Really dark thoughts before period

[Littleblackdress04]

Does anyone else get this? It’s got loads and loads worse the older I have got- I am 47 and some months I am almost suicidal in my thinking, feel like no one cares about me etc. Even though I can rationalise in my mind that it’s probably PMS, I can’t seem to control it and feel myself spiralling downhill in the days before my period.

Aibu to think it’s linked to age? Perimenopause? It’s definitely worse than it’s ever been at the moment

I feel like this too! Usually it starts a week before my period arrives. I’m only 30 so it can’t be a premenopausal issue.

What a helpful thread. And how scary it affects so many women and it isnt well known. Ive been tracking my own cycles this past year as i noticed my mood was crashing and i felt hopeless and did start to wonder if it was cyclical. The worst was telling my husband last year i wanted to pick up the kitchen knife and plunge it into my chest. Sometimes driving into work ive thought about carrying on, Abandoning the car and disappearing. Im 41.

Even when young and not peri the hormone shifts before period starts can make you feel rough. Some good advice on the pill above and many who have the mirena coil say it helps them (though some have other issues with that).

I'd love to hear more from people who've taken 5HTP, especially if that's the only change they've made. Do you take it every day? Am thinking of buying some online.

@LightenUpSummer

I'd love to hear more from people who've taken 5HTP, especially if that's the only change they've made. Do you take it every day? Am thinking of buying some online.

Made no difference to me at all unfortunately.

Oh no that's a shame. Well I've saved £15 anyway...

Aww, don't let that stop you, I was having other health problems at the time and nothing helped me until I sorted out the other stuff.

I have this as a symptom of PMDD.

@LightenUpSummer

I'd love to hear more from people who've taken 5HTP, especially if that's the only change they've made. Do you take it every day? Am thinking of buying some online.

I'm taking progesterone, magnesium, vitamind3 and 5htp. Perfectly possible it's the combo that's making me feel better. I'm just relieved.

Thanks to this thread I've plucked up my courage to ring the GP. She was lovely and prescribed me cyclical Prozac to try. Fingers crossed!

So glad I clicked on this threat. I’ve just gone on AD after a build up of rage had me yell at my son last week. I’m not a yeller and while he had pushed me hard and long for me to get to that point it scared me. I became a snarling beast woman... frothing at the mouth. Then I was hit with a horrendous downward spiral of self-loathing and guilt. Thinking he deserved better than me. That no one would care if I disappeared. Horrible stuff.

The ADs hadn’t had time to work by the time I came on but it’s like once I did get my period all the nasty emotions drained out of me. Thought it must be a placebo effect but maybe it was hormonal. I never even thought I really suffered PMS but maybe I just wasn’t paying enough attention to the timing of the downward spiral.

I was on the pill for a long time and never had an issue. I’m 42 now and this sudden rage is a relatively new thing. I’ll be monitoring my cycle much more carefully from now on!

@anxietyaunt I think that's what scared me too, it was how differently I feel from my normal self. Got the feeling now, but hopefully the drugs will work and not too much more of this. Hope work for yiu too.