To be fucking sick of these kids?

[Smashtastic]

I swear I am on the edge of having a breakdown.
I am an introvert and I need to be ALONE. I have not been alone for four months. Not once.

They whine, they squeel, the beat each other up and scream, they cry constantly, they hate everything I suggest and tantrum over going for walks (that I suggest so that I can try to get some personal physical space away from them)

I cannot cope with this anymore. I don't want to. Right now I regret having children. I could seriously out them in the car and dump them somewhere.

Please tell me I am not alone?

[Handsoffisback]

Based on his previous conduct with the paddling pool I’d be genuinely worried he’d leave them in there when you went out OP. What a horrible position to be in

[Newjez]

I go out on my bike and it is just me. Ahhhh.

[istheresomethingishouldknow]

Your H should be on kid duty during your working hours.

Can you pack up your laptop and work stuff and work from your mum's house and tell him to suck it up and parent his kids?

[nooneisright]

I am like you OP, a natural introvert, but dc are a couple of years older, makes all the difference, and are also natural introverts so we have had a lovely lockdown! Sorry, not much use to you though, useless advice on my part really..

[GiraffesAreBeautiful]

Absolutely normal reaction. I feel this way too. My only respite is the weekly shopping.

I want my house back. I want to walk into every room without an apology and I want to walk the dog without the interruption of a phone call to ask when I’ll be back/can I have pizza for lunch/can you go to the shop and buy pringles ...

I want to hoover without having to check DH’s wfh zoom calls.

I want to pop out to the local shop for milk without queuing and wondering if the two loaves I left at home have been toasted and eaten in the time since I left home.

I just want this feckin CV to have been a bad dream and my brats haven’t become Fortnite addicts.

[DuvetDay1212]

@Chesneyhawkes1 I've heard that dogs keep an eye on each other when one is doing the toilet as that's when they are at their most vulnerable. So your dogs must see you as one of their pack and is making sure nothing attacks you while you are on the toilet, at your most vulnerable 😂


OP I do agree with other posters that you need to basically tear your husband a new one. He needs to step up, take care of his kids and be there for you when you need him. Do the kids have tablets? Put Minecraft or Roblox on, they could play Roblox together.

[Disfordarkchocolate]

I am thankful many times a day I only have one child at home and he's a good lad.

More than one and/or still needing entertaining and I'd have ran away by now.

You have all my sympathy and a virtual hug. Is there anyone you can ring who will understand?

[FizzFan]

Your partner is a dickhead.

Can you stay overnight at your mum’s? Get a nice bath, an early night and come back the next morning ?

[greenflamingo]

Solidarity! It’s HARD. Your husband needs a sharp kick to the balls and you need a day to your self. x

[Orangeblossom78]

or for the week

[Nquartz]

I agree with PO that you should work from your mum's house if possible, it would force your H to step up and actual parent.

[magicmallow]

Also OP, why are you with this man if he's so useless and unhelpful? Does he have redeeming features?

[crackofdoom]

All the feels, OP . Coronavirus has shown just how much our society takes the unpaid labour of mothers for granted, and it fucking sucks.

I am (marginally) better off than you, because as a single parent I at least have a precious free weekend every fortnight, even if, until v. recently, I had to spend half of it working, because I had no other time to do so (and God forbid ex step up to help out in this unprecedented crisis - he has a Very Important Job, don't you know- just emphasising how Really Fucking Unimportant my job is in his eyes, and those of society- thanks for that ).

The massive thing I did do that helped was to have a colossal meltdown a few weeks ago, tell the school I couldn't cope- and, after much to-ing and fro-ing, they were offered a school place 2 days a week. In addition, DS2 will be back in Reception one whole morning a week from next week . So, don't be afraid to chuck your toys out of the pram- if you can't cope, you can't.

[Chesneyhawkes1]

@DuvetDay1212 ah that's made me re think the whole thing now.

They are taking care of me. Never mind the fact that if I use the small en-suite loo, 3 of them and me stuffed in there is a bit of a tight squeeze 😂😂

[gluteustothemaximus]

I have 3 kids but I do have a partner who does equal share. However, things are still tough, and my 4 year old and 9 year old have both got cheap kindle tablets and play Minecraft together.

Yep, it's not ideal, but they are happy and we get a small break before it all kicks off again.

Your DH seriously needs to step the fuck up.

[Starlightstarbright1]

I can now go on a bubble as a Lp however i would just love to be alone completely alone..

I took a couple of days off work that just gave me and DS to regroup.. he is a young teen so able to be more reasonable some says

[WearyandBleary]

Separate. You will get half the week entirely alone.

I did it. It’s fucking brilliant.

Your husband is useless anyway.

[HidingFromDD]

go to your mum's to work and leave him in charge of the kids....

[FrenchBoule]

OP, I have 2 boys similar age. They are like dogs and need to be walked every day.

The lockdown turned everybody’s life upside down, not anybody’s fault but we need to deal with it.

Your DH needs the swift kick between his legs to take his parental responsibilities on as these are also his kids.

Take them every day and let them run/climb trees/ ride the bikes/whatever.If you take them out tell your DH to get cracking with whatever needs to be done.They need some physical activity.

I’ve been with my kids since March and slowly they are doing my nutting.I love them very much but I’d give an arm and leg for some peace.

DH is furloughed, I’m still working.I take the boys out, he runs the hoover round and unloads the dishwasher yada yada.He’s also in chage of homeschooling.

We juggle kids/homework/schooling between us. I also told him I need some time to myself so he takes our ASD son upstairs in the evening so I could have an hour or so peace (which he has when I take the boys out).

It’s impossible to do everything on your own.
Speak to your DH and tell him you need his help.

[GarlicMcAtackney]

Why weary said.
If you unburdened yourself from the specimen you chose to marry and produce kids with, your life would be hugely easier. The shit man would have to parent the people he created 50% of the time. And as a bonus, he wouldn’t be in your home. Win/win.

[GarlicMcAtackney]

*what

[MrPickles73]

I feel your pain, my situation is not a million miles from yours... Luckily our school has opened up and the kids have returned to school. Hurrah! I have been working 40 hours per week all through lockdown but atleast I'm not trying to homeschool at the same time now! DH also hopeless with the kids...

[GarlicMcAtackney]

What do you mean he’s ‘hopeless’?! So you knew he was a shit excuse of a parent and saw fit to get impregnated by him again? Or it was a whole new revelation after no.2 was produced? Either way, what a dreadful standard to show the kids what’s ‘normal’. The pandemic means a lot of people are home more than usual, so these failures of ‘fathers’ are openly showing you(plural) their contempt for you and the kids they forced into existence. How can you tolerate it? Grim.

[Iflyaway]

It’s impossible to do everything on your own.

No it's not actually. That's why I am a single mum.

Great for those of you who have a man who steps up. If not, why have a man-child hanging on?

Trouble is, society still tells us we need a man to become "whole".
Reading most threads on here tells you it is bullshit.

No-one's life is a fairy story. You make of it what you will. And that means you can do it alone too.

[YourWinter]

The kids aren't the problem here, their father is a very big problem and needs to massively grow up, step up, SHOW up as a parent and bloody take responsibility. Don't blame the little ones, it's not their fault their father is so incompetent and uninvolved.