DH says our DS4 will be bullied and it’s all my fault

[Babylifewife]

DS is 4. He has a severe expressive and receptive language delay; as such he finds it very difficult to make and hold friendships beyond rough and tumble, running around, giggling, toy sharing etc, which isn’t enough at this age. He is starting school in September and I’m so worried that he will be excluded socially, as well as falling behind because he won’t be able to follow what the teacher says.
He is also a total mummy’s boy. He asks for cuddles all the time, he kisses me spontaneously, he tells me he loves me and he cosies up to me. He’s very apathetic towards DH. DH tells me tonight that he ‘will have the S* kicked out of him because of you (i.e. me) because you have made him soft and he will be crying for his mummy like a wuss’. So, I’m being blamed here for any impending bullying which I’m already fearing. It’s unfair and wrong isn’t it, motherly love and affection doesn’t turn a child into a bullying victim?

DGD has severe cerebral palsy and is non verbal. The children in her primary school were beyond lovely and caring for her.

You husband is a shit. Other little kids are generally lovely.

Your husband is an idiot

I've been a reception and year 1 teacher for many years.

And TBH, it's the kids with additional needs that are the most loved and cared for by their classmates. Even at 4/5, they'll adapt games, go slower, speak more directly, to make games accessible for all.
The little ones are far more receptive and supportive towards difference than we give them credit for. They are naturally better at it than many adults I know!

He won't be bullied, I promise you. He might not make that "little friend" right away, but please don't worry. Accept all invitations to birthdays, a play after school, a trip to the park, and offer invitations to the kids your little one names as playmates, and it'll all fall into place eventually.

My 12 year old ds still comes for kisses and cuddles from me and his dad. He wasn't ever bullied. Most children are affectionate with their parents. Other children won't think he is any different for doing this.

Absolutely not!! Don't lose out on that lovely age and all the affection because your husband is a dickhead, you will regret it if you do. He sounds jealous of your relationship with each other. My (now 16 year old) was my shadow at that age and he never got bullied in later years and I still get lots of cuddles from him

My son is 8 and still just as affectionate as your little boy.

He’s also very popular at school, as are my older boys who had speech delay and as a consequence are still behind.

Your DH has some major baggage he needs to unpack about masculinity.

Sorry, I posted my last comment on the wrong post. I've asked for it to be deleted.