I just can't

[Notupforit]

I posted a few days ago about not wanting to go to a waterpark for my sister's birthday because I hate my post-baby body. We ended up going and had a nice time - except that I look back at all the photos and I look so disgusting that I just want to cry. I've realised that my breasts are by far the biggest problem. They're huge and saggy and I HATE them. I've attached a picture that my husband (who is also, apparently, the world's most incompetent photographer) took on the day so you can see what I mean. Believe it or not, I actually have a waist underneath the giant sagging balls of fat hanging off my body.
Now my husband has arranged for us to see his best friend and his fiancée tomorrow. She's obviously gorgeous and slim. They're very friendly but every single time we see them, he comments on my weight. He's very into fitness so he's not really even speaking from an aesthetic perspective and he'd say exactly the same thing to men and women so it's nothing perverted or sexual. In the context, he's definitely not being out of line or rude. It just means that I know he'll acknowledge and notice how fat and hideous I look.
I don't want anyone to see me but I can't just never leave the house. I just don't know what to do.

[SillyCow6]

I think you look amazing, and I am not just saying it to make you feel better. I literally pray to look like you, every evening.

You can say this man is nice as much as you want, but anyone who comments on someone's weight in these circumstances is an ars*hat. If he were your partner or parent/sibling and it was approached carefully and only to motivate you or offer you practical and WANTED help, then thats different. But this guy has mentioned every time he meets you. He isnt half as nice as either of you think.

Have a day at home to rest of make yourself feel good, avoid the pratt and his comments. How dare he

[Imissmoominmama]

You have a lovely body. You are clearly still youthful and have gorgeous skin too.

Sometimes people who are very into fitness become blinkered to the fact that there’s more to life. Don’t be sucked in by that.

[skippy67]

And I'm guessing you won't be wearing a swimsuit tomorrow??

[welcometohell]

So what if OP is "fishing for compliments"? If someone feels the need to upload a photo of themselves to MN for validation surely that tells you they're struggling.

[Redcrayons]

Get a proper bra size swimming costume, will make a massive Difference.

In the context, he's definitely not being out of line or rude. It just means that I know he'll acknowledge and notice how fat and hideous I look

Unasked for, negative comments about your weight or appearance is rude. Doesn’t matter if he says to a man or woman, it’s still rude.

[Welshmaenad]

You have a lovely figure OP.

The only time I find it appropriate for anyone to comment on my weight is if I'm sitting on their face. If your DH's twatty friend starts up, you should just tell him that.

[formerbabe]

You have a nice figure. Honestly. You just need a swimsuit with underwriters cups.

[Redleathertrousers]

I think you look great OP.

[formerbabe]

Underwired obviously not underwriters

[starfish18]

Omg Hun u have a lovely figure...I'm self conscious to since having our little boy...I do the same as u and wear a swim suit but with more fitted cups...I tend to get mine from next or figleaves even thou there's are expensive xx

[Stonerosie67]

I agree with the others. You look fab, and your husband's friend is a complete wanker. Tell him to fuck off if he starts.
I'm a 36HH and Bravissimo swimsuits and bikinis are fantastic...I was always self-conscious in swimwear till I found them. They're a bit expensive, but last for years.

[wildcherries]

A proper swimsuit does wonders. But this isn't netmums, and there are enough people showering you with compliments. Just go.

[burritofan]

I was expecting Quasimodo; you're a babe! Love yourself, hard.

Your husband's friend is a pillock and you look wonderful.

[Awwlookatmybabyspider]

Another reason why I don't get why people post pics of themselves in here is.
Let's face it no one is ever going to give an honest opinion. Even if op was beyond repulsive and she knows quite well she's not. No one is going to come on here and call anyone a sea monster, are they. I know there are heartless cunts out there, but that takes the piss.

[Studycast]

So glad you had a great time at the water park! Your sister will have been so happy you were there.

Oh please, please, please don't call yourself disgusting op. I am looking at your photo objectively and to me you look lovely AND you have just had a baby fhs!

I have big norks and Figleaves have great swimsuits that hoik everything up if you want to. But imho you look fine just as you are!

Dont give your friend's dh a second thought. He sounds extremely discourteous and superficial to me.

[LudaMusser]

My DP would go berserk if somebody/anybody mentioned my weight. This guy needs speaking to

[poppyfieldsinmay]

This brought home to me just how much women are conditioned to hate their bodies - I am slim - size 6 (though short, so not like a supermodel or anything), but I looked at you and thought - fuck me, I wish i Iooked like that!

[Notthetoothfairy]

Nothing wrong with you, it’s just that the swimsuit is a bit low cut. I wouldn’t meet up with someone who makes rude comments about my weight or anything else about me (you should just feel sorry for his fiancée in case she ever puts on weight).

[Yorkiee]

I remember your previous thread :) just had a look at photo and think you look great!

[TheGoldenChild]

@Awwlookatmybabyspider that was a bit mean. What was the point in your comment?

[NoIDontWatchLoveIsland]

Ps given what you have said about your height etc, you may get a better fit with an underwired tankini rather than a one piece.

Sorry if it's not affordable right now, but spending a bit more can sometimes get you something much more flattering. DH bought me a sea folly bikini for our honeymoon and I looked and felt brilliant.

[Awwlookatmybabyspider]

Well you know what they say about opinions, @TheGoldenChild

[0Muggle0]

Your figure is amazing. I can't tell you how delighted I'd be to have anywhere near as lovely figure and boobs as you.

[Wolfie11]

You look amazing, I would kill for your boobs! I have tiny boobs and I absolutely hate them. You have a cracking figure!

[Akea]

lool...when I opened the thread I first looked at the photo before reading the text and I thought you just wanted to brag about how you look (not saying it in a bad way)
You look great!