I just can't

[Notupforit]

I posted a few days ago about not wanting to go to a waterpark for my sister's birthday because I hate my post-baby body. We ended up going and had a nice time - except that I look back at all the photos and I look so disgusting that I just want to cry. I've realised that my breasts are by far the biggest problem. They're huge and saggy and I HATE them. I've attached a picture that my husband (who is also, apparently, the world's most incompetent photographer) took on the day so you can see what I mean. Believe it or not, I actually have a waist underneath the giant sagging balls of fat hanging off my body.
Now my husband has arranged for us to see his best friend and his fiancée tomorrow. She's obviously gorgeous and slim. They're very friendly but every single time we see them, he comments on my weight. He's very into fitness so he's not really even speaking from an aesthetic perspective and he'd say exactly the same thing to men and women so it's nothing perverted or sexual. In the context, he's definitely not being out of line or rude. It just means that I know he'll acknowledge and notice how fat and hideous I look.
I don't want anyone to see me but I can't just never leave the house. I just don't know what to do.

[MagnoliaJustice]

[quote CreditCrackers]**@Crunchymum* @MagnoliaJustice* I went here www.cotswoldcountryparkandbeach.com/[/quote]
Oh that looks lovely, thank you. I thought everywhere was still Covid closed.

[CreditCrackers]

@Crunchymum @MagnoliaJustice I went here www.cotswoldcountryparkandbeach.com/

[PinkyBrain]

You look lovely op, you’d benefit from a bit of swimsuit scaffolding but wouldn’t we all! Don’t worry about your DH’s friend, fitness is his career so he’s coming at it from an entirely different perspective. Different is not better, you are gorgeous and voluptuous and natural.

[MrsDrudge]

I think your figure is great - but as other posters have said you might feel more confident in a swimsuit with more support.
Your husbands friend sounds horrible. Can you avoid meeting up? Is your husband supportive when his rude and ignorant friend comments on your appearance?
And remind the rude friend that your body has conceived, grown, nurtured, given birth to and feeds a new human being - you have a strong , wonderful, miraculous body capable of doing all this. Be proud of it, you look beautiful!!

[Scarlettpixie]

You look great and with a supportive/underwired cossie would feel so much better. Nothing wrong with big boobs, they just need a bit of support.

Your husbands friend is a dick btw.

[MagnoliaJustice]

@CreditCrackers

Outdoor waterparks are very much open.

Not in the part of the UK where I live, they're not.
Where are they open?
I would love to go to a waterpark for a day out, especially on a gloriously sunny day.

[IwishIhadaMargarita]

I’ll swap, I’m actually fat unlike you. Also say to friend ‘my weight is not your business unless I’m sitting on your face!’

[Crunchymum]

@CreditCrackers

Where?

[CreditCrackers]

Outdoor waterparks are very much open.

[PolloDePrimavera]

Water places are closed in the UK.

[BIWI]

Where are you that you're allowed to go to a waterpark? I thought places like that were all closed because of Covid?

[XingMing]

You have a lovely figure... but agree with all the comments suggesting a better-fitting swimsuit, if that's what you will be wearing. Or a bikini, because your physique looks great and it is often easier to buy separates than a cozzie.

And if you can afford to, it would be a good time to keep your breasts beautiful by buying them a nice, pretty, everyday supportive bra or two.

Looking great is the greatest retaliation.

[SundayGirl86]

You look amazing and your husband’s friend is a rude, ill mannered idiot.

[ItsNotAGameOfSubbuteoMatthew]

Honestly if I didn't think anything nice I would scroll on and not comment (something more posters should do sometimes 🙄) You look fabulous! Honestly. Yes I can see what you mean because they are large but I definitely wouldn't think what you think if I saw them straight off. They're a nice shape and nothing Bravissimo couldn't provide a nice shelf for. Mine are snooker balls in pockets and Bravissimo made me like them again.

[GeorgiaWeLoveYou]

OP, your body is amazing. I would say try some different bikins/swimming costumes though for a bit more support (will be easier when you're allowed to try on in shops again).

This 'friend' of your DH's is rude and his behaviour is unacceptable. Cannot believe that his wife thinks it's okay for him to comment on someone's weight...let alone your DH thinking that's okay. Not acceptable at all and you should tell your DH that you don't want to see that man again.

[Crownduals]

@SpillTheTeaa

Fishing for compliments. I'm not throwing you any bouquets. You don't need them. If you have the courage to upload a photo to a world wide site you're not lacking in confidence one little bit.

This. Literally read the OP and my eyes nearly got stuck at the back of my head.

I’m glad someone else posted this.
You have a great body .
Have some confidence and stop caring what people think

[monkeyonthetable]

OP

1. You look bloody gorgeous in that picture. Curvy in a good way not in a way that really means fat.
   
2. Please don't hate your body. DH is currently putting together a photo book for DC. It has loads of photos of me when DC were young. I was so slim. I looked great. At the time I thought I looked fat. I'd love to be that size again.
   3.) Tell your DH's mate that you've had a baby. It changes your shape. You are a person not a machine and your priority is being a mother not a gym bunny right now. You are confident you have your priorities right. If he starts advising you on fitness, tell him he needs some help with social etiquette. If he'd like you to, you can be his advisor.

[tara66]

Oh dear, that means I can't go out.

[missmouse101]

OP, I'd be so happy if I looked like you. You look absolutely great and I have no idea why you think you look so bad?

[Quarantimespringclean]

I read something somewhere that when you are 40,you,will,look back on the weight you were when you first started to diet and realise you were prefect. I’m nearly 60 and know the truth of this for myself and one day you will too.

You have a beautiful figure and anyone trying to undermine you is doing it for their own reasons. It is nothing to do with your wonderful body shape.

[Ceebs85]

You need some high waisted bikini bottoms and a supportive bikini top, doesn't have to be underwired. Look at that figure, your waist, show it off!

[Iggii]

so people coming on and saying she has a body others would dream of, as if she is Gisele or Beyonce, are patronising to the OP -she is not stupid
That's not what that phrase means though is it, it's not like saying "ooh you look like a model" it is absolutely true that many women envy other women's bodies when the woman being envied is probably quite down on her own body... etc etc.
I would likely envy the bodies belonging to 70% of posters on this thread, doesn't mean any of you look like Beyonce.

[snowybean]

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Haha, but seriously, just keep shopping until you find a comfortable and supportive swimming costume! You look fine, OP. And tell that bloke to bugger off 💁🏼‍♀️

[AnnaSW1]

I think you just need a swimsuit that's longer on the body

[thenightsky]

You are a very similar shape to me. That cossie looks too short in the body and its dragging you down. I've started going for bravissimo tankinis which are much more flattering.