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To ask if you are photogenic?

166 replies

PhotoFinder · 29/06/2020 20:40

I’ve had to wade into the world of selfies as I’m using dating apps and most of my ‘natural’ pics are years old.

I am confident about how I look. I do get chatted up in bars and I think I look okay in person - but I need to take a stupid amount of selfies to get one ‘decent’ one. And most of the photos my ex had taken of me looked stupid too. I struggle getting the right post and it never looks quite right.

I’m almost tempted to post a pic (obv. incredibly outing) but even if I get critique I’m not sure I can do much better! So maybe I’m just not destined to be photogenic.

Are you? Are you better looking, worse, or pretty much the same in photos?

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Neolara · 29/06/2020 22:24

I look terrible in photos. Weirdly, I think I look ok on zoom calls. Better, in fact, than I do in real life.

poupeediop · 29/06/2020 22:26

I'm photogenic which means Im a disappointment in real life!

PinkyBrain · 29/06/2020 22:27

Not in any way. I’m known for ruining any photo I’m in by blinking or gurning or generally pulling a weird face. I don’t think I’m hideous though, I take nice selfies but don’t post them because you know, it looks vain. Grin

CarrieMoonbeams · 29/06/2020 22:29

I look bloody awful in photos.

I often wonder which photo DH would be able to give to the police if I ever went missing. It'd be a tough choice between the one where I was crying at nursery, my first day at Brownies, or our wedding photos (nearly 40 years ago) because those are about the only photos in existence of me. I imagine people saying "Bloody hell, she looks young for 57!" 😂

FinallyRelief · 29/06/2020 22:32

I'm always told how I look amazing in photos - how I take a good picture - how photogenic I am - I must be bloody ugly in real life cos hardly anyone comments on my real life look!

TwoZeroTwoZero · 29/06/2020 22:32

I took a few selfies for a work thing using my nifty fifty on my "big" camera, with the screen turned so I could frame myself, and used the remote shutter release to take it when I was happy with it. In photoshop I then cleaned up the background (the paint is cracked and scuffed), brightened my eyes, softened my eyebags and gently evened out my skin tone before warming it up a little.

I'm not beautiful but neither am I ugly.

I've found that mobile phones distort my face too much so I either look like a horse or like a blob with a million chins. The lighting never works and I either look Tangoed or like I've just been dug up. The skin softener filter just makes my skin look plastic.

MaryLennoxsScowl · 29/06/2020 22:32

I also seriously hope I look like the mirror version of me and not like photo version. In photos I am Mrs Twit. However, I used to work with a girl who was honestly, not being mean, nothing special in real life - but even in candid snaps taken by other people she looked like Giselle. Her nose looked smaller and her skin clearer and her hair better - wtf? Though I suppose then she’d be less pretty in real life, but at least when she’s old she’ll have some decent photos to look back on!

poupeediop · 29/06/2020 22:32

selfies are hard though without a lot of practice, I don't take selfies. Often it's better to take the photo of your reflection though if you like selfies.

QueenBlueberries · 29/06/2020 22:33

I take a good photo, but it's learned rather than natural. Can't take a good selfie though. I look good in photos taken by other people, from a longer distance. A lot of it has to do with your best angle, which is something you can practice. Your smile as well - a mouth shut can show dimples which is lovely, a half smile is best if used when your face is angled, and a full smile if face on. I did photography in college and took lots of photos of models, and it's a learned thing.

Sometimes looking just off camera is better (look at the hand of the person taking the photo, or at the brand name on the camera). Looking straight into the lens can be intimidating.

I know it's silly, but practice!

redastherose · 29/06/2020 22:33

Like someone else said it's lighting and angles. Most flattering angle is apparently from above eye level shooting down at an angle so slightly to one side or the other. Also the lighting being warm rather than cold light helps which can be down to the background illumination.

Echobelly · 29/06/2020 22:33

I think I'm more attractive when 'animated' - I don't come over well in photos but I don't think I'm awful looking.

poupeediop · 29/06/2020 22:36

I used to do modelling & some people just look better on camera, angles help whereas some people just don't take a good photo. I know 2 very attractive women who turn heads etc but they look nothing like themselves in a photo. It's weird.

MortyFide · 29/06/2020 22:41

I'm told I am, although if DH takes a photo of me, he somehow has a knack of getting me at my very worst, fattest, ugliest, wonky-eyed, frizzy haired, triple-chinned glory.

In my own selfies, with a few tries I can normally get a semi decent one and have a conventionally attractive face shame about the body. I even look quite presentable in Teams video calls, if I don't slouch.

If a decent photographer takes ones of me, my beauty is ethereal. Wink JK, but I look bloody great in my wedding photos (magician she was, thank God), and there is a photo of me taken by another photographer at a different wedding aged 25, that I keep to remind myself of when I was a soft focus hottie.

Not now, sadly. Age, biscuits and gravity.

ChristmasCarcass · 29/06/2020 22:43

I take a terrible photo - it isn’t just the flipped image, even my DM and DH agree I look bad, and nothing like I do in real life (DH was really surprised when we started dating, exactly how different I looked in photos).

I think it is the animated face. I look fine on Zoom. Just always seem to have my eyes closed and a wonky expression on my face in pictures.

Ladywinesalot · 29/06/2020 22:44

Oh god I wish I was Confused

And I thank god ‘selfie’ were not around when I was a teen or at uni!!

PhoneLock · 29/06/2020 22:51

I think I'm more attractive when 'animated'

Like in a cartoon?

HerRoyalPain · 29/06/2020 22:54

I feel extremely photogenic, but often think my photos look nothing like me.

WinWinnieTheWay · 29/06/2020 22:56

I loathe having my photograph taken. I always look like a massive moon head, a bit like Frank Sidebottom.

Dozer · 29/06/2020 22:58

Am photogenic, it’s handy!

oliviaskies · 29/06/2020 22:59

I think I'm the opposite of most people in that I look a lot better in photos that in real life. I'm not sure why!

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 29/06/2020 23:05

Good God no I'm repulsive and I mean repulsive. I look a sea monster and on face time.
They must have had a right laugh in the Passport office at my photo. Grin
If i was on tinder there's no wa y i d be getting a shag.Grin. Met DP on a night out so all good.

SwelteringInTheHeat · 29/06/2020 23:05

I am no oil painting, but if caught in good light/with eyes open/from the right angle I can be deceptively attractive. But that's a one in a million occurrence, most of the time I look like a potato!

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 29/06/2020 23:07

It can go the other way though, can't it. Someone looks super model material on camera, but not so blessed IRL

Fishfingersandwichplease · 29/06/2020 23:14

When l was in my 20's, before camera phones were invites, l used to get told l was photogenic. Nobody has said it to me for years so think that ship has sailed!! Plus on SM when people comment you look beautiful hun blah blah, literally nobody ever says that to me😂so am going to say no l am def not!!

Fishfingersandwichplease · 29/06/2020 23:14

invented not invites