To be fucking sick of these kids?

[Smashtastic]

I swear I am on the edge of having a breakdown.
I am an introvert and I need to be ALONE. I have not been alone for four months. Not once.

They whine, they squeel, the beat each other up and scream, they cry constantly, they hate everything I suggest and tantrum over going for walks (that I suggest so that I can try to get some personal physical space away from them)

I cannot cope with this anymore. I don't want to. Right now I regret having children. I could seriously out them in the car and dump them somewhere.

Please tell me I am not alone?

Yup same here - no break from it since March and their school deciding to stay shut now u TIL September. Husband fucks off to his office on the house to do work (and sit reading Twitter) whilst I’ve been left with three screaming kids one with additional needs. I’ve lost the plot.

If you have bubbled with your mum, could you base yourself round at hers to work at a time when he isn't working so he had the kids at home? Not alone but away from the kids

Oh god OP I hear you. I have been so on edge with DD (12yo) for so long now, because she just.cannot.leave.me.alone. Ny concentration is so completely shot that I can't even open my emails any more because I just can't focus on work and am scared I'm going to delete something important. It's the incessant nature of it all that is grinding me down so much - but at least I'm on my own, so don't have the added resentment of a supposed 'D'P not pulling their weight.

FGS, get out of the house for a minimum of two hours on your own. I am honestly counting down the minutes until DD goes to bed. At which point teenage DS will appear and ask me what food we've got for him to eat.

The weird thing is, if they just gave me ten minutes peace, I would be calmer, more reasonable, more able to to cope. I feel as though I endlessly have someone yanking at my sleeve. Add in the heat, and I think we're all at a tipping point

@Smashtastic 😂 I'm not sure I could cope. Can I start with 2 weeks? As the novelty won't wear off then.

Do they respond well to bribery with sweets and toys???

Have you tried audio books? I’ve got a 6 month old, 6 and 8 year old. When I need quiet I’ll put on an audio book and they will actually sit and be quiet to listen. The older two kids at least. The baby is very happy and sweet so I don’t need to quiet her. But sometimes the older two can be a bit much.

I understand, I feel the same.

I hear ya! My two little fuckers are back to nursery next Thursday and I'm counting down the days. I often regret becoming a parent because I'm really not cut out for under threes. I'm hoping it gets better.

I think leaving them alone with him whilst you work from home upstairs is less of a test and you'll only be paranoid in the same house.

Leave the house. Leave the kids with him.
He has to buck up at some time and he wont do that whilst you're around.

Your DH sounds useless which isn't your children's fault. You need to have a chat about how you're feeling and he needs to step up.

I know it's not the same as being alone but can't you divide them up. One whinging child is easier to bear than two whinging fighting children.

I'm hoping it gets better.

It really, really does.

Only - watch out for pandemics, those things are bastard and screw everything up.

Yep. 4 year old and seven year old and my background noise is screaming. That’s the soundtrack to my life. It’s torture. I hate Coronavirus so much.

Sorry ! It’s your arsehole partner OP

He is on FURLOUGH
Bitch needs to be home educating and cooking and cleaning When you work

Kids will be picking up your understandable rage OP

9 and 4, I'm getting shot of one to school next week, I'm at the end of my tether and the summer holidays are looming large. Im alternating between feeling really guilty that I'm sending one, extra exposure etc etc and really fucking ecstatic that there will be 5.5 hrs of no bickering, fighting, whining, 'he punched me', 'he kicked me', 'he looked at me'. I can't take it any longer!

Your wanker husband is the problem. The DC just sound bored. Have a serious chat woth your WH.

Its you you or them its him.

They have another available parent. He is not pulling his weight and you are cracking under the strain. What sort of husband and father is he to allow that to happen?

OP you are coping so well. Get rid of the dead wood you will feel much better

I'm sure you are not unusual. I don't know how I would have coped with lockdown had there been young children around.

It's nearly over now, so we are told, so you can hang on a bit longer.

how old are they? Can i recommend computer games / console? I'm a single parent and introvert and since my son discovered minecraft it's been a massive help.

What an arsehole. Does he not realise you are jeopardising your job so he can sit on his arse?

I'm with you OP, single parent to 11 and 8 year olds, both with additional needs. Any time I leave a room I'm followed by a constant wail of he kicked me/she pushed me/I hate you/stupid fucking bitch until I want to put them both out with the bins. If I didn't go to work 4 days a week I probably would have, hats off to you wfh as well. TBH your H sounds worse than useless, if you're wfh and he works pt weekends why the fuck is all the child wrangling down to you? Must be like having another annoying child

Another small thing you could do is to go to bed super early and have mornings to yourself (get up super early) to get your head together, do some work quietly and regroup before kids get up. Not ideal but may help a lot. Make sure you leave the house when things get on top of you, for a walk. it somehow refreshes everyone a bit.

3 ds here: 4,7,9. I’m too exhausted to type properly but I feel your pain. Hang in there. We’re all struggling and you’re not alone. Lower your expectations and believe things will get easier. They will.
(But... I’ll have a massive breakdown if they don’t go back in September- it’s the only thing keeping me going).

Take up running, that buys you some alone time everyday. Also I never knew how much a trip to the supermarket could feel like a holiday! I drag it out extra long by sitting in silence in the car!
I have also started doing like obstacle courses for the kids to do to get some pent up energy out....things like bounce the ball ten times, throw to each other ten times, 20 star jumps, you get the idea. They can do this on their own in the back garden (whilst I watch from washing up!).
Set them mini challenges too. My 5 year old had suffered my decided she can’t go to the loo on her own. So now when she asks me I say I’ll time her, and off she runs. Little things like that make it more bearable!
If not, lots of gin! X

Aw I so hear you I cry every night as my house is the same my three kids are always fighting even if one of them looks at the other they fight and I'm on my own doesn't help that my 8 year old doesn't sleep at all just now I'm lucky if she'll go to sleep at 4 in the morning so I only get 3 hours sleep a night

That was meant to say my 5 year old has now decided, she’s definitely not suffering 🤣

I sympathise with you OP.

5 minutes in the company of children is enough to send me running for the exits, and I'm childless. I can't imagine what it must be like for adults cooped up with them for months on end.