Oh and this new phase on the Feminism Chat - "ABC shop has fallen" - so you click into it wondering whether a firm has gone into liquidation or something only to realise it's some stupid thread about a shop supporting transgender people. I honestly over the past few months thought briefly that both the Body Shop and M&S had gone out of business.

Posters who are so desperate to jump on the OP instead of reading their post properly and offering advice.

OP: I'm really worried, I live on the 27th floor of a high rise and my neighbour keeps letting their toddler dangle out of the window.

Annoying poster 1: you're so judgemental, I bet you're a perfect parent? The toddler probably has an illness and dangling out of the window 500 feet above the ground is the only treatment.

Annoying poster 2: have you offered to babysit?

Or posters that shamelessly merail.

Someone once posted about something that they thought was a safeguarding concern - I posted agreeing with them, then a random poster said 'oh Vince, you must think I'm a terrible parent then because I do that'.

Not really, because a) the thread isn't about you and we don't know any of your circumstances and b) until you told me off I had no fucking idea you even existed

Oh God yes - You must HATE me because ...

Well no actually, I couldn’t really care two hoots about you, as it happens!

Posters that ask
"Am I the only one who.....". They then mention something either so obviously common or that has been mentioned several times in the thread

But no, you are the only one who thinks it cos you is special, innit

Anything with the word "lighthearted" in the title. You know before you read it that its going to be nauseatingly twee.

Any thread where a poster comes on to observe that her other half has been "promising to propose" for the past 12 years and the mood hasn't been right/doesn't want her to have any agency in the decision whatsoever. He's a dick, he doesn't love you, just likes having sex on tap and meals cooked. Ask him yourself and if he says no, kick his sorry arse out.

The only posters who annoy me are the ones who extoll the virtues of their relations while the OP is struggling with theirs and asking for advice.
Eg: OP: My DH wont work, doesnt help in the house, talks to me like shit and never showers.
Along come replies like : My DH is a CEO of an enormous conglomerate, he smells divine, like the mountains in the garden of paradise, brings home a 16 figure salary which he shares equally with me, does all the housework and juggles the children while I have a nice rest after my stressful day shopping for designer bags. I wouldn't put up with your DH OP.
OP complains about anyone and theres always posters who come along and say how wonderful their same relative is. How does that help OP?
Cant they just cut out all the thinly veiled 'my life is amazing' and just fast forward to the 'I wouldnt tolerate this OP, you are worth more!'

Completelyfrozen

Totally agree. And, as observed upthread, the people who come on, brimming with sanctimony, saying: "you had children with this man, why?"

As if every arsehole comes with a sign tattooed on his forehead.

The Cat And Paste posters drive me spare.

They cut and paste someone else Twitter, or an article and just post without bothering to actually write something themselves. Acter of badly cut and paste tweets.

Posters who say “it would be a very boring world if we all thought the same way” in response to someone saying they’ve argued with a friend because of said friend’s racist views. Been a spate of them recently, for obvious reasons. I think a world with no racists in it would actually be fab, but maybe that’s just me.

Oh, and along that vein, those who insist that anything less than “I hate black people” isn’t racist. When the OP says their friend expressed racist views and the responses are ‘holding out’ until OP tells them exactly what was said and then it’s “I don’t think that’s racist”.

"You sound lovely OP"

Poster who post this seem to do so for the following reasons:

• They think Being Lovely TM is the most important accolade you can give to a person, therefore bestowing it has an immense status and significance.
• They are demonstrating their capabilities to bestow the title of Lovely like Father Ted.
• They are - directly or indirectly - criticising anyone who has in any way suggested the OP isn't Lovely.
• They are conflict-avoidant types who think that being Lovely is more important than being either fair, or practical, or even, heaven-forbid, helping the OP develop a spine to tackle her issue. The important thing is that she continues to be Lovely, because Loveliness makes the world go round.
• If the OP's Loveliness is, as some posters can detect, actually causing them or other people problems, then the fault lies with the non-Lovely people, not the Lovely OP.
• They have failed to notice that the OP's enquiry about parking or dishtowels or the bins has no relevance to their Loveliness or lack thereof.

See also: be kind.

And one more: posters who get het up about americanisms to the point where it’s ridiculous.
OP: I think I may need to end my relationship soon due to ongoing physical and emotional abuse from H. I’m concerned about the impact it might have on my DC, one a toddler and one only in second grade: they’re both so young and I worry that the change in routine will be damaging, plus I’m terrified of my H getting custody and being alone with them. Has anyone experienced similar?
Reply: What is ‘second grade’? Are you American, OP? This is a site for UK parents.

It’s as though they can’t comprehend that people from other countries use MN, or even that American expats to the UK might have a slip of the tongue. It’s not like it matters.

Posters who put nothing but "Placemarking" on either a highly sensitive topic thread and/or one where the OP is distressed or upset.

It comes across as totally insensitive, as through they are curious/nosy to see what happens like a soap opera and that they can be bothered to write the word "Placemarking" as it will benefit their curiosity/nosiness, but can't be bothered to offer even a simple word of support or acknowledge the OP/the problem.

@Lightswitches Yes!!! Especially when it’s the very first response. You get an emotional OP and then ‘bump’ or ‘place marking’. Those are the same ones who comment a few days after anyone last posted on the thread with ‘how are you getting on, OP?’ as though they’re concerned when it’s clearly nosiness.

'Just that really'

But then go on to type a big paragraph. So it isnt 'just that', then?

Also the self-serving AIBU, finishing up with "So was IBU?" where clearly the OP is not being U in any way, shape or form and the AIBU couldn't have been more utterly reasonable and do-goodering had it been made up, ahem and the OP only wants a pile-on of praise, which amazingly many posters fall over themselves to give.

Just pat yourself on the back, those OPs, or at least be upfront about wanting praise for your actions instead of dressing it up as a query as if you genuinely doubt your own saintly actions.

I want to move from the village of Womble-on-the-wold to Scotland. I live Scotland.

Someone tell me about which schools are best

Yes, because Scotland is a homogenous mass and every city, town and village is interchangeable

I want to move from the village of Womble-on-the-wold to Scotland. I live Scotland.

Someone tell me about which schools are best

Yes, because Scotland is a homogenous mass and every city, town and village is interchangeable