To ask about nakedness in front of dc

[Whatafustercluck]

I've always gone on the basis that as soon as your child feels uncomfortable around you being naked, you should start covering up/ closing the door when dressing or bathing. Ds is 9 and not remotely bothered but I'm starting to wonder if this is weird/ out of step with others. We don't parade around naked for no reason of course, but he will frequently see us naked getting dressed/ undressed morning/ night. How open are you with your kids and what age did that stop? I've seen some experts say that it may be inappropriate from 5 which has concerned me tbh.

[Fruitsaladjelly]

Naked is normal in our house, I’m quite happy for dc any age to see me naked or semi dressed. It’s only weird when you start making it weird. I don’t walk around naked but the kids don’t have to worry about walking in on me and it being an issue

[Jellycatfox]

You change your sanitary towels in front of you children? 😱

I do. I change nappies in front of them. I don’t show them the dirty ones because I wouldn’t show them to anyone but I change underwear in front of them so why not

[AllTheUserNamesAreTaken]

DS is 7 and he sees us naked when we are getting ready - such as in shower or getting changed. He comes in to talk to me or sits on my bed. I’m not uncomfortable with it and neither is he so i’m not going to suddenly stop him doing it.

He also walks around naked without any shyness or attempt to cover up.

I try to avoid having a bath while he is still up but only because he will want to jump in with me and wants me to play ninjas (it’s a thrilling game where you have to try to throw the plastic ninjas into a cup that the other person is holding. Take it in turns and repeat 200 times )

DS clearly understands the difference between being naked at home and in front it other people. If we need to get him changed when in public, such as before getting back in car when he’s got filthy, he doesn’t even want anyone to see his pants so we make sure to ensure his privacy then

I will keep an eye on any little sign he may no longer be as comfortable with seeing us naked at home and will then make changes

[Doyoumind]

Bluntness it's not so horrific to deal with your period in front of children. When you are a single mum with a little one in a public toilet with you or who walks into the bathroom at home you just get on with it. By not being squeamish about it I hope they won't be squeamish in the future.

[Meredithgrey1]

@20viona I wasn't criticising, just confused. I was I'd had a baby who'd slept enough in her cot (or at all in her cot) during the day for me to have had a shower

[AllTheUserNamesAreTaken]

*DS is almost 7 (in August), not 7 already

[chubbyhotchoc]

My dd6 is my shadow so she sees me in all states. I can't see that changing much until she's less of a cling on. Not my dh though.

[CodenameVillanelle]

I'm not a comfortably naked person and I've been modest in front of DS since he was about 3/4. He's also quite modest and doesn't like anyone to see him naked BUT he doesn't care about being naked in front of me. I never deliberately put myself in a position where I'd see him naked but if he's forgotten his towel for example he will walk out of the bathroom naked or he'll get his pyjamas on with his door open, and he's 11. I'm surprised he's so relaxed about it as He isn't with anyone else and I'm definitely not! But I'm not going to make a thing about it either way.

[crispysausagerolls]

As per usual, there is a middle ground that’s appropriate.

It’s clearly unnecessary (and I think pretty odd) for people to be waltzing around their homes in the nude. Sitting on sofas naked etc. What the hell is that about? It’s also very bizarre to feel the need to hide yourself from a 1-2 year old! I’m still BF and my 2 year old finds my nipples a huge source of amusement.

It makes sense when you have to change in the morning/evening or after a shower and your children are of an age where they are constantly around. If they get older and KNOW that’s what you’re doing and want to come into the room, fine. But my mother would frequently be naked as I developed into a teenager/not respect my personal boundaries or need to privacy and, although I could never tell her, it was deeply upsetting and embarrassing for me. I didn’t want to see my mother naked and I certainly didn’t want her to see me naked.

I reject the idea that you can’t teach children not to be naked/report nakedness in others though; it’s a pretty clear stranger danger lesson they can learn, whether you are naked at home
Or not.

[BadAlice]

@20viona But what is so inherently shameful about your body that a literal baby should be shielded from it? Your body made and birthed her. Is she/was she breastfed?

[Hoppinggreen]

DS is 11 and will happily be naked and see us naked, although when he gets into bed with me for a cuddle he prefers me to be wearing something. He did used to be a bit too happy naked but as he’s getting older we’ve managed to get him to cover up a bit more. Once when DD was about 11 and DS 6 she had a friend staying the friend was cleaning her teeth and DS walked into the bathroom naked and sat on the loo naked for a chat!
Dd doesn’t like it and hasn’t since she was around 7 or 8 so we respect her wishes to a certain extent - we don’t walk around naked but if we are getting out of the shower or going to the loo from the bedroom we probably don’t cover up
It’s what everyone is comfortable with really

[midnightstar66]

No one wants to see their parents genitalia, pubes or breasts. End of.

Then they need to stop coming in to the bathroom while I'm in the shower to ask me random shit. Or in to the bedroom while they know I'm getting changed.

[greentreesdream]

Hopping, I would really be uncomfortable about sending my child to that house again.

That poor girl must have been mortified, and don’t you listen to your DD?

[thebabessavedme]

I see no harm in children seeing their parents naked however, we now have our dgs to stay overnight, dh and I both sleep naked but will wear nightclothes when he is with us as he like to get in our bed in the morning, he is not our child and somehow it just doesn,t feel 'right' for his to be with naked grandparents - I did have to take in the cubicle with me when he was potty training, that was great 'oh yeah nana, good girl, that was a really big wee' followed by loud clapping

[Branleuse]

We are not nudists but I dont care if my children see me naked after a shower and i dont mind dressing in front of them as long as they give me privacy if I ask. Most of my kids are quite private about their bodies once they hit puberty

[IStandByJKR]

I'm so sad about all the judgement against naked bodies in our society. They're just bodies. Everybody has one. Naked bodies aren't inherently sexual or gross or rude. I think it's far more harmful to children to learn that their parents don't want to be seen naked than it is harmful to them to see normal, maybe a bit tired/saggy/hairy bodies that are not in the porn that they sadly will see before too long and every photoshopped image of a model or celebrity ever

[EnthusiasmIsDisturbed]

Ds still sees me bakes at times like if he has walked into my room

He is 12 and likes his privacy and has for about a year which I completely respect always knock on his door etc

I do at times tell him I want privacy but he isn’t in the slightest bit bothered about seeing me naked and I would rather it be that way

[midnightstar66]

You change your sanitary towels in front of you children? 😱

How would you do it when out and about in public with young dc if not in front of Them

I mean I'm Still on maternity leave and my daughter still has 2 1.5 hour naps a day so there is ample time to Shower and get dressed. When she was tiny she slept 90% of the day!

You are incredibly fortunate, mine slept around 10% of the time and 2 1.5 hour naps was never a thing. I used to bath with my babies regularly though, I don't know anyone that doesn't do that actually. I honestly can't imagine the logistics of not being naked in front of a baby. Breastfeeding. Having to wait til baby is asleep to simply get dressed? Bizarre!

[EnthusiasmIsDisturbed]

Naked

I don’t bake in the nude ....

[20viona]

@badalice no breastfeeding. There's absolutely nothing shameful about my body in fact I'm in bloody brilliant shape, just don't walk round with my tits out.

[LockdownLoppy]

We are a family who is relaxed about nakedness! DD (15) will wander in to chat with me or DH when we are in the bath or changing, bodies are bodies and I want my kids to be comfortable in their own skin.

[ludothedog]

I'm in bed now, naked, and DD has joined me in bed. I'll get up in a minute and put my house coat on. If she doesn't want to see me naked she doesn't have climb in my bed! (She is 10).

And yes she has seen me change sanitary towels. as a single parent there hasn't always been the option of leaving her outside the toilet when I get changed

[20viona]

@midnightstar66 well myself and all my friends must be fortunate then cuz all our babies sleep during the day. And even if they aren't asleep they can sit in the cot for 60 seconds playing while I get changed.

[snowybean]

I'll cross that bridge when I get to it (DD is 6mo) but I don't mind being naked, nor do I mind other people seeing me naked (not in a sexual way, I mean just getting changed!). I guess you could say I take a fairly Scandinavian approach when it comes to nudity.

[rosydreams]

in my family generally only naked around the same gender .When our daughter was 2 my other half covered up in front of her.She has never been bothered by my nudity so i never covered up around her