To give notice to lodger after a night from hell with Police here three times

[Nutmeggy]

I have a female lodger, generally been fine, been furloughed so.goes out for lots of long walks at night and I'm high risk to being very careful and WFH.

She came in last night about midnight aftwr a walk, all fine, both went to sleep.

Woken up at 2am by violent hammering on the door and shouting, she says o it's some random guy who has been following me.

Called police as i thought she meant a stalker.

Police came round. Then it turns out he is actually a guy she has been casually hooking up with for the last few weeks that she met in a park?. She tells police he assaulted her earlier that evening.

After police go, we both go back to sleep and I think i will talk to her in the morning. Lo and behold the guy comes back at 4am hammering and shouting , call police again.

He comes back again at 7.30am again screaming that he is going to.break down the door as she has stolen from him?

I'm getting different stories from her all the time but what massively scares me is that she is meeting random hookups whilst I thought she was being as careful as me as I have underlying health issue as she knows.

WWYD

[quote Ursaminor]@TinyPigeon: "being concerned in the management of premises used for smoking cannabis".[/quote]
Yep I was thinking that too. Weird it's only cannabis that this offence applies to, rather than heavier stuff.

@FiveFootTwoEyesOfBlue

Before I'd read the rest of your post I thought it was odd enough to be going for long walks at night, especially as a single woman. Is she possibly involved in prostitution?

I’ve gone for long walks at night and I’m not a bloody prostitute!

When lockdown began, there were too many people out at “normal” times of the day to safely social distance whilst daily exercising. Therefore it was actually safer to go out at night for a walk when roads/pavements were empty. I live in a nice area so nothing untoward happened🤷🏼‍♀️ I’d rather go out to exercise at night than to have done none at all

Right, well if that is what she says she has been doing then she needs to go.

For breaking lockdown...though I suppose she could say she was in a bubble with him? Or was it going on before bubbles were allowed?

@ComeBy

Last few weeks or maybe longer hard to know but it wasn't a bubble I was aware of and I live with her!

@FiveFootTwoEyesOfBlue

Before I'd read the rest of your post I thought it was odd enough to be going for long walks at night, especially as a single woman. Is she possibly involved in prostitution?

love it! Women who walk at night are hookers! The Victorians want you back five foot

I must tell my female friends, many of who (I do too, but I have a dog, so maybe I am allowed?) have been walking at night particularly during lockdown to avoid other walkers/joggers etc and to escape the house once the children are in end.

Get her out.

She's putting you in danger, both of Covid and of violence from a possibly mentally unstable man.

Get her out.

Landlady here.

Give her formal witten notice immediately, with a date by which she must move out.

Then advertise the room and say NO DRUG TAKERS.

Whilst there’s a lot worse in the world that a bit of weed, if you have children I would ask her to think about finding somewhere else - maybe when things get back to normal a bit (she might find it hard to find somewhere else otherwise).

Either than or a simple convo to try and iron things out - stop her smoking weed around the house (if kids are about). What she does when she’s out of the house is her business.

Well that is a new one to me @Ursaminor! Thank you. And me considering myself well versed in consumption. Still a pretty unlikely charge though I think?
Apparently cannabis and opium @burnoutbabe. Maybe there is a separate offence for a crack house?

I’d first see if she needs help. I think it is heartless to kick her out just because you don’t want any trouble. Reminds me of the people peering out their windows and then shutting them and not helping me when I was screaming for help being raped in an alley. They didn’t want any trouble then either.

@PlanDeRaccordement that's a hell of a jump from OP not wanting a reckless lodger to not helping someone if they saw them being raped. I'm sorry that you went through that but you're majorly projecting.

Oh, the lodger is reckless simply because she smokes weed and takes walks after sunset. I guess she deserved to be stalked then? Was asking for it, a woman alone after dark when no respectable woman would be out?

Hi @PlanDeRaccordement
I'm sorry for your experience, the assault here was him grabbing her shoulder as she left his house as he thought she had taken something

@PlanDeRaccordement yes I think she is reckless with my health, she knows I am shielding and unknown to me she met someone last month and has been going to.his house and his friends house having sex and smoking weed.
That's her business but not in the midst of a pandemic when she is living with someone vulnerable which she knows.

Without question, get her gone as soon as humanly possible and change the locks.

I smoke weed. Nothing wrong with it. Millions of people do.

But the way she is behaving, - why is she even giving her address to weirdo strangers for them to come raging at the front door 3 times a night - tells me she is a lot weirder than your average citizen.

Give her her notice at the first opportunity. Nowhere to go? Not your circus, not your monkeys.
Be strong OP. You can do this.

Then it turns out he is actually a guy she has been casually hooking up with for the last few weeks that she met in a park

As in, what does this actually mean? Saying hello and having a quick chat? Having sex with? Going back to his place?

ComeBy - a "casual hook up" means having sex with them. It's a term that's been around for donkey's years.

@PlanDeRaccordement reckless because she was meeting randoms during lockdown and putting the OPs health at risk...

@PlanDeRaccordement well done for the amount of words you put in my mouth though 👍🏻 you were 100% incorrect in each and every one of them.

@PlanDeRaccordement well done for the amount of words you put in my mouth though 👍🏻 you were 100% incorrect in each and every one of them.

You need to protect your own health and get rid asap.

It is never unreasonable to give notice to a lodger, it is your legal right. Even if you just didnt fancy having a lodger any more you wouldnt be unreasonable. Even more so given the drama shes causing and the drug use.

I had a lodger like this once OP and got rid immediately, she'd bring this random homeless biker back to the house and I'd find him sleeping on my sofa. When I asked what the hell was going on here, this bloke was on the run from the police apparently. The secomf they went out I locked and bolted all the doors and put her stuff out on the street and informed the police.
I had a one year old baby and she brought a criminal into my house!!!

[quote baubled]@PlanDeRaccordement reckless because she was meeting randoms during lockdown and putting the OPs health at risk... [/quote]
As of last month two household could mix. And so her meeting someone was not against lockdown. If OP is shielding, she shouldn’t have lodgers. By having lodgers who did not agree to shield with her, she has accepted risk of any other household in lockdown. But nice victim blaming there. Love how the #Ibelieveher goes out the window as soon as a woman smokes weed, has a boyfriend and is outside after dark.

@PlanDeRaccordement

Lodger was here before lockdown, when lock down happened I explained I would have to shield and be very careful and was she ok with that, if she hadn't been she would have left.

So No I not accept your argument at all.