To give notice to lodger after a night from hell with Police here three times

[Nutmeggy]

I have a female lodger, generally been fine, been furloughed so.goes out for lots of long walks at night and I'm high risk to being very careful and WFH.

She came in last night about midnight aftwr a walk, all fine, both went to sleep.

Woken up at 2am by violent hammering on the door and shouting, she says o it's some random guy who has been following me.

Called police as i thought she meant a stalker.

Police came round. Then it turns out he is actually a guy she has been casually hooking up with for the last few weeks that she met in a park?. She tells police he assaulted her earlier that evening.

After police go, we both go back to sleep and I think i will talk to her in the morning. Lo and behold the guy comes back at 4am hammering and shouting , call police again.

He comes back again at 7.30am again screaming that he is going to.break down the door as she has stolen from him?

I'm getting different stories from her all the time but what massively scares me is that she is meeting random hookups whilst I thought she was being as careful as me as I have underlying health issue as she knows.

WWYD

Put your listening ears on (sorry, big fan of Judge Judy) 🤷🏻‍♀️

Everyone says ‘get rid of’....it doesn’t seem to penetrate into your skull. Does it matter what the truth is when she is causing you trouble?🤷🏻‍♀️

@Ursaminor

Also - where is she smoking weed? If it's in your house, and you know about it, you (as well as her) are guilty of a criminal offence.

Not true at all. What would the offence be fgs?

I've given 4 weeks notice, cue lots of I've done nothing wrong but I can't live with someone who flouts social distancing and brings this drama home

When the guy came round for the third time at 7.30am he put her bank card through the door, I asked her why he had it and she said he stole it from my bag and has been using it for the last week, so.many questions like why didn't you put a stop.on card and why didn't you notice but I can't get a straight answer and have had enough now

She sounds chaotic, get rid

Definitely end the arrangement - your safety can’t be compromised in your own home. Hope you’re ok

@TinyPigeon:

Under section 5(6) of the Dangerous Drugs Act 1965.

Giver her notice. She sounds like trouble.

Nobody wants that kind of thing at their door, nevermind throughout the night.

Missed your last message - WELL DONE, YOU!

You can of course end her tenancy.

If she had been assaulted as she told.police wouldn't she have been upset and mentioned it when she got home that night? people do not react to assault on a certain way. This sort of thinking is why We have such poor prosecution rates. Im not saying she isnt lying, but her reaction isnt what says that.

@MushyPeasAreTheDevilsFood

You can of course end her tenancy.

If she had been assaulted as she told.police wouldn't she have been upset and mentioned it when she got home that night? people do not react to assault on a certain way. This sort of thinking is why We have such poor prosecution rates. Im not saying she isnt lying, but her reaction isnt what says that.

This. I've been assaulted and find your assumption kind of insulting. Not everyone responds to trauma in the same way.

By all means, get rid of her, but please try to take on board what people are saying about the potential assault.

@MushyPeasAreTheDevilsFood

Yes you are right, I don't have much experience in knowing how people react

& change the locks
& put notice outside flat saying she has moved
& make sure she takes all her stuff or you will be having her come back
If you haven't done so - give her formal notice & state she must leave & take all her belongings by that date - any that remain will be disposed of immediately
(that way your covered for throwing her stuff out)

So what would the charge be @Ursaminor? That's an act not an offence?

Thanks yes have given notice in writing and spoken to her, trying to keep it civil

Yanbu it is time for her to go.

I'd keep your valuable stuff somewhere she can't readily access. Might sound harsh but there's a chance she could take something.

Yanbu to get rid. I don't know if I could live with another 4 weeks of it though.
Police 3 times in one night? She s trouble and you d be within your rights to give her less time to go.

@TinyPigeon: "being concerned in the management of premises used for smoking cannabis".

YANBU. With your health you can't risk it and she's putting your life at risk. She could kill you. She has to go straight away.

I would boot someone out for the drugs, too.

You don't have to give someone notice when they've risked your life.

When you say 'hooking up' what exactly do you mean?

@QuestionableMouse

Yes I thought that, I'm WFH at the moment so will be careful with my stuff but at least I'm here.

She have a 2 week holiday in a weeks time so I couldn't ask her to go earlier and as she pays monthly a month or 4 weeks till end.of July seemed reasonable

Then it turns out he is actually a guy she has been casually hooking up with for the last few weeks that she met in a park

As in, what does this actually mean? Saying hello and having a quick chat? Having sex with? Going back to his place?

@ComeBy

I mean going to his house or.his friends house and having sex!

Good for you. Its the lying and the flouting social distancing when she knows you're vulnerable which i find intolerable